First Hair Cut

A.,
It would be hard for me to get it cut too. I don't have a boy, but I've always thought little boy babies with long hair were so cute. I guess if it was affecting his vision or bothering his eyes, I would do as the others said and just trim his bangs a little myself. If not, I'd let him look like a baby a little while longer too.
M. M

I trimmed it myself as well-- until all of his hair needed to be cut. I put him in the high chair with the tray-- made it easier to keep him stabilized while I clipped his bangs and around his ears.

Mel

We just cut out little girl's hair a few times using blunt end scissors. We cut it enough to get it out of her eyes. If a had a boy, I would probably do the same thing, I just field kind of weird about some stranger being near my baby's head with scissors.

One of my friends at church has a sweet little baby boy, his hair was the thickest, curliest and longest hair I have ever seen on a baby, it was SOOO adorable. What she did was she would put it up in a pony tail on the top of his head, which make it look like a very small and adorable sumo wrestler. She eventually cut it, and I almost cried myself. And he didn't look like a baby girl either, so that worked out. You can try it and see how it looks, if it don't work.. oh well. The bang trim sounds like a pretty good idea to me as well.

3 of my 4 kids had full heads of hair when they were born. Thats the bad thing about having boys is that you cant say your growing it out like you could for a girl. You can rationalize it by saying that its bad luck to cut a childs hair before they turn 1, its an old wives tale. I got my kids hair cut and the stylist put some of the clippings in an envelope to keep forever.

When I got our little boys hair cut for the first time, he was fairly young too and I took him to my stylist. I have been going to her for about 10 years so she was just as excited to be his first hair cut. It was really nice to share that with her too. She was meticulous at keeping the first few cuts to save and we got some really cute pictures. Since then we have taken him to other places (more reasonably priced). One of the places that we go to now gives out those little lolly pops. We don't normally give him lolly pops so it does wonders in keeping him preoccupied and still.

I have to agree with Sarah. My son had adorable little curls but every time we left the house someone would say something like "what a cute little girl" - even when he was wearing something blue with trucks on it! GRRRR! Finally, I had had enough! I gave him a little trim and instantly felt regret. He still looked completely adorable, but more of a big boy instead of my little baby boy. That was about five months ago and his curls have grown back. Now I just trim a little around his ears and face. He's grown up so quickly that he definitely looks like a boy now, even with a few curls.

Hi A.,
First, be glad he has that much hair! I love lots of hair on a baby, but my daughter, who was born the same day as your son, doesn't have much hair.

Make it a special occasion. Take pictures. Keep a lock of his hair for the baby book. And tell the hair stylist not to cut off any more than necessary.

A.,
Why do you feel like you have to get over it and get his hair cut? You're the Mommy. Do what you feel is right! My first little boy (now 6) had the most beautiful curls and he didn't have a haircut until he was three. No one made fun of him, and looking back at those photos, I'm glad I didn't have it cut sooner! When you do take him, take your camera and tissues. That will help too!!

I have experienced the first haircut woes; at first his father and I wanted to let his hair grow long. But as my son became older he started to express his dislike for his hair length and its grooming requirements. So, when he turned 21 mos. old, I took him to the local barbershop; they used scissors instead of razor clippers. And to my surprise, his first haircut turned out fabulous. I even took pictures of the milestone, and saved a small amount of his baby hair, for keepsakes. So, my advise to you would be give your son some more time and he will let you know either to keep his long hair or chop it off!

A little about me: I am 25 yrs. old mother of a 3 yr. old son. I am fulltime working mother and attend college part time. My son's father and I live separate lives but we're actively raising our son together.

Hi A. - this is how I felt about it... My little boy didn't get a haircut until he was 13 months old, we didn't have all the hair like you or I should say, your son, does... but my little boy was looking scraggly, if that's a word !!HA! so we finally took him... And I can honestly say, I didn't think my son could have gotten any cuter... until we cut his hair !! I didn't think it was possible, but when he got his first hair cut, he got cuter!! take your time. and don't stress over this... My little one went to Kindergarten this year.. that's when you stress!!
C.

HI A.,

I read the other responses and didn't see any like mine, so here goes.... My husband is Spanish (like from Spain, not Latin America, evidently there is a difference). I was informed by my mother-in-law that it was bad luck to cut my child's hair (boy or girl) until they were a year old. Unfortunately, our son was born with enough hair for 3 kids! It was over his ears at birth. It also stuck out all over his head - like Einstein. I can't tell you all of the comments we got about his hair. My husband had finally had enough at Easter, when he had to hold a sleeping 9 month old while standing at church and the sweat was everywhere. All over him, all over our son. When we got home he cut his hair himself - thank God, my next door neighbor was a hair stylist and fixed it after he was done. This also got me off the hook with his mom, as I didn't have to take the heat. If the hair is in his eyes, cut it. It could scratch his eye and you don't even want to deal with that. He's becoming a big boy and you need to let him. You can't keep him from growing up. Besides, you still have his baby brother. what does your husband say? Mine is military, so the long hair was driving him crazy. No one ever confused him for a girl - or my husband would have cut his hair right then. Good luck!

