First Day of Potty Training Boy but One Question Plz

It took a while for my kids to consistently go without asking. In the beginning, we used a timer to remind them to go and we extended the time as they got more proficient. Then when that looked good, we stopped the timer and told them they needed to go when they had to without the timer and we would do friendly reminders when it seemed like they hadn't gone in a while. (Although, if we were going out, we'd make them go anyway.) If they started to regress and have a pee pee accidents, they went back on timer for a day.

Now, they just like to wait until the last minute and go running to the bathroom. Or use it as a delay tactic....like going a second time at bedtime.

With my oldest, I spent the first two days just cheering when he peed. My husband said, "Did he go in the potty?" Nah. During much of the first day I realized our son had no idea what it felt like to need to pee, so I was hoping that cheering every time he peed would help reinforce this new feeling he was supposed to notice. He was about 3 1/2 at the time, and I guess it worked. He was pretty much potty-tried by the end of the week.

When I was training our younger son he was peeing every 30-45 minutes, and it seemed like every time we got him on the toilet to pee, 15 minutes later he would have an accident. Talked to the doctor, and she explained that this is actually very normal. As adults we're so used to just waiting until our bladders are full and then using the restroom. Babies have no need to wait and just pee lots throughout the day. She said as he matures, he will learn to wait but that it seemed like he was having accidents because his body wasn't mature enough. We tried again about 3 months later and were successful.

Oh, it was about 2 months before my second one consistent asked to go. I joked that pottye training was actually him training me, because over the first week, I basically learned his habits - when he was most likely to need to go - and make sure I sent him at those times.

Also, both my boys learned by sitting every time. That way, sometimes #2 just happens when they are there for #1. Plus there is a lot less mess to clean in the bathroom. I don't teach them to stand to pee until they are tall enough to do it without a stool. Just something to consider.

My guy never told me he had to go, at first I took him, then he started going to the potty on his own. I finally figured out he is private and didn't want to share, but as long as he recognized his body signs telling him he needed to go that was fine. He's been trained almost a couple of years and at 4 he still doesn't tell me he needs to go, unless we're away from home and he needs me to find a bathroom. He's 100% normal so I'd say your son is, too.

And let him see you and others going potty so he realizes how to do it, I taught my guy to pee sitting down which eliminated the poop standing up problem, once he knew what to do he quickly caught on to peeing standing up.

You can help your son understand the feeling by stopping what you're doing to take him when you see the signs he needs to go. Pretty soon he'll begin to associate the feelings and the fact he goes and will start to go on his own, regardless of if he tells you.

He will learn how it feels while he's peeing after you take him to the toilet. Learning how it feels is part of the learning. Taking him to use the potty is the way we start the learning.

Does he have signs that indicate he's ready to learn? His body has to be mature enough for him to have the warning signals. Here is a web site that talks about readiness. http://www.babycenter.com/0_potty-training-readiness-chec...

Great. Keep trying to take him to the toilet every hour for a few days to
see if he has to go. It gets him in the habit & gets him to BEGIN to know
what the feeling feels like.
Praise him when he goes in the toilet.
Make a big deal of it telling him what a big boy he is.
Use a pull up or a diaper for bedtime sleep.
If he has an accident, never get mad just quickly, quietly change him.
Tell him if he keeps peeing in the toilet, he can have a prize (some toy).

I'm not sure we have enough information....have you been working with him in pull ups? Has he been prepared for today? What have you done to get to this point.

It takes a long time to potty train a child. There are many things they must be able to do before they can even start. Such as knowing/recognizing they need to go, being able to hold their urine or let it release, understanding that the waste goes in the toilet...

So if you started this cold turkey, with no work leading up to it then he did extremely well. Most kids who start pee everywhere when they put on undies. They work towards feeling they need to go and that they should go to the bathroom to do it. He may just not be at that place yet. That's why there are pull ups. They work like underwear but offer protection for mom so she doesn't have to sanitize floors all day.

I prefer not having to clean carpet and flooring and furniture all day. That's why we always used pull ups.

Sounds like you're doing things right so far. You want to tell him when to go in specific time intervals and at specific times like after eating, before bed, waking up, etc. It may take days or weeks for it to click for him to start going on his own. As he does well with you taking him, spread out the time a bit so he'll begin to hold his urine a little longer.

The one thing I would change is having him keep wearing diapers at night. Night time "training" can take much longer. I wouldn't spend the money on Pull Ups until you start seeing dry or near dry diapers for a good couple weeks at least. When you do start using them, reuse the ones that are dry as many times in row as you can to save money. Pull Ups are good now though, if you like, for when you go out. Always potty him right before leaving and as soon as you get to where you're going, and again before you leave that place, and so on until you get home.

K. B
mom to 5 including triplets

They usually don't "ask to go" for a few days/weeks. You have to be consistant and look for their signals at first. You also have to give small rewards each time. At 3, the potty training should go pretty fast. My son caught on to poop in 1 day, the peeing took a couple weeks to perfect but he had the idea in only a few days.