Help Me Plis!!! Answer I Am Really Scared and I Am 13 Years Old

Hi sweetheart, can you talk to you mom? What about a teacher? You really need to tell and adult. It is possible that you are pregnant if you are taking the test too soon after sex.

There is a possibility if it is still early. I would suggest speaking with you parents or at least an adult you feel comfortable with so that you can be tested by a doctor.

There is a chance that 2 negative results could be wrong. However, if you are a few weeks late it is unlikely the results are wrong. Many things can mirror pregnancy symptoms. The 2 most likely reasons for these, if you are not pregnant are stress or period. If you are only a couple weeks late you need to wait longer and take the test again. I was much older but once I thought I was pregnant, took the test and it was negative, 2 days later I started my period which was late.

(SEnding you a bit hug)

First, question are you having sex? YOu can't get pregnant with oral sex (by mouth). You can get pregnant if the guys pulls out before coming. If you are having sex then keep reading...

Yes, home pregnancy test can say not pregnant when your really are if the test weren't done right. The best time is first thing in the morning. Also, some women's hormone level is too low for the test to pick up so a blood test is needed. Pregnancy systems are eating more, smelling things others cant, nausea, light or no periods, contacts not fitting right, bigger and sore boobs, putting on more wieght, and alot more.
Talk to your parents, they will be mad at first
(they will probably scream and be a disappointed) but will still love you. Expext it to take a bit and to subjected to some new rules but the longer you keep the secret the worst it will be.

Once you have a kid, you are longer first but always last and hardley get out of the house by yourself. Be a bit selfish and enjoy being a kid for now. Your childhood may seem hard but it is nothing to being a parent.

I am worried for you, 13 yrs is very early to be sexually active. I am not trying to judge just am in shock. I wish you would wait til after high school if nothing else sex is way better than. I waited til i was 23 because of the disease and for a guy I could see a future with. I married him a year later and all my other friends are jealous for they had sex earlier and not married.
My secret to happiness is first love yourself. Very hard I know. Then get to know yourself and desires. Finally, dont look for love just focus on loving yourself and the right guy will come along at the right time even if you think he is late.

Please write back if nothing else in the chat group, for as said before I am very worried for you.

Now if your having sex cause someone forced you (dad, uncle, boys), go to the police!

Hi M., yes there is a possibility you could still be pregnant. Don't be scared, please call Hope Women's Center in Broward county they will give a free ultra sound to find out for sure and medical help that you may need.
Don't worry -God will get you through this!

M.,

I don't want to sound like a mother-hen here, but Hon, you are on MamaSource... If you have had sex, then you could be pregnant. It doesn't matter when you time it, or what sort of birth control you use - if you have sex you could be pregnant, this principle is the same each and every time you have sex. At 13 years old, you obviously are not prepared for this possibility. Sex is a huge responsibility - not just pleasure. You should be scared, you need to remember how this feels, and DO NOT have sex again until you are capable of handling the responsibilities of sex - and there are many! If you are not pregnant this time, do not make the mistake of thinking you are off the hook and free to try it again. No ma'am! You could get pregnancy at any time, you could contract an STD - you may already have one (or more!). Not to mention the emotional damage...

Now, please seek out help from an adult in your life. A teenager does not count. Find a real adult who can talk to you about why you are doing this to yourself and help you out of this mess and can help you keep you out of messes.

Do yourself a favor, if you cannot go to your mother or father, please go to the nearest Planned Parenthood. They will help you, but the answer is YES! But you need to know for certain if you are pregnant,you are only 13. You are just a baby yourself as I have a daughter turning 15 next week and this is my baby girl and sex is just NOT a part of her life right now. Oh I know! :-) You also want to make sure nothing else is wrong that's causing these symptoms; whatever they are. If you don't mind me asking, why are you having sex at 13? Getting pregnant is bad at this age, but believe it or not, it is the least of your problems with the number of new Aids cases in S.Florida! Not sure where you live, where your parents are or who you answer to, but listen to someone who has nothing to gain or loose from giving you this advice......STOP HAVING SEX NOW! If you have not contracted HIV or any other STD (sexually transmitted disease), consider yourself getting a second chance in life and start doing something to make a better life for yourself STARTING NOW! Remember everything is about CHANGE and that includes YOU. If you can choose to have sex, then you are ready to make other right decisions for yourself and choose not too....you just have to do it. A Real Diva and Woman is in Control over her life and her sex life. She will not tolerate disrespect and or put herself in a position to contract a disease that will compromise her health and even her life! If a Grown Woman or even an older teenager chooses to have sex, she most certainly protects herself by making sure he too protects himself! So please, if you want to have an opportunity to experience life in a whole new way first go to Planned Parenthood and get medical attention. Have you stayed in school? Look up the Boys & Girls Club near you and go to them for help in other areas of your life. This is why they exsists and they want to help any child who needs their help!

