To be clear, we were trying to get pregnant . But now that I just confirmed it with a test, I want to throw up. I'm 37. This will be my third and last. I am anticipating putting off plans, dreams, and goals and adjusting to the next two years in survival mode. My day is upside down, I cannot focus, do, think, ahhhhh! Its funny because it is actually my due date this weekend from a lost pregnancy last spring. Why is it that even though we were trying, I am so horrified?
Congratulations and once the hormones level off and you feel more adjusted it will be wonderful. I always felt like that at first. Shock, joy, horror, all in one for while.
Jane - you are horrified because the loss is still fresh in your head. I lost a baby at 22 weeks - six years ago - and there are days when I it seems like the loss just happened last week. I'm sorry for your loss. I really am.
CONGRATULATIONS on this pregnancy!!! Please don't let the past torment you. The stress and anxiety you will cause yourself will do you no good.
Please enjoy this pregnancy!!!
Reality is a different beast. Give yourself time to adjust. Maybe the coincidence of the dates has you thinking twice as much. Congrats!
Jane,
Congratulations! Everything will be ok. You are adjusting to the pregnancy hormones--its normal to have a big mixed bag of emotions. Take some time for you and it will sink in.
Congratulations! Yeah, it's one thing to want to be pregnant, and another thing when it actually happens. Give yourself some time to wrap your head around it. Both times were like that for me - just total panic and horror, even though I had imagined I'd be thrilled!
Well, "they" freak out in general when you get pregnant after age 35. Expect them to treat you like you're a pregnant 80-year old!! I had my fifth baby at 39 which was almost 7 years after my last child but 4 years after my miscarriage. C O N G A T U L A T I O N S !!!!!!!!! It could be hormones playing a part in this. Things get wacky when I'm pregnant especially in the beginning!
Give yourself some time to mentally and hormonally shift your gears.
You'll be fine soon as you stop thinking about what you think you'll be missing and start looking forward to and enjoying this last go round with pregnancy.
Take a deep breath.... (take two). I agree with the other two post. Your body is simply reacting to the realization that you are indeed pregnant again. It was a scary thought for me too when I first found out I was pregnant. Good luck on your journey and God Bless!
I could have written your post. I'm also 37 and I just found out on Monday that we're expecting our 4th baby. We were not trying. I had been on the fence for awhile about having a 4th. I had just gotten to the point where I was OK with stopping at 3, and voila-pregnant! I still can't believe it. I am starting to get a bit excited though! Best of luck. Things will work out. One day at a time!
I am really excited for u! It must have meant to be:). I think it is natural to be anxious.. It will sink in and all the positive things to come.
Totally feel you there! When I got pregnant with my third, I freaked a bit, I think it is so normal and totally hormonal! We were planning to wait another year or so but well you know how that goes. Now my little guy will be a year next month and now I can't believe how fast his first year has flown by! Just let yourself feel all this whirlwind of emotion and know that it is a-ok :) Oh p.s., I was 36 when I had him and they had me do a whole bunch more ultrasounds etc, I was considered 'high' risk, but I had absolutely no problems :)
Could you be a bit afraid that you may have another pregnancy lost? I know I was when I got pregnant again. I would get frantic that we would loose another baby and I just didn't want to go through that again. I always get a bit scattered on the birthdays of my children who died and getting through the dew date in the first year was hard as well.
Congratulations! I was so happy to be pregnant with #3 at age 38, but it was the longest nine months of my life. Chasing after the two older kids while feeling nauseous throughout the whole pregnancy was hard. But you'll make it through just fine :-)
I was really scared when I got pregnant at 30. And yes, I was off the pill on purpose but I thought I would get pregnant later, not like in 1 1/2 months. I was nervous and frightened for a couple days but then I was excited. If you are feeling this way next week then maybe you should talk to someone and explore your feelings. But I think that lots of women are not "thrilled" when they find out they are pregnant even if its planned and wanted.
