Having One of Those Days ......

O hunny I feel you, I feel that way all the time about my old friends, about my looks, etc Im in a hole where im to weak to even scream for help. I love my husband and my two boys but i look back and think I work in a kiosk in a mall and im in my 30's I didnt lose my baby weight and so now the hot wife my husband use to have is now just a average mommy that makes hamburger helper instead of chicken fried steaks, my friends dont call anymore and i dont even like running into them at walmart bc i never wear makeup and my roots are showing. My family is all within 30 mins of me and they never call unless they need something, they dont help me with my kids any so i pretty much dont make time for them anymore, altho i do still show up at bday parties for thier kids but its just bc i dont wanna be deemed as the b***h sister that doesnt do anything lol Sorry pity party for me today lol hopefully tomorrow we will wake up and crawl outta this hole and look at the world and our lives different. sigh i need a martini now lol

E., nothing about this should make you feel tiny. You aren't tiny! My goodness, the fact that you are going to the wedding anyway means that you are a really big person.

I DO hope that you do something fun in CA while you are out there. Your husband can see his brother and the adults who may actually want to get reacquainted with you all. The young gal getting married doesn't know much about staying close to family. It's kind of her loss, don't you think?

Feel better (and hope your daughter feels better!) Oh, and it's EASY to look like the Stepford wives at work when you they aren't taking care of the home front! They wouldn't bother to even think of you as a failure, I promise. EVERY mom coming in with a kid who has kept the family up all night looks like she's pooped out!

Dawn

Oh E.,
We have all been there! You are not alone. We all have those days and all you can do is take a deep breath and keep on going.
Let's just say that it is a good thing you had a heart to heart with your husband. At least it is out in the open on how you feel, and as long as you don't offend anyone in the mist of it, I think it's all fine.
Just think this is a good time to have a little mini vacation with your family and reconnect with some family members if they are willing to; if not, you go enjoy the party and leave it at that, just another party.
I think we all have family members like that, that you don't see or hear from them but only on a special occasion.
I have some family members that we are not in touch with constantly, but we know we are there for each other if we need to. Then there are some that we never ever ever hear from nor see, and we truly don't even miss; but we are glad to see them when we do.
So, don't feel bad about yourself. Pick your head up, and just continue the good communication with your husband.
Oh, about the doctor's staff..ignore them...they could be beautiful on the outside and spoiled in the inside...
So just be yourself and take care of your daughter :) I hope she is feeling better!
Blessings

We all have those days. I can look into a mirror at myself wearing the same outfit I wore a couple weeks ago and think, who is that hideous person staring back at me, when the last time I thought, hey, I am looking good! Usually I feel this way during my period, totally distorted view. So that said, you need to take in hand that you aren't going to a strangers wedding, you are going on a fabulous vacation in California and get to dance and eat delicious food! Really really focus on the positives even if you need to use your imagination a bit! Attitude really make a difference in these cases!

I understand But you dont have to put up with the behavior why would you have to just take it until it's over. I can see the issue from both sides yes you want to be supportive of your husband yes you want to be respectful to his family. Nevertheless, We as American or humanity itself are so conditioned to just put up with it no matter what and have the excuse well it's just the family well I ask if it was some random person would you? Let me answer that NO you wouldn't . You would say I havent seen nor heard hell or high water from these people and I wont participate. We had that happen not just my side of the family but my husband's as well we tried to make work we put in the effort to do what is necessary on our part these people not only live in GA they live 5 mins away we did everything in our power to have close knit families my family didnt like him his family didnt like me. So, us as adults had to make a decision in our lives rather we even wanted to deal with the drama but they didnt even put in an effort sometimes we all have to cut bait for greater good. Not to say my situation is the same but just a different perspective on it and some food for thought you shouldnt feel small hunny you should feel tall and proud and wonderful because you had carried this on your shoulders and you let go hold your head high and ask your higher power what you should do for your family and i am sure you will be fine good luck and it will be okay :)

It's going to be ok. Seriously, it will. Being honest about your feelings can only work in your favor. He's been there, he's seen how its been. You have to go and show your support. Haven't you ever needed to go to a gathering just because you had to, not because you wanted to. I actually used to get pains in my stomach when we used to see my MIL & FIL for fear this will be one of the drunken I was the worst thing ever to happen to this family tirades. Saying anything just makes it worst. Just gotta sit there and take it till its over.
We don't see them much anymore. Like once maybe twice a year for 3 days max. They usually don't wait the very limited time on fighting now. Family can suck. It is what it is. Sounds like you only need to deal with them every ten years... Just smile and nod dear, just smile and nod.

Some days are just like that. It will come around again, and you'll be on top again. Hugs!

Yes, we all have those days. :)

And I completely agree w/ Lucia about the wedding. The last wedding I went to I did not know a soul besides the bride and groom-and my DH was IN the wedding party, leaving me to fend for myself during most of it.
(And I am horribly shy!)
But we had a great time together-DH and I.
Go and have fun and don't feel guilty!

Oh and I have never encountered a ped. office receptionist who wasn't a unpleasant (to put it nicely) person. I'm sure it's the job that creates the monster. ;)

HUGS!