Have You Ever Rekindled a Friendship...

Yes! I had a friend for about 10 years and we fizzled. There was nothing contentious, in any way. We simply started to be in different places in our lives. We recently tried to rekindle, and it's not that is was bad...we just have no common ground. I'm almost 30. I've been married almost 7 years, have a child, am a stay at home mom, etc. She's in her mid thirties, still living at home, still single (nothing wrong with that, I have single friends,) still thinking she'll meet a famous person coming through town and fall in love. Basically, she's a perpetual college student. While she is a WONDERFUL person, we have almost nothing to talk about. It's really boring. We've found our friendship exists better on the virtual level. Talking by email, seeing updates on facebook, etc. I think one day when she settles down, has a family of her own, and perhaps matures...we will give our friendship another go. There is too much history to let it go completely. I guess you could say it's dormant right now.

I have and lived to regret it! Sometimes it's just time to go your separate ways and/or love from a distance. This includes "some" family members. Some relationships are just toxic! Follow your instincts.

Yep.. and yeah same thing happened.

Yeah, good thing I could let it fizzle again :-)

Oh, sure. It's probably happened to many people. What's good about it? The fact that you didn't have a lasting bad impression of the person, so you didn't hesitate to try being friends again.

And, once in a while, the person changes over the years so that, while she was was a "fizzle friend" in the past, she has more in common with you now and develops into a good friend. So don't feel bad.

Oh yes, I know that all too well. Keep thinking maybe this time will be different when this woman weasles her way back into my life, then I get burned again. After this most recent time, I won't look her way twice.

OMG YES!!!! LOL

My best friend in high school, who I truly loved and couldn't have made it without....was a HUGE drama queen despite her good qualities, As we got older, it became more obvious that she sought out attention, any way she could get it. Even if it entailed lying. But I had been through so much w/ her I kind of just "dealt" with it. But into adult hood it got harder to take. She had a severely rocky relationship w/ her mom and treated her pretty badly. But when her mom got sick she acted as if they were as close as you could get. But I said nothing because i have no idea what she was going through, When her mom passes that became her excuse for EVERYTHING going wrong...losing jobs, getting drunk everyday with her child in the house, car repo's, the list goes on. And this went on for YEARS..... Finally there was a situation where she wanted me to do something for her I just was not comfortable with, and she totally quit talking to me. FOR YEARS. Which, was ok with me by this point.

Well through good ol' facebook she found me....and I was happy. BUT she hasn't changed a bit. Always the victim, nothing's her fault, totally irresponsible. <<<sigh>>> I talk to her,, but don't let her in too much. It's sad. I'd hoped that 7-8 years would have found her grown up some. But no.......