Hi, my son is two and will be three in march. We have been potty training him for about six months now. He does really good some days and other days he will go # two and then turn right around and pee his pants. Other days he will go pee in the potty but not #2. I was wondering if this is a power struggle issue or just that he really is to young mentally. I have six other children all older them him five that are fully grown and have never faced this kind of an issue. He also has severe allergies but when I took him to get tested for the alergies he tested posative. The doctor is away of his alergies by the food elimination diet and she said the skin test they do is not always accurate. I want to do the blood test next. Is there any other suggestions someone might have on thease topics? I did the skin test and it showed only potatoes, but I did a saliva test and it showed that I am alergic to wheat. I don't think my son can do a saliva test so I am hoping someone might have another suggestion.
Thanks so much
D.
I want to thank everyone for all of there awesome responses. It really does boil down to when he is ready he will get potty trained. He is having alot fewer accidents. and I have just quit stressing about it. also, on the allergic side. I agree on the food elimination part. thank you to everyone for your wonderful help.
D.
just be consistand,try not to get mad,or do what I did promise him something he realy wants....I did a play station a week later I had to go by a playstation..LOL
I did the same thing with my oldest son. It was so frustrating. I tried everything, cheerios, sticker calendar, everything. It finally worked (seemed like overnight) when I just quit trying. So, I would say to take a step back, relax and just leave it alone for a little while. He will do it soon. You are almost there mom... it will be fine.
T.
Hi D., don't have a lot of exoperience with allergies, but having been potty training on and off for the past year I can share our experiences on that topic. My son is almost four and potty trained during the day - we're starting to work on night-time training now. At 2 he showed a lot of interest because he wanted to do what his older friends were doing in front of him at school and home. We bought him a little potty and the seats that fit on the regular toilets. Then, one day he was jumping up and using it without any prompting and no longer having accidents. Putting him "big-boys" during the day rather than pull ups was also encouraging and fun for him. The BIG thing about boys is they not only mature slower than girls they also develop slower. So, I don't think it's a power play at this age when they aren't mature enough to think that far ahead. He probably gets distracted and it's not a big enough priority to drop something fun and run off to use the toilet. Or, his little body can't get him to the toilet quick enough once he realizes he has to go, or here it comes! Have fun and build self confidence during this milestone. We played aiming games like "get the cheerio" and rewarded with stickers and M&Ms.
Hi D.,
My son will also soon be three (which is why I was drawn to your message). We did food elimination while figuring out what was up with him. I liked the food elimination process because I knew for certain what he could and couldn't tolerate. It turns out not to be an allergy, but lactose intolerance. We're supposed to start giving him some milk items now because many children outgrow the lactose intolerance. It's just so challenging for me to give him foods that might make him sick.
Good luck!!!
I am a special ed preschool teacher and have potty trained dozens of children. When they are ready, they will be fully trained and every child does it in his own way and time. I do not think this is a power struggle...Just be patient. Enjoy and love your boy!
Your 2 and 1/2 son can do the test by just swabbing the side of his mouth. Show him a piece of cookie, at that time he will salvatate, before you give him the cookie swab his mouth. Easy !! Ann
Hi D.,
Regarding the potty training, just relax. It will happen. My son loved his sticker poster in the bathroom. If he's not in preschool already, perhaps enroll him for a couple days. My son was still having "accidents" until he started preschool. Children usually out-grow food allergies so I would relax a little. Simply keep him away from the foods that cause reactions. My kids were both sensitive to milk but by the time they were two were fine. My grand-daughter (1-1/2) was sensitive to strawberries at first but now not. You deserve an award for adopting when your children are all grown. I'm 48 also and can't image starting over again with two little ones!
Hi D.... If all of your other children were potty trained by this age... but are all full grown now... I'm willing to bet they wore diapers that are NOTHING like todays. I'm sure a bit of interest comes from feeling more wet. Can you believe that we now pay extra for pull ups that don't absorb as well? I've heard that boys take longer so I wouldn't worry... at least that's what I keep telling myself...
My boys will be 3 end of March. We are starting the potty training... I did one day of switching to regular underwear... as has been suggested by many... Let me tell you... Neither even remotely cared they were wet... one took notice that he was actually peeing... neither cared about their "big boy underwear"... and I had to clean my carpet a curtain, the couch (which is slip covered with crib liners between coushin and slip...) Back to the drawing board...I'm now fine waiting a bit longer to watch for more interest (in the mean time they do get Potty time, with stickers... and huge praise when they go... but even then they don't seem to care.)
Is your question about potty training or allergies ?
Hi, I have a 4 yr. old, 3 yr. old, and 10 month old - all boys. We potty trined (not by lack of trying) the 1st one at almost 3 1/2. It took sometime,as you know - boys are harder. I personally believe, you little boy is too young. He may get it down, but doesn't always remember. Do you take him potty like once an hour? I'm potty training the second one - he's almost all done. He was easier because he saw his older brother, and daddy pee. With doing #2, we had a few accidents. Pay attention to him, when he starts doing those little pupu-farts or trying to hide, take him and sit him down. I tell my second son - do not get up until you show me a puppu. And, not too soon there after, he will. And, constantly, I'm asking him, do you have to go potty? do you have to go puppu? Especially, after he's drank water/eaten...keep it up.
and, of course, when he does, PRAISE, PRAISE, PRAISE, and, tell him HOW PROUD YOU ARE. We play a game, when we flush..."gooood byyyyeee stinkkyyy ppppuuu-pppuuu!"
