N.M.
I'm planning my daughter's 3rd b-day in November and my son's 1 yr. in October. For my son we're just going to invite immediate family. Since the first birthday is more for the adults than the kids. One-year olds aren't at the point that they play with other kids or can do game (they just parallel play). Also, I'm trying to keep him in his two naps a day routine. Otherwise he's overtired and not happy. So we're just doing a cake and ice cream party after lunch, but before his afternoon nap. We did this with our daughter on her first and it worked out well. Plus it cut down on expense and the amount of gifts they get. Too many at one time gets overwhelming. Same goes at Christmas. For my daughter we've decided to do the family cake and ice cream thing this year too. She's still not into the party games and such. Instead of a big party with all of her friends, we're taking her to either the Brownsville or San Antonio Zoo. She's never been and we want to do something special that she'll enjoy. Last year we invited her 4 friends from Parent's Day Out to her party and it went well, but they were still not ready for games or a long party. I can also suggest that cupcakes are easiest to eat for little kids. They LOVE sprinkles!!! Good luck.