Please find a mom that you can talk to, you are obviously going through a really tough time and you need the help of an adult. I want to tell you so much and be upset with you, but as a mom myself I just cant. I am sure that you are scared and now it not the time to leacture. I am not sure where you are, if you are in Tampa there are plenty of places that can help, if your own mother is not available.

M.,
Take a deep breath. You are not alone. You can get through this, whatever it is.
What "side effects" are you experiencing?
Is your period late? Is it normally on a regular schedule?
Hormones can do tricky things to our bodies; yes its possible you could be pregnant, depending on when you took the tests. I believe a blood test is more sensitive than a pee test.
Do you have anyone you can talk to? A relative, a teacher, a person you trust? You need to see a doctor. If you have never been to an OB/GYN it can be a little scary - its best if you can go with someone you trust.
I was pregnant at a young age. Some people may judge you; ignore it. Listening to criticism right now will not help.
Where do you live?
You can email me if there is anything you want to talk about. I wish you well.

I'm sorry to be harsh, but you should not be having sex at 13. Avoiding sex is the only way to avoid these problems. You have your whole life ahead of you to worry about things like this.

You should go see Carol at St. Gerard House in St. Augustine. It is a wonderful place for unwed mothers. They will give you another pregnancy test and take care of you. Please go see Carol right away. I agree with everyone else. Honey...you are WAY too young to be having sex. There are real consequences (pregnancy, Aids, other STDs). The boy would most likely walk away. You would have a lifetime of consequences. Sex and children are wonderful when you are old enough and married. God Bless!

What are your symptoms?
It's possible to have a false negative. A doctor can do a pee test or a blood test.
Tell your mom you aren't feeling well, then ask for some private time with the doctor once you get there-- the doctor can help you talk to your mom so you won't be alone. If you are pregnant, she needs to know. If you aren't, you need to get on birth control if you are sexually active.

And this may seem really silly, but I actually know kids your age who were never given "the talk" by their parents so they think you can get pregnant ways that you really can't... so you REALLY need to speak with your mom and/or a doctor right away!!

Please do not go to Planned Parenthood. I know from experience that they just want your money - they are not an organization that will be "helpful" like their claims. They tell you not to tell your parents about their tactics and your pregnancy. That is wrong in every sense. I would not tell my daughter to go to Planned Parenthood, nor would I tell someone else's daughter to go.

Yes, you can get a false negative (meaning you could be pregnant even the test says no). That happened to me because I tested way to early in the pregnancy. The baby makes hormones that gradually increase when the baby progresses in development. There are not enough hormones for the test to pick up on if you test too early.

You probably are already freaking out about telling anyone in your life, but you need to do some research. Doing research seems to calm my anxiety, so might help with you.

Here is a link from the Mayo Clinic that will explain the info:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/home-pregnancy-tests/PR0...

Please talk to a trusted adult - do not wait. You will get farther along in the pregnancy and that baby will need prenatal care ASAP. Not getting the prenatal care can be detrimental to both of you! It's a serious situation that needs serious attention.

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Even though this situation is serious, you still have options. And when you pick through your options, remember to look forward about 10 - 15 years... i.e. will you be happy with this option? is this the best option for YOU (not someone else)? Please remember - these are your decisions, no one else's.

If you are not pregnant, then you have a lot to think about because sexual activity increases your chances of pregnancy - no matter what protection you use.

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http://www.christianadopt.org/

Please don't feel pre-judged on here. Remember, you are the one that's responsible for your choices - no one else. Everyone has opinions/suggestions... just depends on which one you take.
Good luck :)

I took four tests and two were negative, so anything is possible. Its also possible you are so worried that you are pregnant, that you are causing side effects. Or maybe you are.

I would highly sugest you find a local walk in-clinic to get tested. Its $20 at most places.

