Hey V., I'll probably get some flack over this because there are so many younger mothers on here. I have the luxury of a huge family and friends experience thru my 50 years. Several times I took my baby into our bed (queen) and put pillows as a barrier so we wouldn't roll on him. I got flack from 2 different pedi's because in the past, many mothers had problems with separation anxiety as a result. It has always been the idea that the marital bed is best left for the parents. Yet I can understand women wanting to bond, and have an easier time with night feedings. I've also seen women who took it to extremes with the "King size family bed routine" We had a small room and yet had no problem using the Bassinet for the 1st month right beside me. It was just as comforting for me, the new mom as him. I am fortunate because even though it might sound strange my son got a bottle with a bigger hole and rice cereal put in it for his 10 pm bottle. This was done after the 1 st month. From then on (after the 1st month) He slept right thru the night, slept like a log... They wake up because they're hungry.
Now I know the younger Moms are probably rolling their eyes."Are you kidding us, semi solids at a month?" Scouts honor, it's not that unheard of. It sure worked. To have a child sleep, all night from a month on was a GREAT thing. I've heard plenty of Moms who regretted bringing the baby in the bed because it was terrible trying to get them to feel safe and secure after a year, in their own room. It also had it's effects on the dads who needed sleep to get up for work. Whatever you decide will have to be the right thing for you, not anyone else. Try out different styles and go with what you feel best. I wish you Love and Good Luck! We're here for you.