hey, it's not a life and death situation, but, I had planned for my 8 year old a small surprise party this SAturday, 4 friends from school and 4 cousins. I didn't have access to phone numbers and addresses, so the teacher said she could address and mail for me if I put on postage. I said great! I wrote in the invitations SSSSHHHHHHH IT'S A SURPRISE!!! DONT' TELL JORDYN!!! all over the invite.. They were not even addressed to the girls, they were addressed to the parents.
Today is her birthday, how come one girl told her that she got an invitation from her mom, and she told my daughter, it said "SHHHH IT"S A SURPRISE' etc. !!!!! My daughter told me, she felt bad, and I said nothing, I tried to play dumb. then she gave me the scenario, in which all 4 girls basically told her!!!!! I'm really upset that the parents let the cat out of the bag before Friday.
but I'm just upset that all my hard work and efforts have been ruined!!
How do I save it....I've told her maybe they were talking about a different Jordyn . She knows I told her I have plans this weekend and she couldn't have a party.
DO I still try and salvage the surprise or do I just give in and say, ok, yes you're having a party?? I don't want the guest list to be added to, I have everything planned for the 8 girls.
Just wanted your input. :-)
thanks!
Thanks ladies for your comments. I just want you to know that the party was a great success. She was still surprised, she told me she had forgotten all about what her friends had told her. So she was truly surprised and thrilled at her party on yesterday! I am through giving surprise parties, I have given all 3 of my kids a surprise and my hubby. Now it's my turn, and I doubt it if anyone will ever give me one, but I wish they would. but I would figure it out, so it probably won't happen because I'm too good! LOL
I would personally want to try to salvage the surprise. She doesn't know what you have planned so even if she doesn't beleive that it's probably for another Jordyn she will at least be surprised about the events. Good luck. It'll be fun for her no matter what I'm sure.
Maybe you could explain to your daughter that it is a surprise to her and that because of that you can tell her no more about it. She still won't know exactly the time or place or who is coming for sure, or the decorations, etc.
I think it can still be a lot of fun. And she can look forward to seeing what the surprise is.
Some 8 yr olds just can't be counted on to keep a secret especially if asked directly if they know, they are at the age where it is hard to know the difference between telling the truth and keeping a secret.
I wouldn't worry too much about her finding out, and just try to make the best of it from here on out. I hope it's fun for all of you!
Hi S.,
I understand you are upset, but just tell her the truth, "yeah, sweetie, I was preparing a surprise party for you, I wanted you to be happy and enjoy a nice b-day!" If she wants to invite more friends, try to let her do it, and have her to choose just 2 or 3 more if it is not a real inconvenience to you. Good Luck and..enjoy!
Alejandra
I would stick with the original plans. If you say ya ok were having a party, she may want to invite more friends. Thats just me.
Why are you pissed at the parents? You know that's how girl's that age are. Your daughter will still have a great time at the party. Maybe try again when she's a little older, but even in high school girls aren't very good with secrets from friends.