I am not going to mention any of the things people have already said, as I am not here to lecture you some people have already, it is what it is, lets hope your not, and who ever has custody of you, you discuss with them birthcontrol and you talk to someone who you can trust. Sounds to me like you have some personal problems that you need to talk about with someone... Best of luck

M., If you need a friend to call my number is ###-###-####. I am 46 years old grandma of two grandkids. If you still need advice please call me.

God bless you,
L. Jacobs

You could get a false negative if you took the test too soon for the pregnancy hormone to be in a large enough traceable amount in your urine.

I already posted this with your other question, but just in case it is not the same person I wanted to make sure you had an answer.

Hi M., First just calm down. If it said negative it probaly is, if you are still getting the symtoms, missed period, feeling like throwing up, very tired or very sore breasts then you can try another test in 1 week. Sometimes you are to early for it to show up on a test. The dollar store sells them for $1. Now I don't know your parents, but if my daughter was scared and in trouble, NO MATTER WHAT I would want her to talk to me. I would be sad, dissapointed but I would love her and help her. So I think you need to first talk to a grown up you can trust. If not your parents then maybe a local church or Christian Crisis pregnancy center. Also remember abortion can be VERY dangerous and you should not even think about it with out an adult. There are so many other options that are not so emotionaly and physicaly dangerous. Please let me know that you are ok, I will pray for you. I know it can be very scary, but it is not the end of the world and you can come through this. -J.,mother to 8-

yes! how late are you? with my first pregnancy my results where negative at first ecause i wasn't far enough along for the hormones to show. try again in 2 weeks. and why are you having sex at your age. you are way to young for all thwe responsibility that comes along with it! you shouldn't be worried about being pregnant you should be playing with you friends.
for your sake i hope your not! good luck

yes you can still be prego. the only thing i can tell you is to go to the hospital and have a blood test of do an ultrasound at the hospital!

Hi M.,

Is it possible you started birth control or switched brands? A lot of pills give you nausea and a feeling of pregnancy when you start them up due to the extra hormones circulating in your body. When was your last period? There are times that before getting my period I feel nauseous and weak, but it's just the onset of my period and my body preparing for it. There could also be a chance that you're allergic to something you ate or suffering from food poisioning which can cause nausea, vomiting, and swelling. The norovirus (also known as the stomach bug) can also cause excessive nausea and vomiting. Without knowing when your last period was, it is hard to rule out any of these causes, but at least I hope I helped provide possible explanations for your symptoms and calmed you down a bit at the same time..

Sweetie, if you are not sure, and you can't talk to your mom, you need to get to an adult that you can trust. Not a man, talk to another woman. Pregnancy is very serious, and if your body isnt ready to do that you could have a lot of health problems later. It might be that you are just getting your period. Some times your period is worse this month than last month. You might feel your chest get sore and you get a fat belly and stomache aches. That is all normal. If you were pregnant your stomach would not get fat right away. If you talk to an older woman, she can help you get to a doctor without telling your parents. There are free clinics in every neighborhood. So there is no cost to go see a real doctor, but it might be a long waiting line. There is a chance that you might be pregnant even if the test is negative both times. There is also a chance that you have gotten a disease from the guy you are having sex with. The free clinic can give you medicine so that you dont get worse. If you have a disease and you dont go in to get it checked, then it could get worse and you may never be able to have babies later in your life when you really will want them. Please find a woman who can help you, and tell her to find you a free clinic to go to right away. You can talk to a teacher at your school, or the school nurse. you can talk to other women that live on your street. If you babysit for any other parents, you can talk to that mom. Please talk to someone who can drive you to go get a doctor to see you. The test the doctors do is nothing big, just a blood test and you have to pee in a cup and give them your pee to check. OK
Good luck.

You are 13 and having unsafe sex? I hope you can talk with your mother, doctor or school counselor. Open up, dear, so an adult can help you and point you in the right direction.
Getting pregnant and having the responsibility of a baby is not a pleasure at 13. Please stay in school and do not permit any male to talk you into a sexual situation that YOU will pay the price for later...It's called "building your self-esteem". Go for it, dear.
My guess is that if the pregnancy test comes up negative, then you should be able to rely on it. Having "symptoms" may be your body preparing to menstruate.
Hope you get your period soon and that you still open up to an adult, first your mother (don't be afraid...) and school counselor (they ARE there to guide you, not judge you...)
Noone here on this site is here to judge you, either. God bless.
There seems to be more involved than what you wrote, so don't hesitate to keep in communication.

