For almost a month now, my daughter who is 3, started going pee in the potty. She doesn't even pee the bed. But I can't get her to poop in the potty. She likes dancing & wants to go to school. So I told her if she wants to do that then she has to use the potty. Well that worked for peeing but she tells me she poops in her pull up. I tried using underware but she poops in that too. I know in time she will go but is there anyway for me to help her more.
Hi C.,
Boy do I know exactly what you are going through! We did a couple of things.
We used a sticker chart for both potty training, and when she went poop, she got two stickers for her chart. Also, there is a movie called Potty Time. That helped tremendously. It was the only one I found that even addressed poop.
I promise you, it will get better.
Dear C.:
I agree with Kellie P, when my son was potty training the poop was the hardest thing to get him to leave in the potty. As a Physician Assistant Certified in AK & PA (now medically retired due to cancer) I started having him wave bye bye to his poop. It took some time, first I had him come into the bathroom and we waved bye bye to my poopies. You have to understand, this is something that your daughter made...therefore it is Hers she does not want to see it go away. Making a game of waving bye bye to the poopies caused my son to start pooping on the toilet within a week. Problem solved...Until we heard him talking to one of his playmates and telling them that Mommy waves bye bye to her poopies...and laughing hysterically. Oh well he is now 17 and guess what still poops on the potty...LOL. The other thing you have to remember is every child will do the potty thing when they are ready, don't push it either, this can cause control issues...think about it what does a 3 year old have control over??? Nothing....right...So give her control over when the poopies go in the pottie, try the waving bye bye, I promise she won't go to college in diapers.
Best of luck to you,
J. T
Hi C.,
I have a 2 1/2 year old boy and am just starting to address the subject of potty training. We bought the dvd elmo's potty time. He really seems to enjoy that. Another thing i think they have a sort of seperation anxioty with there poop. For so long they carry it with them and its hard for them to see it go. I know it sounds weird but i did read it some where. If your comfortable in doing so, show your daugheter when you and your husband go and wave bye-bye and have a big goofy party in your bathroom. It may motivate her? Good luck!
My 18-month old started to pee in the potty nearly with no trouble, so at home we left her with no diaper(undies or naked butt) and potty around, so she can go when she has to... but poops took few more days or nearly a week later... had to have few accidents before that and never was mad with her, just explained calmly to her, that the poop goes to potty and not floor or pants... and she has gone both to potty for more than month now... of course sleeping and out of home we still need diapers, but at home all poops and pee she does in the potty... and i really am so happy over that!!! :)
but is your daughter going to big potty or little one? if the little one, then you could just keep it around so that she can go as soon as she feels the need for it... although she is pretty big to understand and the problem rather is that she is used to do it in a pull-up and that's why she does so... so i guess best solution for you is to just talk to her calm, where the poop goes and keep using underwear... i know is messy, but is less confusion for her then, as that way is always same - always just undies and everything goes to potty... hope it helps... :)
This is going to sound bad, especially coming from a teacher...but I was having a heck of a time getting my 3 year old daughter to use the potty. She would go every once and awhile, when she felt like it and I was at my ends with it. I went out and we bought a special piggy bank (nothing expensive a dollar or two from Wal-mart). I told her if she went pee on the potty, that I would give her a penny...that seem to be working so after a few days I added to it. I offered her a quarter for every time she pooped on the potty. In probably 3-4 days she was only going on the potty, no more in her panties. She loved putting the change in her piggy bank and watching the money accumulating. I have talked to a few other parents, they have tried and it has worked for them too. Good luck, I know how frustrated it can be.
Sometimes potty training is such a hard thing. I understand completely. My son, who is going to be 4 next month, was on the same track as your daughter at the same age. He did so good with peeing in the potty. But we just couldn't get him to poop. It was a SLOW and GRADUAL thing. I honestly think what worked best was this one video a friend recommended. I kind of laughed when she handed it to me...but HE LOVED IT. He still watches it and talks about it when he goes to the potty. It is called "Potty time with Bear". It teaches they to "listen to their body" when they have to go. It is a Disney movie, with Bear and the Big Blue House. He really enjoyed listening to it..he quotes it when he has to go to the potty. I guess they go when they are ready...but this really helped. Best of luck!!
Abby
I had the same problem with my son. So we came up with the potty board.I got a piece of poster board and some stickers of his choice. the dollar store is great for this being cheap. I made a huge deal out of it so everytime he went potty he got to pick a sticker to put on the board; which i hung in the bathroom. He couldnt wait to show off how many he got. Good Luck!
My son did the same thing when he turned 3. At first I was patient but I realized that he could do it, he just didn't want to. I stuck with the pullups for a while but it was a waste, so I put him in underwear. He kept pooping in his underwear so I questioned him about it. He said "I don't care cuz you can clean it". With that I had it. He loved his Thomas undies and I told him that I would throw them away next time. (gulp, an expensive gamble). I threw one pair away and he was heartbroke, he didn't think I would do it. The next day he starting pooping in the potty and never pooped in his pants on purpose again. Yes, a drastic measure, but sometimes you have to call them on stuff.
