Flowers on Mamapedia

I give flowers if I agree with an answer. I give flowers if the poster made me laugh. I give flowers if the answer brought new light to the subject. I give flowers if I want the person to know they have been heard. Yes, I think you are over reacting. Feel free to send me a flower if you disagree. ; )
Oh, I forgot to say that yes, I do like to receive flowers, real ones and ones on this site. I like to give them too. : )

Hi jane-

Hmmm

I have been here a LONG time.

I have to admit...at the start, I was concerned about my questions and my answers to questions...and how others would react.

Now...I am comfortable (and hopefully kind) in my responses...and when I see a flower....that is somehow a nice 'Thank you'...

It is NOT...in my experience...because I was being particularly 'snotty or mean'.

I take flowers as a simple sign that my response was acknowledged.

Nothing more...nothing less.

best luck!
michele/cat

I LOVE it when I get the most flowers. Silly, right? But I like to think that I got them because people laughed or thought I was right on, not because I was mean or snotty. (Which I have only done a handful of times)
L.

Flowers are nice but they don't sway me one way or another.
My opinions and advice stand on their own, take it or leave it.
And just what does "popular option did things like vote in Hitler" mean?
Are you comparing generally accepted maternal wisdom to Nazism?
YIKES!!!
Guess I'd better dust off my common sense and moral compass!
I'd hate to be compared to a psychopathic mass murderer and war monger.
And here I thought this was just a little old moms helping moms website...

LOL, when I first read this in the subject line I thought it was going to be about fresh flowers like from my hubby! And my response was going to be YES,I LOVE flowers and I love them in my house! :) but to answer your question, on someof my responses, YES I do feel pretty good when I get flowers, I LOVE flowers fresh and on mamapedia!

Yes, I like getting flowers. And I send ALOT too..but NEVER for what I'd call snotty or mean responses. I send them when I agree with the post, or when the post has made me laugh, or when I think the poster has given really good advice. Oh, whenever I ask a question I send a flower to everyone who posts a reply because I appreciate that they've taken the time to answer/help me.

"Popular opinion" also did things like creating our own country... Sometimes, it IS the preferable thing... It can lead to great good or great evil. So long as people stay true to themselves, what does it matter how popular their opinion is?

Personally, I LOVE getting flowers. It makes me feel like my ideas are validated. I like to know that my opinion is appreciated, and I when I get a lot of flowers for an answer, it's nice to think that I could have helped someone.

P.S. Ya'll can send me flowers now, if you want to. <3 ;)

Well, I didn't see your question before you changed it. But perhaps this will help anyway?

http://www.mamapedia.com/questions/6107016707166044161

:)

But then everybody already knows I'm a total Flower Slut!

I have found that if I am snotty to an ignorant person I get a lot of flowers. I have also found if I give good advice I get a lot of flowers.

If I am snotty to someone who didn't deserve it I get reported and no flowers

So I guess I am saying I disagree with your hypothesis. I also think this "question" is kind of snotty to all of us who try to give good advice and happen to get flowers for it.

After seeing your changes. You likened those that receive a lot of flowers for popular answers to Hitler. How exactly is that light hearted?

For the longest time, I did not even know there were flowers! I like giving them and getting them. I try not to make mean or snotty responses. I always give flowers to people who respond to my posts-- unless they are mean or snotty--which is rare. I also give flowers to those responses I agree with or find humorous.

Funny, two of my kids' ped dentists told me specifically that sucking on a pacifier is bad. The thing is, it alters their bite, including giving them an overbite. It doesn't matter whether it's the baby or adult teeth.

Sometimes it's all in the way a question (or answer) is phrased when it comes down to common wisdom. I myself would err on the side of caution whether it's the bite OR the teeth.

As far as flowers go, I think that there are people who love to hate on someone and if others think it's deserved, they'll jump on the bandwagon with flowers, though they don't actually write in themselves. Or, they'll send a flower for something is bizarre because they are very insecure and just kind of "wonder" if that person might just be right, instead of actually researching it to see if they really are. (I saw one of those yesterday.)

Then there are people who really try to offer good advice and others see that and offer flowers. Those are the ones that someone should feel good about getting a flower for. Not something snarky.

There are some fun threads full of wit, though if you didn't "keep up" with what has been said in the past with that person, you might not "get it". (Kind of like an inside joke, but not meant to be.) If I know what's going on, I might give a flower for something a bit 'colorful'.

But I know exactly what you are talking about with people jumping on a bandwagon to be mean to someone. There have been many discussions about that.

Dawn

I don't feel bad or good, really. I just open all the flowers in new tabs, and close the page. I don't read what questions the flowers are for!

Hitler and flowers on mamapedia. Kind of abashing what real evil is, eh?

Eta...I don't follow Dennis Prager...??? What the what?

I noticed too that I tend to get more flowers for my more abrupt answers (I'm sure I'm NEVER snarky). I still like the flowers though...

I like to get them and I give them if I agree with the person. I don't notice that I get any more if I am snotty, but then again, I try not to be snotty :)

I do like getting flowers, and I try to be honest and objective with my answers. I have only been directly rude in one response and that resulted in a few PM's personally thanking me for the way I worded what a lot of other moms were thinking. I will often send a flower to a response that addresses the question and answers the issue sensibly.

I didn't see your original post so I'm not sure what was at issue. I do like getting flowers but I don't answer my questions to get the flowers. When I answer here, a lot of thought and heart goes into my answer, and I like to get the flowers because it means someone else agreed or validated, or appreciated my effort or opinion. I send flowers to people who have made me smile or think, or I agree with. Several times I will send flowers because I feel like they took the words right out of my mouth so there's no point in me commenting. Sometimes I have sent flowers not because I agreed with what they wrote, but because they're opinion made me think and I appreciated looking at the issue in a a different light.

My responses are coming from my heart, not to see how many flowers I can get. I really don't pay any attention to how many flowers I receive or anyone else. Hitler tho?

I'm kind of neutral when it comes to them. I don't mind getting them but I don't really care if I don't. I never send them.
I wish there was an easy way to delete them from my inbox though. I have over 1400! It is nice to see people agreeing with me, especially when I have worked hard to come up with a truly helpful answer.