J. thought of this since the 80's party question. I think it's on my bucket list. Sure I'm a chicken and will probably do it when I'm 80 and can blame dimentia but 've always wanted to. I would've found it funny if someone attended a party of mine that they were not invited to. If they were not crazy and drunk and didn't affect anything or price. I J. think it would be so fun to dress up in fancy clothes and go enjoy someones wedding and dance the night away, eother J. dancing or going all out and taking the plae of so and so that did't show up. I guess I'd leave a gift too=) Anyone ever do this?
I get people are going to say BUT they paid for those people. I'm on the side of they don't pay an extra price for you to dance or drink if you're at a huge wedding. Again I'm probably to chicken to ever do this, but it sounds so fun. I really shouldve lived my youth a little more instead of wanting to do these things secretly while I'm 29. =)
J. to clarify, I never have done this and probably never will I'm J. curious if its even possible.
So have you?
Has anyone you know?
What exactly did you or that person do if you did?
I believe you don't pay extra for drinking. If it's an open bar theyre not counting the numbr of people if there are 2 more...ussually you pay by head and it paid for in advance. Atleast thats how weddings around her are done. f extra people drank at mine, it would've been the same price. As long as it wasn't a noticable number...food the same...we paid in advance. We had 5 extra people come we knew when I was with my ex and it didn't affect anything.
chirsty i think it would have to be one of those huge parties where hundreds are there
I would find it incredibly rude and would tell the people to leave. Why would you want to go somewhere that you werent invited? I find it rude. Someones special day and to make a joke out of it?? I know I live in a black and white whats right is right whats wrong is wrong world. But I am on the no way its selfish side.
I crashed a company holiday party once. I was at another party in the same venue for my grad program. One of the guys at our table had snagged a "ID" for the party downstairs from their check-in table. It was this name card on a necklace thing all of them were wearing. Our party was fun with a DJ and stuff but we were paying for the drinks. So a few people at our table were dipping out to hang out at the random company party and get their free drinks. I think it was also the fun of wearing the necklace and pretending we were part of this big company party.
Eventually they caught on to us and when I was downstairs wearing "the necklace" and drinking my free drink, socializing with random people, a tiny cranky little gal came up to M. and said "YOU don't work for us!" I was all, "of course I do", and she said, "oh yeah, then what does our company manufacture?" short pause by M.... "Ummmmm, Pencils?" "Wrong!" says the tiny gal- "Chemicals!" as she triumphantly strips M. of my necklace (literally, ripped it off over my head). Oh, the table upstairs at our real party had a field day with that one. Really, I couldn't think of anything better? It was like George Costanza with the whole Art Vandalay Importer/Exporter thing.
I J. went to a wedding last weekend and we suspected a crasher at our table (he was very mysterious, ok?) turned out not to be. Got M. thinking though, wouldn't be too hard to get away with!
A girl from my high school and her hubby (we were friends, but by no means close) crashed my wedding, even though they live 6 hours from where my wedding was held. How surprising to see them, but it was ok as far as #s went because we had a few no shows. So, I J. smiled, hugged her, met her husband for the first time, and thanked her for making the trip to join us.
It'd better be a good gift! ;-)
If you were to crash one of those ridiculously huge, over the top weddings where no expense is spared...I think that's less offensive than crashing a more intimate affair where the couple carefully considered every person on the guest list.
While they wouldn't pay extra if you J. show up and dance, they do pay extra if you drink, eat (anything), etc. Basically, as long as you don't use the valet service (if they have it), don't drink anything, don't eat anything, etc, then yes they won't pay an extra price.
With that being said, I think it would be fun to show up at huge wedding and J. kind of blend into the crowd, lol! I would never do it, and I've never heard of any of my friends doing it, but it would be hilarious!
ETA: Typically you have to settle the bar bill after the wedding. You pay a portion before the wedding, but after the wedding (if it's not a cash bar) then you pay based on what was used. Food, yes, you have to pay before hand. However, if you pay for 150 people to be fed, and suddenly they have to find food for 152, the kitchen is scrambling and trying to find the food for those extra two. If it's a buffet, it's not quite as big a deal because the kitchen compensates for people taking larger portion sizes...but if you have everyone take their larger portion sizes, and then you have two extra people come through the line, you're going to run out of food faster.
J. something to think about.
Once, kinda. We were in Reno for my best friends grandparents shin dig. There was another wedding reception going on, and when M. and my friends cousin walked by the music was on and no body was dancing. So, he grins and M. and says, "Come on" So we went in, did a two step around the floor twice, then left.
Mind you I was 15 and they let M. into the champagne. LOL.
Of course during that same party there was an older guy who came and asked M. to dance. We are talking 40 to my 15. I didn't think much about it. There where lots of older uncles and cousins that I didn't know. So we two stepped, and did one swing dance. Next thing I knew my friends dad was escorting him out. Found out that he wasn't an uncle, J. a guy who crashed the vow renewal party.
Yep, crashed the Christmas party of the company I no longer worked for. Had to have a name tag, so I J. took one of the ones left on the table of someone that hadn't shown up. Wouldn't ya know I happened to grab the nametag of the lady who ran HR? LOL!!!!! I was even in the pictures from the party. It was greatness!
Yep! I crashed a wedding once. They had the reception in a basement nightclub at the hotel I was staying at. Lots of people, was actually really nice. The wedding party got half off their bar drinks, if you knew the "password." Well, drunk wedding patrons being...well drunk! The password was pretty easy to figure out.
So, after enjoying myself a bit, and realizing how late it was getting, I dashed out to the gift shop, grabbed a neutral "CONGRATULATIONS!" card, and wrote, "Thanks for letting M. crash your wedding! You're a beautiful couple, and I hope the best for you. Long lives, all the love, and eternal happiness for you both." I shoved $100.00 in it and left it on the gift table, and went back to my room to pass out.
Somehow they figured out who I was, and what room I was in. After waking up with an epic hangover the next morning, room service shows up with a pot of coffee, a bottle of Asprin, and a plate of waffles. As well as a note, "You have to be the best wedding crasher ever. Enjoy!"
Yep, they bought M. breakfast.
Ten years later, they're still married, and we talk all the time. Became really good friends actually. Fortunately for M., they're the kind of couple who thinks things like this are hilarious, and were even taking bets on how many people would crash their nightclub reception. >.<
I don't think I could evr do it. But never say never :)
I have honestly always wanted to do that!!
