Grandson

Grandpa needs a time out.
As they say, its a minute for every year....Just make sure to keep placing him back in his time-out spot until he recognizes his wrong-doings. Then tell him to say he's sorry.

Saw it on SuperNanny.

Margaret ;)

Remove grandpa from the picture. He needs to be nice.

I would also remove him. Why is he doing this? Does he know that it hurts your grandson? You need to protect him, which includes his feelings. The parents will soon catch on and they need to know that you will help him or you will end up cut off with your husband.

Actually...while it was absolutely amusing to read...I sort of agree with Margaret's reply...But maybe for timewise the oldest child's age...You could explain to your husband it's a good way to teach your grandson that the behavior is unacceptable for ANYONE...at any age...But I would also have a conversation with your husband letting him know that while this behavior was not only acceptable but encouraged in his generation, nowadays it doesn't "toughen a kid up" but hurts their feelings and causes them to not want anything to do with the person doing it. When it is a family member, the child becomes conflicted because this is someone that supposedly loves them that is hurting their feelings so often.

Explain to him that at some point your grandson is going to not want to visit any more and his parents will respect that wish. How hurt will your husband be when his grandson doesn't want to see and spend time with him. More so, how will he feel when he has caused you pain because you can only see your grandchildren without him around.

Good Luck...