First off I hope for your sake you are not pregnant, I am a mother of a 2 year old, and I will be one to tell you that you will want to avoid getting in the situation to allow you to become pregnant because all your freedom will be over, you are too young and have a lot of time to go before becoming a mother. But I wont lecture you because i am sure you heard all this before, but from a stranger I would advise you to think twice and let this experience be a lesson for you to slow down....Yes it could be possible you are pregnant even with negative results because you may have taken the test too soon, sometimes at the wrong time of day etc. On the other hand you could just be paranoid, and think you are having the symptoms. I did that frequently before I actually got pregnant which was planned by the way. I would advise you have your parents take you to go get a check up at your doctor even if you make up another reason for wanting to go. Or check with your school nurse. The sooner you know the better you will be able to deal with what is to come in the event you are pregnant. Good luck and I pray you are not pregnant.

M.,
God bless you. I hope things are okay with you and your family. You can go to any Catholic church and they will direct you to people who can help you. They have counselors and others available who can guide you. I hope you can talk to your parents and trust in them to help as well.
You are all in my prayers.

Taking 2 pregnancy tests...? If you are sexually active, you should visit a gynecologist for a blood test. That's the only way to confirm a pregnancy. If you are, you'll get prescribed a prenatal series of vitamins so the baby is born as healthy as possible. If you happen not to be pregnant then you need to start protecting yourself, either from an unwanted pregnancy or any sexualy transmited dissease. You are responsible for your body, no one else is.

No. The pregnancy tests are accurate. The only way you would get a false negative is if you are taking the test too early. My guess is if you are having the "side effects" you would be far enough along to be detectable, so the answer is almost certainly no. If you are already late for your period, and the tests are still negative, you can be confident you are not pregnant.
What side effects? Nausea? Boobs hurt? Look, go to your doctor. If you are on the pill, it's the wrong prescription and you should change it. If you aren't, you need to find out why you are otherwise sick. Like everyone else said, find an adult you can trust. Having a pregnancy scare at 13 means there are some things wrong in your life, and you probably need some help sorting them out.
You're only 13 years old. Stop having sex until you are old enough to understand and deal with everything that can happen because of sex: diseases, including AIDS; pregnancy; and, depending on your situation, social stigma. You do not OWE anyone sex for anything.
If you aren't ready to be a mother, you shouldn't be having unprotected sex. If you aren't ready to live with AIDS, you shouldn't be having unprotected sex. And really, honey, at 13, you aren't really ready to be having sex at all. You're learning now that the emotional consequences are real and not very fun. Save sex for when you are ready; it will be much better then.

U maybe taking them too soon. Is there a mom u r friends with. A teacher. Anyone. Church. Planned parenthood grpup

Oh honey. I don't want to say this but I took 4 pregnancy tests and all came back negative. I am currently feeding my 2 month old. Go to a doctor.
I know that you probably don't want to tell your parents but honey, if you are, you are gonna need them.
But there is a high point: You are 13 years old, your body is still in a state of constant chaos and there is a good chance you aren't. And if you are as scared as I imagine you are, you may be causing the symptoms.
So go to a clinic, explain it all, find out and get on some birth control. I won't lecture you. It's not my place but speaking as someone that has made plenty of mistakes as a teenager and gotten into a lot of very difficult situations, please learn from this. I hope very much that you aren't. And remember this: Mothers love their children no matter what. We may want to strangle them and it may not always seem like we understand but we were all scared kids once, too. I don't know your mother but I cannot help but assume that she is like this. You are not alone. Even if it's just all of us on here.
Good luck.

