Growing up to Soon

You said your child is only 20 months old? How does she get to attend school at such a young age? Just curious.
As far as the other concerns you have go, kids learn by imitating what they see, whether it be t.v., parents, other children, etc. Just remember, when you are doing soemthing in front of her she's probably going to imitate it......so be good!!!
As far as people not speaking, well that's unfortunately the world we live in. This may be a good opportunity to teach your daughter the differences in people. Some speak, some don't, some are friendly, some aren't, etc.
I do know that your husband needs to try and spend as much time as he can with your daughter even if his job does take him away. I know from experience that if he doesn't she may grow to resent him and know that only "mommy" was there....and she probably thinks that now because she seems to be a very, very bright little girl.
Just let her develop her own personality, likes, dislikes, etc. I think that you are doing a fine job of teaching her... Please let me know about the school, where I live they don't have schools for children that young. Thanks!

Totally normal. Girls love to imitate their mommies, play dress up, etc... When she is focused on me like this, I'm concious of being a good model... I use little makeup, NEVER talk about the 10 pounds I want to lose etc... because I don't want her to start her on the path to being critical about herself (I digress...! Sorry!). Also never met a stranger at that age... and I, too, couldn't BELIEVE everyone wouldn't be as enthralled with my adorable child, but some crabby people will not return her greeting... just move on! And I wouldn't worry... as mine got a little older and started to understand the stranger thing, they are no longer to chatty with people they don't know. You're daughter will probably do the same.

sounds like a typical 2 yr old to me, I think she's fine and is doing everything a normal 2 yr old should do. monkey see monkey do.

I wouldn't worry at all about your daughter immitating you; that's how children learn, and all that she's seeing you do is perfectly normal behavior for a mother to allow her child to watch. If she's more verbally advanced for her age, great!! Our end goal in parenting is to rear competent adults, right? If she acts in adult ways, that's fine. As long as she gets plenty of time to play and do child-friendly activities, then don't worry a bit. As for the failure for others to respond when she talks to them; we have had that problem with that too. Our 6 yr old is very social and outgoing and loves to talk to pure strangers, esp. if they are kids. Some older children will ignore her for whatever reason (perhaps it's not 'cool' to talk to a 6 yr old?) and we just quietly explain to her that their behavior was rude and unkind, but what she said was important. Also, we use that experience to encourage her to be polite to others because it feels bad when we are ignored. But we don't make a big, dramatic moment. Then we move on and hope for more friendly children next time around. Good luck, and she's a lucky girl to have a mother who spends so much time with her!

It's so normal for kids to imiate what they see their parents do. Especially roll play adult things like talking on the cell phone, shaving legs, etc. It's how they learn about their world and what goes on in it. I used to be a single mom and worked 3rd shift so I would just pop my daughter in the shower with me to save time. I'll never forget the night she took a rubber duckie bath toy and started acting like she as shaving!! She told me she wanted to be like me when I asked her what she was doing!!

Mine also said hello to everyone we passed in the store too. I tried to teach her not to talk to strangers and all that but she didn't care. I just made sure I stayed right by her when she decided to strike up a conversation with someone in the ailse at the store. She out grew it and still to this day she gets all shy if someone trys to talk to her!! Go figure!

All in all, your little girl sounds like a normal toddler!! Have fun with it, play dress up with her one day. She acts like mommy and mommy gets to act like her!!

S.

Hi, my name is A.. My husband works third shift, so I can somewhat relate to your situation. I'd have to keep my daughter enetertained and usually out of the house for hours at a time just so hubby could get some sleep. Worked ok until she had to start kindergarten. We were all pretty much programed to do all our family activities during the day, while daddy was gone at night.

My daughter is a lot like me, never meets a stranger. Worries me at times, but she is rarely out of my sight. Very paranoid about keeping close check on her, since one of my best friend's babies was almost abducted at the Baby's R Us store. It was an elderly looking - grandparent looking couple, and they waited until Tammie was pretty much cornered in the back of the store with no one in close proximity. If it hadn't been for Tammie's quick thinking, I do belive that couple would have kidnapped her darling little boy.

I try to take the approach that I don't ever want to tell my children outright lies. I'll counter a question with a question a lot to avoid answering right away, because, let's face it, they can come up with the darndest questions in the most embarrassing circumstances. lol Santa Claus and Easter Bunny are described as mythocal symbols represnting the good within all peopele, the qualities that make us Christrians and wanting to share goodwill. Anyone can be Santa as long as they feel with their heart.

I decided before my children were born that I wanted them to feel like they could come to their parents with ANY concerns. I try to make it easy for them to make confessions for wrong-doings and get them to help me decide on a suitable punishment. They are usually more likely to pick a more strict punishment than I would dish out, surprisingly enough.

You have a bright child -- imitation is TOTALLY normal! And that she speaks to people so eagerly is fine -- though it would be okay to start talking to her about who strangers are and all that. Right now, because of your situation with the husband and her age, you're really, REALLY into her and have made her your center-of-the-universe -- which is totally fine! But, her "hi" doesn't impact strangers the same way. Maybe they don't know she's saying it to them or maybe they're lost in their thoughts or maybe they're in a bad mood -- whatever -- they aren't required to answer her. I think you are doing a great job mothering your daughter!

This is totally normal and aside from her spending more time with children there is no need to change her behavior. She is understanding what it is like to be a mommy. I have two girls and both of them did the same thing. As for talking to everyone, enjoy it while it last because many children who are very friendly and will talk to anyone will become "shy" a little after they turn 2. The experts say it is because the understand the difference between strangers and the people in their daily lives. There is of course a range, I have a very shy, cautious little girl and one that will tell anyone anything but after she "reads" them. Enjoy this time with your daughter but try not to make her the total center of your life as she will benefit from seeing you nurture yourself.