My friend lost his son last year and this will be his first Father's Day without him. I'd like to do something to let him know that I'm thinking about him, but I am at a lost as to what to do. Any ideas?
I think just a card to say you're thinking of him on this difficult day. We lost a son many years ago, and there's really nothing anyone can do to make it easier.
My mom always brings me flowers for my daughter's birthday and death anniversary. There's always a note written to my daughter attached. Sometimes people are so afraid of making you cry they forget how normal and healing it can be. Anything will be sweet and he will love that you remembered him. Wish there were more thoughful people in the world like you. :) There's Compassionate Friends (a support group for people who's children have died) and in SE WI there's a children's memorial. I wonder if there is closer to you. At one time it was $40 to have their name added.
We lost our son (22 yrs old) on Saturday so our pain is pretty fresh, his birthday was Tuesday so we already had that first to deal with, Fathers day is going to be hard for my husband. I agree with the ones who said a card but more importantly, a dinner or movie out on a day close to father's day. I think we would be reminded to much on Fathers day when there is so many fathers out with their children and while you are happy for them, it hurts. If you want a gift I would think an keychain or lapel angel pin or what I plan on getting my father, father in law and husband is key chains that has the lazer pictures on it of our son.
I would probably have to ask him....Hon I know this is a very difficult day for you, I would like to do something that will make it better, what can I do?
I lost my son 3 years ago and on mother's day I just stayed at home and stayed away from people. I think it would be appropriate to just get a card to say that you're thinking about him. Don't go too far though. Keep it simple and maybe ask him if he wants to go do something with you...like a movie.
What a great friend you are! As a mom who lost a child, I can tell you any acknowledgment you make will mean a lot. Hallmark actually makes Fathers Day cards for dads who are grieving. Ask if there's anything he'd like to do that day and offer to go along. Don't be offended if he wants to be alone. Everyone handles grief differently, and I think it's especially hard for dads.
I think offering to take him out for lunch over the weekend. He might just be too sad on Sunday. I would just say, "I was thinking about you and wondered if you would let me treat you to lunch this weekend". I would not give him a present. I know it would be much to emotional for me.
