Okay, so if you stuck with two after contemplating three, what are your thoughts now? Regrets? At peace?
For those who went ahead with number 3 (whether intentionally or not) What advice or insights can you offer?
we are thrilled with our two girls. My husband wants one more sooooo bad. I have no good reasons not too. We are financially well off. I'm 36 years old. I love being a mother (just hate pregnancy, new born stage, and being out of shape). It seems a little overwhelming to me and the selfish part of me wants my free time, to enjoy the rest of my 30's in shape, and the extra money for nicer things. I could go either way. My friend accidentally is pregnant with number 3 and I'm jealous because at least she does not have to agonize over the decision. I'm really on the fence. Would love to hear from moms who have been in my shoes.
Just had my 3rd 5 weeks ago and wouldnt change it for anything! My other 2 just love him and help out so much! I say go for it!
We chose to have #3 (we are now on #5!), and we wouldn't have it any other way. It's similar feeling as to whether you would want to give back one of the girls you already have. Once the baby is here, you'll be glad (except maybe for those rare times where you think you're going to go insane and need a break...hehe). The only thing to be aware of is that depending on the age of your children, adding a third can be quite different. Our third added a level of chaos that was not there before! We love it, though.
We went for it and LOVE it. She is such a little peanut and brings so much joy to every single person in our family. Our older 2 smother her with love and I love watching all 3 play together. We really learned to relax by baby # 3 and I think that has help us just to sit back and enjoy.
Good luck!
We were the opposite- I had a strong feeling that we had a third child waiting for us, DH was fine stopping at two. Our compromise was to not prevent for six months, and whatever happened, happened. I promised that at the end of six months I would move on to the next chapter of our lives and be satisfied with the two wonderful kids we have.
Turns out that was five months more than we needed. Ian Andrew is three weeks old now, and DH and I (as well as our other two boys!)couldn't be happier!
Had great sex, got pregnant and love baby #3
We were on the fence as well. Already have a healthy boy & girl. We are due with our 3rd and over the moon excited. I am sort of a symmetrical person so I am trying to talk hubby into a 4th so we are balanced. I don't think you ever regret having kids, I think you regret not having them...just my two cents!
With number two I was stressed all the time trying to do the things I thought I did wrong with number one. With number 3 I was able to just enjoy the newborn stage a lot more.
With the pregnancy I just figured - I can suffer for a few months for a lifetime of love.
I never thought I would have 3 kids and I can't believe my 3rd is 2 now. It all went by amazingly fast.
Been there, done that with 3 and with 4. We put 10 years + 2 days between 3 and 4. Then grandbaby boy came 9 years later. I never lose the feelings of wanting another.
lol, sorry, it's not you, but my answer, cause what did I finally do, well we're pregnant with number 5. if I had to do it all over again, I have no regrets, but i will strongly say that the age of your kids matters. if you already feel like you would like your freedom, and your kids are older, then it might not be the best idea. if your kids are still little then you don't have the freedom anyways so what's a couple more years. My 3rd is 8, baby number 4 is 9 months and we are due in Feb. i basically completely started over, and doing so is NOT for everyone.
I had number three, and I have no regrets. She is an absolute gem. I say go for it.
My ex and I have a girl and boy, 3 years apart. I had them in my mid 30's. I'm an only child so I wanted 4-6 kids. Well, not realistic when I got a late start and I had difficult pregnancies and 11 pound babies. Plus we lived in So Cal at the time and child care is rediculous and I always worked full time. So we decided to be happy with the 2 we had. I do still sort of "regret" it because I'm now married to someone else (at age 42) and he only has one child who is moderately retarded. So we debated about having one together but there would have been all the health considerations and by then my son would have been 7 so there would have been 8 years difference between him and the baby and the other 3 are all 3 years apart. So again, we just decided to be happy with the 3 we have and frankly I'm happy that hubby and I have every other weekend without the kids (they go to the ex's) since its nice to get a break. We would not have that if we had a baby of our own. Its a tough decision so I wish you the best of luck!
I just got pregnant and it was too late., lol. I had just decided against sterilization and decided on a slightly less permanent option that would last a few years. But i got pregnant, I guess my body, or God had other plans.
I was using protection.
But.......im very happy about it.
You can still be in shape though, just look at it a different way. I still work out every day and will only take a break the days im in the hospital.
Had an "oopsie." Decision made.
What did I do? I waited too long . . . by the time I was "ready" my ovaries were done.
Makes me sad still, but I'm at peace.
I'm SO envious that your husband desperately wants another baby - you are a very lucky woman.
Hubby was on the fence with 2 to 3. I was all for 3. Our third was born 5 months ago, and just a few weeks ago my hubby looked at me and our baby and said, "Wanna try for a girl?" Ummm...sure, dear, in about 4 years.
