Forgetting My Downfall

Psssh, and then instead of YELLING at you, he can put the damn clothes away himself!Sounds like he has a little control problem and you have a little self esteem problem and you both need to WISE up and work TOGETHER for a happy life!!

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Well, he shouldn't be yelling at you, first of all. Some, no most, highly intelligent people are absent minded. I've always been forgetful so I use lists for everything. I have a list on my computer of all the things I ever buy at the grocery store - I use it to prompt me when I make my weekly list to go to the store. I always take a list to the store. I have a list of things I want to get done, a list of Christmas presents (check mark for done and check mark for wrapped), a list of calls I need to make. When my husband says anything to me, I tell him the reason I forget so much is that I have more to remember than you! Cheer up...and don't let him yell at you, that's just mean.

Any chance your forgetting started when you had the baby? I cannot tell you how many times I start something and then don't finish because I have to go do something for the kids, then something else comes up and all of a sudden it is much later or days later and I finally finish. It can be really fruastrating. You should discuss this with your doc ,make sure nothing is wrong first. Maybe if you make a daily list of things to do and keep it with you? As you finish something you can check it off. If you look at the list and it is not checked off, you know you still need to work on it.
And I totally agree with the other poster that boyo can get off his butt and help get clothes put away.

I suggest you're having difficulty because you're stressed and depressed. I'd be both if this were happening to me. Both cause memory loss. You may also be suffering from postpartum depression. I urge you to talk with your doctor about it. I think an anti-depressant would help you.

I also suggest that you and your boyfriend get some couples counseling. He's adding to your stress with his lack of understanding. Have you tried talking with him about how you're feeling? If he's not willing to cut you some slack, I suggest that he has to at least stop yelling at you. Could he agree to that?

I think you should talk to your doctor about this, and if that one has no assistance you need to find a new one.
I took a quick peek with a search of "young adult forgetfulness" here is what I got:
http://www.bing.com/search?q=young+adult+forgetfulness&am...=
I have no clue if it is anything like these items but I would rather know then not don't you think?

Dont the clothes on the bed for 4 days remind you that they are there?
Maybe you need to see a doctor. Short term memory loss for someone only 21 would mean you have something wrong I would guess.
If b/f says "Hey Babe, why are the clothes STILL on the bed, wouldnt that mean you could say "oh yeah, help me put them away while your here dear"... and be done with it.

No one should be yelling at you first of all. I agree if he reminds you to do something "nicely" and/or helps that should solve the problem. If you feel it is more serious than simply being scatterbrained, you should definitely discuss it with a proper doctor. Good luck! Tell your boyfriend you hate it too, you want to do your best, and that the yelling at you needs to stop.

First, know that it is normal and you can do things to work with it. Sometimes our diet can be the cause of it in a deficiency of a certain nutrient. I have had this problem for years and for a while was so very afraid that I was getting Alzheimers. Anyway, I was just deficient in nutrients because of the way I was eating. But I now do things to help me remember. For instance, a list of things to do, I set alarms on my calendar on my cell phone for scheduled appointments, little reminders will be different for everyone. Some like written calendars. Basically just find ways to help yourself to remember. But I would venture to guess that the more you worry about it, the more you will forget. I have also taken gingko biloba as a supplement and it has helped greatly. Good Luck.

Maybe you have ADD, you should see a psychologist if you suspect it may be that, or if you just need someone to talk to and who can give you tips and advice on what may be causing this and what a possible solution may be, OR, maybe you have your plate so full that you're forgetting about other things. How about asking him to help with some of the chores? I sometimes leave the clean dishes in the dishwasher for 2 days, not because I forget, but because I have no time to do everything in one day and the constant "dishes in dishwasher" voice in my head talking to me every 2-3 hours can be irritating as I am a perfectionist and a neat freak. Sometimes I wish I could be less of a worrywart. Anyhow, my point is, some things are not that important that he has to yell at you for not putting them away; some things can wait, such as putting clean dishes away or folding laundry if you have other more important things to tend to, and if the mess or lack of perfect organization bothers him, like I said, ask HIM to help you put the things away, as you have no control over your forgetfulness and it's not like you're doing it on purpose to annoy him.

Try this..journal your plans for each day and follow the task at hand. I have a challenge with multitasking and some things go un done. I have to keep my mind FOCUSED on doing the task at hand until it is complete.

I agree with everyone who says to talk to your doctor. That doesn't always result in being on medication! He or she may be able to help you find the cause of the memory loss and decide together what you are comfortable with!
About 3 months ago, I sat down with my parents and asked them if we had dementia on either side of the family because I was so concerned about my memory loss! I am not kidding you! They both said no, and then my brother-in-law, who is a school psychologist, asked if I'd ever looked into ADHD! I looked it up that afternoon, and most of the checklist applied to me! I personally don't feel I need medication, and I choose to find strategies that work for me and help me remain a functional person/parent/wife. But just finding an answer to what was going on in my head was so freeing!
I'm not saying you have ADHD, I'm just saying you should talk to a professional who can help you get to the bottom of this.
It's no fun feeling like you're losing it! :)

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Have you been to the Dr? There may be something chemical going on, or you just may be under so much stress that you try to get everything done, & it just ends up in a hap hazard way.

I would talk to your Dr.

Adult ADD. Get it checked out.

This happens to many, you are not alone. See a doctor and/or therapist. Their may be treatments or skills you can acquire to help you stay on track better. Although my memory is not as challenging, I admit to having issues and know how frustrating it can be. If your boyfriend gets upset, invite him to take on the task of either reminding you or doing the deed himself, rather than complaining. Relationships are about support not criticism. I hear Ginko Biloba (natural vitamin supplement) improves memory. Good luck and don't let anyone bring you down. God has given you exactly what you can handle. Now it's time to embrace it, work through it and be strong!