Hi M.. Okay, first of all, try to be calm. I have found, in life, to try not to worry unless there really is something to worry about..so take some deep breaths and relax. It is true that you can have a false negative from a pregnancy test. In order for them to be accurate, you need to take them at around the time of a missed period..not before one is due. If you take it too soon, it may be inaccurate. That said, it doesn't mean that you are pregnant..so again, relax. Some of the other people that responded suggested that you talk to your mom. If that is possible, of course that is a good idea. I have a feeling that might be a really scary thing to do. I know it would have been for me. Know that the love that a parent has for their children is one of the strongest forms of love that exists. I didn't know that when I was your age, but I know now that I have my own children. If you have any questions, or need to talk in confidentiality, you can write to me back via mamasource, and I would be happy to answer any questions for you. I have a 3 year old, and two month old...so I am definitely familiar with being pregnant. Everything will be okay.
A. :)

Do you know the dates of your last period and the approximate dates of the time/times that you've had sex? Periods go in cycles, including ovulation. How late is your period. If you were pregnant, the hormone that's in your pee that makes the tests read positive increases everyday. The further along you are in being pregnant, the stronger that hormone is and the more realiable a pregnancy test will be. There are plenty of things, however, that can make your period late and/or give you similar symptoms to pregnancy. Things like exercise, stress, poor sleep patterns and poor diet can make your period late. Also, the impending onset of your period can give you things like nausea, tiredness, sore boobs, etc. Always take pregnancy tests in the morning. They're more accurate then because your pee is more concentrated and not diluted. If you've done these tests in the morning and it's been at least 5 or 6 weeeks since your last period, I would definitely says your chances of being pregnant are slim to none. Best of luck to you. You can always check out Planned Parenthood and they'll help you even though you're a minor, I believe. Please be careful.

it depends on how late you are on your period and what kind of pregnancy test you are taking. If you are more than 4 weeks late there is a strong possiblity. But I will pray that you are not. You are too young. I hope you learn from this experience. Please wait to be sexually active. You have plenty of time. Enjoy being a kid. Please confide in an adult no matter the outcome.

Maybe you do not need more advise you already got a lot .

But if you are pregnant you need to take care of you and the baby like everybody said before make sure is an ADULT that you can TRUST preferably a woman .

And let me tell you one more thing that i hope can help you a little bit i had sex at a young age too , and i'm not happy or proud about i regrated it a lot now that i'm a adult a mother a wife i realize that i did it because i confused LOVE with SEX , if somebody really loves and cares about you wont ask for sex you have the world in your hands so much to live and expirience you DO NOT need a boyfriend to feel love , i don't know your situation but talk to your parents somebody in your family keep them and your friends together let them know that you need them maybe you're feeling alone and you are depending on your boyfriend for all your needs .

If you are in the area of boynton beach or ft. lauderdale there is a church calvary chappel where you can feel good ,they will take care of you like a family look for God you are we are children of god He loves you no matter what , we all make mistakes but He forgive us .

I feel for you i wish i can help you i'll keep you in my prayers.

GOS BLESS YOU .... !

tania

And please let us know what really happens to you as a mother me and all ladies that responded to you we will concern for you .

Dear M.,
Please try to get a real check-up by a GYN. doctor; and please consider practicing abstinence. You have so much life to live; and going through moments like the one you are in, is not good for you or a baby! If you need help, reach out to a parent, or adult family member! I will pray for you! I hope you have learned a serious lesson on life by this scare! May God guide & Bless you!!!
Truly & Sincerely,
Kathy N.

Whether you tell your parents you're ill and ask them to take you to a doctor, or talk to another adult and get them to take you to a free clinic, please please please go see a doctor!

We don't know all the facts, we don't know the situation, but we all know you're scared. When I had my first baby, I was 21, had gone to school and had a solid job and a husband, and I was still scared out of my mind. But don't jump to conclusions! Maybe you're just sick, or maybe its nothing. Get to a doctor first.

I don't know what your relationship is like with your mom, but from a mom's point of view, I'd hate it if my girls kept anything from me, especially something like this. Yes, you're very young, and your mom might even be upset, but if she's like the mommies on here, she loves you and wants what's best for you.

Please keep us updated!

If you are taking it within the first few weeks of the sexual encounter than it is possible for you to test negative but still be pregnant. However if it has been closer to a couple of months then it is highly unlikely that you are pregnant if the tests are negative.

M.,

PLEASE talk to a grown up you trust. If you think you may be pregnant, you must be having sex already, and that has more risks than just pregnancy that can last a lifetime, or even end your life.

If you have no one to talk to, call your local health department, planned parenthood, health teacher at school, someone who can help you get the info you need.

In the meantime, if you recently became sexually active it can disrupt your period, as can stress (from worrying), or a number of other factors. You will need to see a doctor to be sure, and also to test for any STD's you may have contracted.

M.

You probably are not pregnant. Stress can cause the same symtpoms, but you need to speak to your parents.