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Well if you have found something that works then stick with it. A friend of mine used soap too to get her daughter to listen and it worked. My son is mouthy too and I use to the time out method which works and he is immediately sorry. Just as long as you using the soap as a last resort and honestly I have threatened to use soap on my son and that was all it took for him to listen and I have never needed to actually use it. Look at how well behaved children were 30 years ago and soap was used then so why not? I also praise my son when he is being well behaved instead of just yelling or time outs when he is misbehaving, so then he will hopefully understand what is acceptable behavior.
I love Harleys too, I dont have one but hopefully someday i will, its in my blood!
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I have to agree with Kat D. I am an advocate for safer , chemical free products in the home especially ones with kids, and I can tell you that most store bought bars of soap do not fall into this category. Cleaning products, including bath and body ones, can be fatal these days. I have also worked closely with DCFS and can tell you the same thing she did. I wish you luck in finding an alternative way of discouraging this behavior. I think some of the other ideas are great, you also might want to address where he is hearing these words. Best of luck!

I have found that a little drop of vinegar on the tip of their tongue works wonders. It does no damage, but they sure remember it! My son's preschool teacher actually had suggested it to me. I have even had to use that on my older two kids, and it does work! Hope I could help!!
A little about me: I am a mom of 3(a 12 year old, a 9 year old, and a 3 year old), recently divorced, love the outdoors (hunting, fishing, camping, riding horses-4wheelers-motorcycles), and I am also a recent college graduate and now working full time.

I recall growing up being told not to do something, but then not bieng told what WAS expected of me. so with my kids , when my son says 'no' to me angriliy about something. i have told him 'there is a nicer way you need to say that. you need to use other words. you can say no mommy i don't need to go potty right now(what this was usually about).. ' and it worked great. it's a work in progress. we are now redirecting them both to use words to express that they are angry/frustrated instead of hitting me.. so every so often they will say 'i'm angry at you'. or my daughter who will be 3 in november has said 'i'm upset with you'.. it's almost too cute to not laugh..lol lol but i'm hoping they can learn these techniques instead of hitting.
i firmly believe we need to be an example and show them what is right and tell them what is expected. over and over. because little ones don't have the capability to get it all at once. it's so hard to have to tell them over and over. i would love it if i only had to tell them once. i'm usually short on the patience dept..lol and we work on that as well..lol
i remember getting the bar of soap. didn't actually stop me from cussing , just made me sneakier about it. have you explained to him why we don't cuss? do you cuss around him? does he know what words are 'nicer' and what words are 'bad ' words?
i have caught myself just 'expecting' my kids to know some things and then it dawns one me.. gosh.. how the heck would they know what nicer was..lol. lol..it's like teaching an alien about the earth.. you have to teach them everything! HAHAHAHAHA..
good luck..it's very admirable that you are taking care of your grandchild . that is the case more and more these days and my mom did it with my nephew for a year or two. my aunt did it with two of her grand kids and even her great grandchild! and still is now at over 70!
T.

It sounds like he is trying to get a reaction out of you, whether it be a positive one or a negative one. And with that sometimes the best thing to do is ignore the bad behavior,and reward the good stuff. Its so hard to do too, believe me, but it does work. Sticker charts work wonders too. Give him a sticker every time he says something polite or uses good behavior and then if he has enough stickers, take them away if he doesnt. Then make sure when the week is up, that for all his stickers, he gets a reward of some sort--new toy, a treat, ice cream, whatever you want!! Also if most of this behavior is happening when you are out, like at the store, what I do is let my kids pick an item they want to buy, always something cheap, like a less then $1 toy or a candy bar, and I tell them, if they are not good, or have bad manners, they do not get that item. And if they are bad, I will give the item to the cashier and tell my child, sorry you didnt follow the rules, I wanted to get you that, but you knew the rules, so I cant and I always reassure that I love them. All I will say on the soap part is that with all the antibacterial stuff out there, it can burn a tongue, I have heard of that happening, which is why they say not to use that method anymore.

Personally, I have found vinnegar works better than soap (and it's actually good for them!). After one time all I have to do is ask my boys if they want vinnegar and they shape up. It has helped a lot of our problem areas.

This might sound a bit "touchy-feely" but perhaps you need to talk with your grandson about why he is saying these things. Are his feelings hurt? Is he frustrated? There is a book called SHEPERDING A CHILD's HEART that might be encouraging to you.

well i have been told by health n welfare not to use soap they told us to use food based products that kids won't like. The told us to use a capful of vinigar on my 4 yr old and it worked and he knows when he starts to get mouth that he doesn't want the vinigar and he will tell you that he will say he is sorry...