Godparents Question - Who to Pick?

If you aren't thinking of having another child, then why not have all three siblings (two brothers and one sister) stand up for this baby? I don't think there is a rule that it has to be only two people.

God parents do not have to be married to share this honor. My youngest son's godmother is my best friend and his god father is my husbands best friend. all the rest of the kids godparents are relatives. The godparents are not an absolute sure thing about taking kids should something happen to the parents. godparents main role is to make sure the children are brought up in the church.

Godparenting is a symbolic thing in my experience. I am the godmother of the son of a good friend of mine. However, according to her will I am not the one that would take him if something happened to her. She has designated her in-laws for that. Also, I'm the godmother and another family friend is the godfather. We're not a couple, and we're not related.

If I were you I'd add my sister on as a godmother. She would probably be very honored. I enjoy doting on my godson and his little brother. I remember him on holidays and birthdays and sometimes just send a card to let him know I'm thinking about him. She might like to do those things as well.

I don't get it! Why do you assume that godparent/guardian are the same? The role of godparent is to ensure the child's religious education & involvement. & seriously, in today's world, it's just a token symbol of your own commitment to your child's future......& that's it. Godparents don't "do" much!

Guardianship is a very different matter & requires legal action on your part to set up. That said, please include your sister....it's like a slap in the face to leave her out. I also find it interesting that you felt the need to include the fact that she is "deaf". & as for the whole mix-up of male/female....it's completely your choice: when my godson was baptized, he received 5!! godfathers & 1 godmother.......& my oldest son has 2 godmothers & no godfather. I wish you Peace.

Godparents aren't actually supposed to be the person to take care of your children in the unfortunate event of your death. A godparent is someone who is supposed to help guide your child religiously (hence the name GODparent). Think about how silly that would be since each child has different godparents - would they all be split and sent off to live with their own godparents? If you feel your sister could do a good job of being there religiously for your baby, then choose her as a godparent. Then, create a will where you choose who will raise your kids, if needed, when you pass.

I'm a born again Christian and my church doesn't do the "God parent" thing. I know this is a Catholic thing because my mother was Catholic and insisted our family be "Catholic" as well but we did not practice Catholicism. My mom chose for my sister, her God mother was a Catholic nun ~ friend of the family. For the God fathers (yes, you can have more than one, I suppose), my mother chose my step father's twin brothers, I won't even tell you what kind of men they were! The God parents role is to support the religious upbringing of the child. They should be "good" role models, they should be ones who will, well, be spiritual. I've never ever heard of the God parents being guardians for the child. That must be an old wives tale. It sounds like you have happily made your selection so good luck to you and your family.

First, as many have said, God parent is not a legal guardian.

Second, you should speak with your priest/pastor. In our church (Episcopalian) we had to have a God Mother and God Father. We could then have as many "witnesses" or "Sponsors" as we wanted... but we couldn't just have two God Mothers. My church is fairly relaxed... so this leads me to think you may need one of each gender.

I wouldn't leave out my sister. This is another one of those moments (like a wedding) where you can strengthen your family or weaken it. You can be inclusive and bring the family closer, or cause hurt feelings. Always choose on the side of being inclusive.

Best of luck.

I'm not sure where the idea came from that godparents get custody if parents pass away - I remember thinking that as well when I was growing up. But you need a WILL to chose those people - it's a LEGAL choice (and you can have people that care for them physically/emotionally, and then a separate person to manage their financial affairs if the loving people are financially clueless).

Godparents are intended to be the religious "guides". Though sometimes people just pick somebody to be nice (I remember being picked to be a godparent when I was a teenager and I had NO clue what I was supposed to do).

So now you can pick your sister as Godparent, and put the poeple you want to be their Legal Guardians in your will, should you pass away.

Not really following your thinking at all here. The tradition (if thats what you would call it) around here is that you pick one from each side. I think that you should absolutley pick your sister and one of your brothers. If you pick both of his brothers and not your sister I can guarantee you that she will be very hurt and with good reason. Think about it-Rather than going the traditional route and choosing a man and woman, you have made the EXTRA effort to go outside the norm to NOT include her.

And the godparent responsibility is NOT to take care of the child in case of something happening to you. If that were true-why would you be comfortable splitting your children up?????????? Your requirements for "guardianship" should be much more extensive than for godparents. IF you haven't done it yet- MAKE A WILL!!!! Or let the state decide to whom your children will go.

why not your sister and one of the brothers? The godparents are just there for love and support religiously, guardians are a totally different thing. Our daughter's godparents are my BIL and my best friend, who only met each other at the baptism. If we have another the godparents will probably be my sister and the same BIL.

