LOL........ I LOVE this question! My kids are 8 years old (the youngest) and almost 21 years old (the oldest). The 2 in the middle are almost 18, and almost 10. (he is the only boy) I had my 1st child at 21. I think that I learned a lot with the 1st 2, so now I am doing things a lot differently with the second 2 . I got to actually see what worked, and what didn't work. The things that I did, like overindulge my older girls, well I am TRYING really hard NOT to do as much of that this time around. I want my younger 2 to work for more of what they have. My older girls are great, don't get me wrong, but they do have a little of the "entitled" thing going on. CHORES....... Oh yeah, they have chores. I didn't do so much of that the first time around. What a mistake THAT was! Now I get a huge arguement from the 17 yr old if I want the dishwasher loaded or the room cleaned. (she does it, but it takes FOREVER) Letting them fall on their face more. It's hard to do, but way more lessons are learned that way. I would rather they learn them when they are young then when they are older and out of the house. Now I have older kids who cannot learn by listening but must go through the school of hard knocks. (because I have always done so much for them, they thiink they can do ANYTHING) I THOUGHT that was good parenting, but letting them fail a little would have probably been better at a young age. They would have learned how to deal with the dissapointment better while they were young, because let's face it, the things that would have been dissapointing them would have been less important really.
My older girls did get the better me as far as physically though. I was much more active when they were little, so we did WAY more. I didn't have any health issues, and could keep right up with anything that they wanted to do. One really awesome thing about being a young Mom. Also, I was fairly "current" with the times. I was not out of date so to speak. They enjoyed spending time with me. (still do they say) I feel like my 8 and almost 10 year old are missing out on the Mom that my older 2 had because I can't do some of the things that I did when I was younger. I have had some major medical issues in the last 6 years. I have had 6 major strokes, and although I am not wheelchair bound, and am able to walk and talk, etc. I realize how lucky I really am......... I still do not have 100% of my "old strength" and stamina. It feels like the 2 younger kids are being cheated at times. I am only 42, so I am not really old, but I have many other medical issues too, so even chaperoning a field trip for them is at times difficult. I do, and I tough it out, but there are some that I simply cannot do. My oldest daughter tries to take a lot of the job on with that when she can, and has chaperoned for both her brother and sister's classes when the trip was something that I physically could not handle. I guess the age difference there is a blessing! I long for the good old days when we could take a 3 day weekend to Disney or Universal with the kids, and I could keep up the stamina for the entire trip without having any issues. Now I have a tough time with even a day. Heck, the 2 hour drive kills me because of my knees. LOL! We still take the trips, but at a MUCH slower pace, and the little ones have to go on the rides with their older sisters or Dad, because Mom simply cannot go on them anymore. (THAT makes me sad) They don't know any different, so to them it's just normal. I however, do know the difference, and it makes me feel very bad at times. My 2 youngest children are also not my own biological kids. My husband and I got custody of them almost 6 years ago. I sometimes feel guilty because of what I cannot do for and with them, but then I think of what thier lives would be like if we hadn't taken them, or where they would be. I feel better then. I am the only Mom they have, and a good one at that. I am the best Mom they could have, and the best Mom they know of. My oldest 2 kids are sometimes like surrogate "moms" to them as well, and take my 8 yr old daughter to have a manicure, or take her and her 9 1/2 yr old brother to a movie or out for ice cream. All 4 kids enjoy going to the theme parks with my husband and I, just like I said, it's different now. We all like to hang out in our pool during the summer, and love the beach. I know that my parenting is way different this time around, but I also know that all 4 of my kids will be fine in the end. Even though I am doing things different this time, fixing and "tweaking" my skills as I go, every child is different anyway. Don't we have to change they way we handle all kids anyway? I am truly blessed to have 3 gorgeous and talented daughters, and one VERY handsome SPOILED, much loved, son who if nothing else will no doubt understand women and will know how to treat a lady when he gets older. (his sisters wouldn't have it ANY other way!!)