Help with a 2Year Old Who Throws Tantrums.

J. G
I have been throught this problem. It is a stage that all children go through. What helped me get through it was when my son did that I started to do it with him. I know it sounds silly but it actually works. When my son started to through his fits I did the same thing also. And about your mom she isn't in the wrong. My mom did the same thing also and that actually helped him to stop. But in the long run, eventually, your daughter will stop it. My is now six years old. I have 7 nephews and 1 niece that did the same thing and that was how we broke them from doing it also. Try it sometime in your house and see what she does and let me know.

S. Leach

Hello J.,

I do not think that you should try to avoid all tantrums. They are a phase and just happen, and sometimes they are very hard to avoid.
With my first kid, I just removed him from the scene or the place in a firm but loving way. The thing is that your daughter does not harm herself, and change her scenario at the same time. You have to be VERY CALM and do not allow yourself having a tantrum as well, that won't work!...It was very hard the first time, but you be consistent, and immediately when she has the tantrum, you pick her up firmly and put her in another room, and let her finish, after that just hold her very tight.
I hope this helps you..it is not easy.I remember that very well specailly when I was in public places, and I saw all those people looking at me..(ones with that look saying." do not worry..I've been there..." and others.."what did you do to that poor little child..."..ha, ha...)
Good Luck

Alejandra

First of all explain to your mother that you are having serious trouble with your child, if they cannot support you - then you will withdraw from them until your child is through this.

My son is now 4 1/2 but is very strong willed - and still occasionally throws a fit. You have to draw the line on what you will and won't accept. Be firm and consistent. At home, I would let him throw a fit, they will catch on that is not the way to get attention/get what they want. IF you cater to a child when they are throwing a fit-then they got what they wanted - your attention.

If we were somewhere my son really wanted to be, and he threw a fit - we would leave. He learned quickly that if he threw a fit, he didn't get what he wanted anyways.

Hope that helps a little..
A.

When my son used to throw fits like that, I usually just ignored him unless he was in a position to really hurt himself. I have found that if I don't give him any attention for these little tantrums that he will figure it out that it won't help him get his way. At this age, kids begin to find what they can and can't get away with while around certain adults. My son is known to try the whole tantrum thing when with a different adult, just to test them. As for the head banging, don't be concerned. My son did this alot and still does from time to time and will even say "bang head" and then do it while in the middle of a fit. You may also want to see how your babysitter handles the fits. She may give in to them and your daughter thinks that is the only way to get what she wants. These are just my thoughts on the matter and I hope that it helps you out a bit.

Hi jenneifer

i have been there my son, now 14, had tantrums like that from about 1 1/2 to maybe 4 or 5...he had them at home at the grocery store, wherever he was and didnt like the answer he got, especially no...he would kick walls scream, tellme he hated me...now that i didnt approve of, i asked my doctor and other friends with older kids, what they did, they all told me to just let him get it out of his system, when at home i made sure he wasnt hurting himself, but told him when you are done and want to talk or want a hug, let me know, i would leave the room...if in a store, i would tell him i am going to finish my shopping bye...i would just go to the end of the aisle and just watch ,,i know now adays you dant do that...i would just walk a couple steps, and make her think...it did work, it was easier to break in the store, i would tell him before we got into the store, be good, and dont ask for anything and mommy will get you a surprise, or we will go to mcdonalds, and play on the slides, something like that...if he asked i would take him out of the store and we will go home and he will sit in a corner...as for the fits at home...they lasted alittle longer, but when he was done and came to me, he got his hug, and we would talk hope this helps and good luck

L.

mY DAUGHTER STARTED DOING EXACTLY THE SMAE THING AT AGE 2 OR JUST BEFORE. Is she speech delayed? it could be just frustraition. In my case we had her tested at several places and they determined she had pdd, nos which is a mild form of autism. Scary tohear , but if you really think something isnt right, you should look into this as soon as possible there are lots of places that help children under 3 with anger or other developmental issues.