I think you made a great decision :)
My sister did something similar for her 2nd son. She chose her best friend and her husband to be Godparents and also our brother to be an additional Godfather. We think the more people praying for and introducing God and the Bible into the little ones life the better.

Godparents are not the same as guardians - a guardian is someone you designate to actually be responsible for your children (financially) if you were to die. This is typically part of your WILL. A Godparent is supposed to support you in the moral/religious upbringing of your child. They can certainly be the same person or couple, but it doesn't have to be. Naming someone to be a guardian is a legal arrangement. I think it would be nice to include your sister as a godparent or "angel"- by doing so, it does not mean she will be responsible for your children as a guardian - that, of course, is a very serious decision that should be made with your childrens' best interests in mind as to who you would want them to be raised by in the event of your untimely death.

In my world, Godparents are not the ones who would care for my children in the event of my death. I see that as a totally separate issue.
That said, we chose the two sisters - mine and my husband's - to be my son's godparents. When my daughter came along, we chose 2 very close friends of the family. Needless to say - we don't make a huge deal about Godparents. My daughter's Godparents don't see her much anymore - we moved. My son's Godparents also live far away... it is not a huge deal. They send cards... they are there if the kids need them...
If I were you, I'd choose his brother and your sister to be the Godparents. It will work out just fine.

Then - go make out your will and decide who will be caring for your children in the event of your death. We chose my sister for a LOT of reasons. We never discussed it with anyone but her. She thought long and hard before she said yes - she's younger than I and at that time was not married and was living across the country.
Choose wisely... This is one of the most important decisions you'll make as a parent. We made sure that the children would be able to stay in their family home with the purchase of a life insurance policy that would cover the cost of the mortgage. These are things that were important to us, but might not be important to you. Think and plan... make lists... ask questions.
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Many people use "Godparent" as a term to refer to the person they plan to be their child's guardian in the event something happens to both parents. In reality, one has nothing to do with the other unless you put it in writing legally. Godparents are technically someone who help insure your child is brought up in your chosen faith and do so regardless of if the parents are alive or not and regardless of who their guardians may be.

For my son, we picked my sister and her husband (was her boyfriend at the time) and one of my close male friends (so my son has two godfathers). None of which have acted in the true "Godparent" role but it was a battle w/ his father. Since we were young, we saw it also as the "guardian" as that was the typical intent with our families. He is now an adult so that part of things has passed but I wish they had fulfilled the traditional role. For my daughter (now 4 yrs) we picked my other sister and my husband's brother. My sister does attend church with us.

So, who to pick really depends on what "Godparent" means to you. If it is the true meaning then you need to pick the person(s) who would best raise your child in your religion. If it is the guardian meaning then who would be best suited to raise your child the way you would want and step up as parental figures is who you should pick. It has nothing to do w/ leaving someone out or not. I would want my children together.

Either way, you need to insure whomever you pick as guardians is written up legally and hope you never need them.

Are you allowed by the church to have 2 Godfathers? Im not catholic you should check with your priest. I would have one brother and your sister. If you only have one sister then why hurt her feelings. I don't know why you mentioned she was deaf does that even matter? Well it's your kid and your life so you and your husband should do what you guys want.

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Are you allowed by the church to have 2 Godfathers? Im not catholic you should check with your priest. I would have one brother and your sister. If you only have one sister then why hurt her feelings. I don't know why you mentioned she was deaf does that even matter? Well it's your kid and your life so you and your husband should do what you guys want.

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Are you allowed by the church to have 2 Godfathers? Im not catholic you should check with your priest. I would have one brother and your sister. If you only have one sister then why hurt her feelings. I don't know why you mentioned she was deaf does that even matter? Well it's your kid and your life so you and your husband should do what you guys want.

We only went with ONE Godparent for our second child. If he ever gets married, then we would include his wife as our sons Godmother as well.....

You can definitely choose ONE of the brothers and that way, you still have 2 relatives that are not picked...... Or, if you really feel this is your last, do 2 Godfathers and 1 Godmother.

You should have a will written up with who the children would go to if something were to happen to BOTH you and your husband. (You would most likely want them to stay together anyway.....Not be split up between 2 families.)

Yes, that's a good decision made,
The 3 of them will be very nice!!

Godparents are whoever you choose that would continue their religious upbringing. It shouldn't be a popularity contest, so hopefully your families will understand. I don't see a problem having the same Godparents for all your children. After all, they have the same parents. Why not? That way they will all be with the same people to go to church and study the Bible if something should happen to you.