I have a 20 month old son, who is just a happy baby. I have a live out nanny that comes to my house while I'm at work. She gave me a 2 week notice in July that she'll be away for 6 weeks. I managed to find someone for August, and take the first week of Sep of and was relying on her to start again next week. She's been calling me while away to say hi and ask about my son. She was scheduled to return to NJ today, EXCEPT!!! I just got a call from her telling me she's not coming back any time soon.... Now, my dilemma, I have 3 days to find someone. I have recently enrolled my son in a day care for 2 half day, and he's scheduled to start this Friday. I don't want to just enroll him full time, it may be too big of a shock. My question is how in the world I find someone (live in,m live out, part time, full time, whatever) without having to pay agency fees. My Dad can help fill in some of the hours, and my husbands schedule changes constantly and we can't rely on his availability during the day. My schedule's normal flexibility is out the door, since I've been commuting to NYC everyday. So I'm gone all day...I need help, don't know what to do.
Thank you all for responding and providing your support. I've enrolled my son in day-care for three half days, and was able to find someone to come to my house to fill in the rest. The goal is to ultimately switch my son to full days. I think we've both taken a big step with all the recent changes, and he's doing much better than I expected. He seems to like the day-care, and even likes the new sitter.
Try going on to Craigslist.com They have a childcare link. You can find someone or post an ad searching for someone there. That may help.
Try posting on Craigslist! Really! You can find great help there. Get references of course. Expect to pay $12-$15 or more an hour (but no agency fees). Often there are nanny's between jobs looking there. Address is Craigslist.org. Find your nearest city/state and post away...
Why don't you want to just do full time daycare? Either way it will likely be just as shocking to introduce a new nanny. Your son will probably be more ready for kindergarten when the time comes anyway.
Hi P., I have two children and I had to stay at home when they were little and it was very hard for me but at thesame time I felt good being with them. If you really need to work my sugestion is to leave your child in the day care,because sometime is better for them to be there than stay home with a babysitter, at that age kid learn a lot. Don't feel guilty about it just try to spend a quality time with him when you bring him home from the day care. You are not alone.
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He may be fine going fulltime to daycare. My 20 mos. old just started daycare full time after being with his grandmom and me and to my surprise he LOVES it. He's sick this week and wants to go to school with his big brother and was sad when he left to go.
You may also try Craigslist or http://babysitters.sittercity.com/
It may get your through temporarily anyway.
I had a little bit of the same cenario. Me personally I will have him on everyday full day care. The baby "shock" is the less to worry about because if you find someone to stay with him the baby will still have to adjust to that person and care so the transaction will not be easy in either way but at least in a day care he'll be with lots of kids and more prepare for the future coming up.
Good Luck!.
P.,
Sometimes your pediatric group has a list of names that they recommend. I would start there, it can not hurt to try. Good luck!
L.
Hi! I would check with the local day cares and see if any part-timers are looking for more work. I worked in a day care last year part-time and if someone had done that I would have JUMPED at it. Due to staff changes I am now full time. You never know who might be looking for more work. Tell them that you are considering day care on a part-time basis and need someone to help out at home.
Hi P.,
I just recently went through the same thing and had to put my 16 month old in Day Care full time it is now his 3rd week and he loves it. It was easier for him than for the 3 1/2 yr old. However if you still don't want to do that contact http://www.chsofnj.org/ they will give you caregivers in your area for no fees.
Good Luck
HI P.--
Try the website www.gonannies.com, I found my kids nanny on it last year and she was the best I could ever ask for. The website will charge you a small fee to join and get their info, but it is better than an agency. The best part is you can do a free search to see if there is anyone of interest to you.
Good luck with your search
Hi
I went through this about 15 months ago except my Nanny didn't quit suddenly, I found out that she was lying to me about where she was taking my 2 year old son during the day, and after following all the threads learned that she was lying to just about everyone she encountered in our circles, not just about little things, but elaborate unnecessary lies about who she really was, where she lived etc. and I had to let her go immediately. I think , honestly, she was pathological (her references checked out when we hired her and she seemed so sweet:( Anyway- in desperation I put out adds, called agencies etc. and ended up contacting an aupair service. There are agency fees with an aupair but what you pay the girl and what you pay the agency (at least in CT) amount to about 270$ a week total, which is a deal for up to 45 hours of child care a week. I have had 2 aupairs now and its been a life saver. The first girl we "hired" started with us less than 2 weeks after I had to let the nanny go because she was transfered from w/in the US from another home. If your open to it I would say its worth a phone call anyway. There are several services but they all follow the same federal guidelines. I used Cultural Care and for me they have been great. As far as the fees go you can pay them over time. You can check them out online at culturalcare.com. If you want to know more about my experience just let me know, I'd be happy to share.
I suggest you try going to the school bus stop and asking some of your neighbors there if they're interested in babysitting for your son. Many women who are stay-at-home-moms would love to make some extra money without going out to an office.
Go to Craigslist.com and you will find some babysitters... or/and go to Sittercity.com
Hello! P. what town do you live in? What is the pay? I have a very good friend in mind for the job. Let me know the details... days, hours, pay, etc...
