I know what you mean.. if you could find another family to give it to, that would be great..that would answer your problem REALLY fast..
I mean,granted, I guess you made your decision on a whim or something ..you really shouldn't have bought it with your work schedule, ..I should have fenced my backyard in before I bought a big dog too.. that is the mistake that I MADE.. now I have to walk this critter all the time..
Listen, I have a yellow lab who is going to be 12 years old. You know its like having kids. If we REALLY knew what all we were going to get into, really.. I think many of us wouldn't do it at all.. ha..(I have three beautiful kids but let's face it, the responsibility at times IS overwhelming!! but we took on the responsibility of having them and we love them unconditionally.. the good and the bad. and we need to honor that..
. not to compare dogs with humans.. I know.. but you know, pets especially dogs are a REALLY big commitment. I swear there are days when I spend more time with the dog than my husband.. ha.. sad.. I know..
.. !! talking to him and brushing him and walking him and feeding him.. I know.. but really, that all doesn't really take THAT much time.. it just seems that way.
I never had a dog before either and begged my husband to get our dog. I even paid for the critter too! and WHOA was I surprised at how much work they are. I have had plenty of days where I was like.. WHAT in the heck was I thinking??
we ALL have days like that.. I'm sure some days you are going to think that about the new baby and it is perfectly NORMAL to have thoughts like that when you are overwhelmed with responsibility.. allow yourself to feel frustrated and then punch a pillow, call a good friend.. go to starbucks.. whatever.. ha.. and MOVE ON/...
but you know, I bet the dog is just lonely and really wanting someone to pay attention to it. if you were alone in the house for 9 hours and your husband came home, wouldn't you want him to talk to you even if just for a few minutes and receive a nice little pat on the head?? I know I'm being a little silly here.. just trying to lighten this up a bit..
I would just "fake it until you make it.." you don't have to LOVE throwing a ball to it or walking it at first.. but I bet it will grow on you and the better the dog behaves, the more you are going to like it. Its like anything else, you have to put time into the relationship for it to grow.
I have to say,
you are lucky your pet hasn't destroyed anything despite being neglected. Our dog chewed up pillows AND a chair and some of our woodwork when we were at HOME..
.. yes.. we had him crated when he was a puppy when we went to work, I had to put him in is crate.I would drive home EVERY DAY for lunch so I could let him out for a little bit.. talk about a pain in the BUTT!! but I thought it would be cruel to leave him that long in a crate..(maybe have the dog walkers just come once or twice a week.. better than nothing..!)
And when I got home from work, even when I was DEAD tired, I would throw my darn gym shoes on and take him for a walk around the block. I think you will find your pet more agreeable if you do spend more time with it. gosh.. not like hours at a time..but even 15 minutes a day..and the exercise would be good for all of you. I think if your husband sees you enjoying the dog more and complaining less.. you all will be more happy. When your mother n law naggs about it, just say.. gee.. I don't know.. I just LOVE my dog..
love me.. love my dog.. !!
hope that helps even just a little bit?