L.

I'm not trying to sound rude or anything, but if it were me... I would run to get the haircut the first time someone thought my 2 year old boy was a girl.

dear A., my advice to you from my own personalexperience is to wait until you are ready to cut your baby's hair. they are only babies once and they don't stay babies long. you will know when it is time to cut his hair and you will be ready.

well the way my family convinced me to cut my little girls hair was that she couldnt see anymore! her hair was always in her way and she got annoyed with it. if its not bothering him just leave it but when it starts to bug him just trim it. plus boys with long hair look kinda goofy. you can always keep a curl :)

I am a mother of three. I have never really "held back" any of my children in any of their growing changes. Now, my mother on the other hand always wanted to keep me small. I have a wonderful mom, we are best friends. With that being said, I still grew up, just as fast as I was supposed to. Our job as parents is not to keep our children, but to prepare them to leave us one day. Even though I cry sometimes thinking of my 14 year old going away to college...I have still helped her to find the ones that would best suit her needs and desires. In other words...not cutting his hair won't keep him small, it will just annoy him when it gets in his eyes...just like if mine does. Just learn to cherish these growing moments. Take pictures of his first hair cut and his first teeth and celebrate them instead of mourning them. I hope this helps and you sound like a super mom that really loves her son.

Get the kid a hair cut and save a lock of the hair. You can scrapbook it or just keep it in an envelope in a dresser drawer and look at it when you miss your 'baby'.

dont do it. my son was getting comments like "what a cute little girl" so i went and had it cut. it was horrible, and i wish every day that i had just left it alone. he was so sweet with the little curls around his ears, and now he is just not the same. your son is not even one, and he has plenty of years ahead of him to be a rough and tough boy, let him be a sweet baby a little longer.

Hi, I felt the same way, like I was getting rid of her beautiful baby hair. Finally we decided to just trim it ourselves, when they got older and had they're first real haircut we kept the locks in a baggie and put them in their photo albums....if you do it yourself for now, just enough to keep it out of his eyes, I'm sure you'll feel better about it. I hope this helps, good luck

E.

I didn't read the others' responses, but my suggestion would be to go ahead and cut it off and save it. If you let it fall out hair by hair (which baby hair usually does eventually and is replaced by new, short hair), you can't save it, but if you cut it off in a clip, rubber/elastic band or tape, you can keep it forever. If you do this, take pictures of 'his first haircut'!

I say as long as they are still in diapers, they are a baby. You definitely need to cut his hair if it is so bad it is getting into his eyes. It will be a pain for him and may even block his seeing and may make him fall down. I have a 5 yr old and an almost 3 yr old and even though they are both my baby, the almost 3 yr old still gets rocked at night and held like a baby.

Let the hair cut be an event, take your camera for the scrap book!

W.

HI A....

I have 3 boys and they were all born with thick dark hair...I feel your pain...the first haircut takes away that last little bit of tiny baby...then he looks like a toddler.
my suggestion is to take lots and lots of pictures...before...during and after the haircut and save all the cuttings for his baby book.

S.

We took our son for just a trim around the ears and back of the neck. Made it look nice but still had a lot of hair on top.

Ok, I'm in the minority for this.....but my opinion is to cut the hair. He's not a baby, and wont ever be one again....no matter how long you let his hair get. You get over it by looking at your child and realizing how irritating it must be to have hair in your face then you get up, take him to the barber and get it cut. Sorry to be so blunt but this is a peeve of mine. I always feel so bad for little kids with hair in their faces. You can always keep a few locks and put 'em ina scrapbook.

There are a lot of places that specialize in first hair cuts, be prepared for crying and screaming from the baby and crying from you ;). But he needs it sweetie if it is in his eyes. If he was a girl I would say pull it up in a cute barrett on top of her head but can't because he is a boy!

Here are a couple of cute poems I used for my son's first haircut and put in his scrapbook:

The time has come
To cut my hair
So they sat my up
In the Barber’s Chair

As high as they could
They raised up the seat
So the barber could make me
All nice and neat

They removed the curls
And the baby look
But mom kept a few
For my baby book

So now I look older
Just look at me
I betting I look
At least 2 or 3

My First Haircut

This Is My First Haircut
And I Wanted You To See
This Little Lock Of My Hair
They Just Took Away From Me
A Few Snips Here A Few Snips There
Soon After The Cutting Began
My Mommy Said I'm Way Too Cute
Now Looking Like A Little Man
I Put This Lock Of Hair Of Mine
For Everyone To See
I've Lost My Little Baby Look
And Have A Whole New Look For Me

Ethan Michael Conde
March 14, 2006

This poem was written by Melinda Tanner

I also put my son in his own booster seat (like the travel ones you take to the restraunts) to ease the awekwardness. You have to get it done sometime! That doesn't make it easier...I know! Take lots of pics and take the camcorder that way you get before baby after bigger baby!!