Getting Pregnant - Glenville, MN

I was in the same boat you are just a few weeks ago. After a long talk with a close friend, she opened my eyes to how fun the trying part can be. Lets face it...sex and making love can be dang fun! So, I stopped tracking, and taking temps. I have a general idea of when I ovulate...and you probably do now too. I'm trying hard not to put so much pressure on the 'window of opportunity'. I'm trying hard to just concentrate on my husband and our love making and being intimate...and making it fun. It was starting to become work for us and I was losing all hope too. Now that I've changed my thinking...it's fun again. And, if a baby comes out of it...great. but, if not...at the very least, I'm having fun with the sex part and it feels good, and I'm happier. When you think of it, chances are, that's how your other babies where created. In previous generations, they didn't have the ovulation test kits availale, or the tempurature charts, etc...they just had fun having sex amd making love. It's NOT a wasted month if another month goes by and you don't have a baby in your belly...because you will be able to look back at the month and think about all the fun sex you had. Get back to basics. Just tell yourself over and over that it's about the making love and being intimate and the love you share together...not about making babies.

A.,

Hello! My husband and I tried getting pregnant for about 1-1/2 years and nothing was working - I started to get worried that something was wrong. I started talking to my girlfriends and they suggested the book, Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler.

http://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-Your-Fertility-Reprod...

I found the book extremely helpful and learned so much more about my body that I'd never known before! I had thought I ovulated on Day 11 and it was really Day 18!!!! We NEVER would've gotten pregnant. I feel so much more in-tune with my body and now know when I'm ovulating. We have an amazing, perfect, 13 month old son. I've rec. this book to my cousins and other friends and they've had great success, too!

Also, just try to relax and enjoy each other :)

i know that this worked for me all the 12 times i've been pregnant. try to put a pillow under your bottom just enough to lift up but not to be uncomfortable. hold it like that for about 10 minutes then go potty. as you know after sex going to the potty .... can use a lot of toilet paper, but this time you should use less:p yes i heard about it in an old wifes tale.but it worked. good luck.

Figure out the day that you should be getting your next period and then count back 14 days. That should be right around the time that you should be ovulating. You should notice a change in your cervical mucus at that time. Take an ovulation test and see if it's positive. If so, get busy :o)
Otherwise, get a thermomitor and take your temp every morning BEFORE getting out of bed. Put it on a piece of graph paper or print a chart on babycenter.com and when you notice a big dive and then spike you should be ovulating.
I think that having a process like this takes some of the stress out of it because you aren't "trying" every day and then wondering. The ovulation predictor is great because if it says you are ovulating and you don't get pregnant you will know there might be an issue.
Happy baby making!
J.

Relax! Like Patty said, make it fun...maybe go away by yourself for the day or a night and you will be excited to see you hubby when you get home. Take a night out just the two of you no kids and have fun, you know the rest :), you could try to get away for a night or two (just you and hubs), I have known lots of women to get pregnant while off on vacation or just away for a while. I would have to agree with not taking notes of when you ovulate and all that other jazz, just relax and have fun.

I am right there with you girl. We are currently trying for baby number two and nothing is happening. I went and saw and doctor and for me it is possible I am too over weight. Plus they say that if you think about it too much you will cause yourself to be waiting a lot longer. We are currently in my ovulation week so my fingers are crossed. I don't know how helpful this was, but good luck!

I would pick up the book, "Taking Charge of your Fertility." It outlines a process called the Fertility Awareness Method. It involves taking your basal body temp everyday and checking your cervical mucous. Basically, once you understand the principles, you'll have a good understanding of when you are fertile, and when you are not. Also, taking Mucinex leading up to ovulation can help to increase your eggwhite cervical mucous.

(((HUGS))) I feel the same way. It's been a rough road. I wonder how I ever managed to get pregnant with my son. And if one more person tells me to RELAX I am going to hurt them! LOL Please please please NEVER TELL SOMEONE TTC TO RELAX! You are not doing anything but adding to our stress! Hopefully there will be a BFP in our near futures. Good luck to you!

We are in the same boat my friend! We got pregnant with our first child the month before we were going on vacation to work on the "project". We have been trying for three months, just finished my period yesterday!

I just can't stop the stress myself either. I read through your other replies and I agree, you need to take eithr extreme, either just have fun, and take what happens, or make it a job! Track everything to the detail.

I have come to a small piece of mind, that has helped me relax! Our first son, that we didn't try for, is an amazing child, with the sweetest personality, this child was meant to be. There are tons of sperms out there, not as many eggs, but the two that are meant to be your child WILL come together. Every child, to me, is a blessing, so maybe we need to wait a little longer for our blessings, but have fun doing it!!!

Good luck!

Not sure if I have much advice, but here's a bit of my story. I am currently 24 weeks pregnant with my second after trying for 2 years. I had uterine polyp surgery after the first three months of trying, then began infertility treatment (clomid, estrogen, and progesterone at various times throughout the cycle) and also surgery for endometriosis after trying for almost a year and a half. I continued the clomid, weekly ultrasounds to check for ovulation and ovarian cysts each month - blah, blah, blah. It was no fun at all. I also used ovulation predictor kits every month. Nothing was working. The hormones made me feel terrible and all the running to the doctor's office was not only expensive with copays each time and driving 35 miles each way. After 9 months of that therapy I told my husband I couldn't do it anymore and needed a break. I took 4 months off and was going to start up again the following month when I found out I was pregnant! I had pretty much given up and was going to quit trying all together when I turned 35. I'm not sure if somehow that made me relax enough for it to happen or what.

My thoughts had turned to my son who I love so dearly and I began counting my blessings that I had him. I had accepted that he may be the only one and I decided I was okay with that if that's how it was meant to be. Obviously that's not how it was meant to be, but I was satisfied with either outcome. I think this made getting pregnant less of a chore and more fun. But who knows really. I hope you can take something from this and that it works out for you as it did for me.