Hi D.:
It would appear, that your a little late in asking for advice here,as its clear you've already created ill feelings with your neighbors. your first reaction of swearing and slamming windows, has obviously left a (nasty taste in their mouth) pardon the pun. Not all smokers are rude,My husband and I have smoked for years, and we have always been considerate of those around us. We never smoke in front of the Grandkids,and we never smoke ,in front of businesses, parks or sporting events. We have always excused ourselves and walked what ever distance we had to as to not offend, or subject others to the second hand smoke.however, smokers,in the last ten years, have basically been judged, alienated,and treated like second class citizens. They don't respond favorably to those individuals,who compound those feelings of being discriminated against,by swearing and being rude. Personally, If I was your neighbor,and you had acted maturely,by coming over and explaining the problem to me in a nice way,I would have had no problem finding another place to have an occasional smoke. You could have said,"I'm sorry if I come across like a whiner,and I certainly am not suggesting you stop smoking, (Thats your right) During the cooler season its not a problem, but because of the heat, I have to leave my window open to get some ventilation.The smoke comes directly through my bedroom window. I"m sorry,but it really is strong,and I'm unable to sleep. Is there any possibility, that you could smoke on the other side of the house? anywhere that wouldn't blow it my way? "If you could, at least till it cools off","I would really appreciated it" D.,You wouldn't have had any arguments from me. You can't expect your neighbors to read your mind. They don't know theres a problem, till you speak to them.I might add, that alot of smokers,who are in the process of trying to quit,begin by refraining smoking in the house.This automatically cuts back on the amount of smoking,because its less convienant having to go outside.Your impatience,and rude behavior,during a stressful time,when they may have been attempting to try and break an addiction has more than likely added to their frustration.Like anyone,trying to wean themselves off a drug,it helps to have support,and while I am not suggesting,intervention or getting out your pom poms and leading the neighborhood in cheers,its to your advantage,to show a little more tact in this situation. You started off on a bad note, You can only hope, that they are more mature, and forgiving in nature, and will consider your request,as it is (NOT illegal to smoke on your own property) When that day comes, they will have to make tobacco illegal. I wish you the best. J.