Vanessa - TIME TO ACT FAST! (I also agree with Kim, having the kids removed just might be the thing that would OPEN her eyes)
Bad divorce
Out of debt/great job/nice home
Worships children/good mom
Engaged 4-5 times since “bad divorce”
Let angry, violent, jealous, controlling on line stranger who breaks things move in
Police involvement
Children don’t like on line stranger
Family does not like on line stranger
Friends don’t like on line stranger
Getting married this weekend
Someone needed to do a background check on this guy a long time ago. I’m not sure what you can do now, but if family is in fear for her safety, they should notify the local authorities and maybe they can see if this guy has a history in Texas (I’m betting he does) and if he has any outstanding warrants (anywhere).
The other thing that comes to mind is family and friends do a big intervention TODAY with as many people present as possible including her children. (You could even do it at the wedding rehearsal, make sure there are a couple of strong men there incase he gets violent). If the pastor sees this guy blow up chances are he/she would not go through with the wedding.) No one should be afraid or worried about losing a daughter, sister, mother or friend, because this woman is clearly, already lost and on a collision course for disaster.
I also need to say that she is NOT a good mother nor does she worship her children, because if she did she would never have let this man into her life and theirs. If she once was and has done a 90 degree since this guy showed up, maybe the family could make a move to have her hospitalized for a physiatrist evaluation…..especially is he has a record and any outstanding warrants.
If she is planning on getting married in a church, you could also have a frank conversation with the clergy that is scheduled to conduct the ceremony.
If the family and friends can’t get it together to do an intervention, under no circumstance should any of you attend this wedding. Many senseless tragedies have occurred because friends and family remained silent in the face of serious trouble.
This is just scary and I will pray for your friend and all of the people who care for her…Please keep us posted.
PS...if the guy has outstanding warrants, the police could arrest him at the church!
Blessings….