K. I am in the same boat as you. My family always did Xmas Eve and then Xmas day we stayed home, but now with my husband here is our schedule for the past four years:
Thanksgiving Day: Morning at his moms side 1.5 hours a way, then lunch/dinner at my familys back by our area.
Sunday after Thanksgiving: Lunch with his dads side 2 hours away
Xmas Eve: brunch with my dad downtown 20 minutes away, then dinner at my aunts 30 minutes away.
Xmas Day: Quick open gifts at our home with our daughter, leave by 9am to go 1.5 hours to his moms side, then back to his parents house, then 1hour to his dads side before we drive the 2 hours home that night.
New Years Eve: Host my mom and her bf for dinner
Ugh. . . I dread the holidays! I am now 3 months preggo with #2 and next xmas I just cannot imagine having to do all this with two kids---I am having panic attacks just thinking about it! It is really hard to cut something out, because then it feels like we are playing favorites and we want to see everyone. My true wish is that we could just stay home for xmas day like when I was a kid, but it doesn't seem fair to cut out his family--who I love. I guess I don't have any solutions for you, just wanted to let you know that you are not alone.