Feeling Very Lost and "At Sea"

Updated on September 10, 2008
E.G. asks from Canton, GA
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Hey Ladies,

Wellm like the subject says, I am feeling very lost and "at sea". I've been an at-home mom for the past five years, and 16 months ago, went fron having one daughter to now having two. They are two of the loves of my life. I have never been the kind of person who is content only being a wife and mom. I went fron working and earning as much, if not more than my husband before having my first daughter to now flitting from bulls**t job to bulls**t job to bulls&&t job, intending to just "help out a little bit". I have been feeling like a moth hurling herself against any kind of flame just because it's got a light on it. Recently, I applied for and got turned down for some customer service job that was probably very beneath me, skills-wise and education-wise and potential-wise, yet still manage to feel like a real f**k-up because I didn't get hired there. How is that possible??

I have a real affinity with others. I am an intensely curious, compassionate person who loves "reaching" people. I have my undergraduate degree in theatre performance, and produced theatre work for myself prior to having my two daughters. Producing stuff now would be tough, but there is one thing that is really speaking to me these days. I am really attracted to becoming a sign language interpreter, which would require some schooling to become trained. It is the one profession that I can think of where I would be able to marry my love of storytelling and communication with a profession I could do fairly quickly and fairly flexibly. So I have made it my promise to myself to stop wasting my time on these b*llsh*t part-time wastes of my energy, and instead go back to school in January to become an ASL interpreter.

I guess what I need from you is a little bit of an "online hug". I have so much more potential in me that I want to realize. My girls fill such a huge part of my life. I just want an identity outside of my home where I can truly soar. And I haven't felt like a soaring bird at all. I've felt like a wounded sparrow.

E.

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Thank you Ladies! Your comments and support to me are so appreciated. I really, really took note of the mention of the quote from the movie "The Crow". That is going to go on my wall.

Thanks again!

E.

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D.P.

answers from Atlanta on

I'm so happy that you found something you want to do!!! You are halfway there, I'd say.

Okay, Wounded Sparrow, one more thing -- this may well rectify itself as soon as you step foot in the ASL classroom and feel yourself finally making a move in a direction OUT of your tunnel, I know. Your letter was really, really negative. Really. Sometimes, when we feel that dissatisfied for too long, we get stuck in a rut. So, if you find that you are still feeling negative even after you've begun the class and set your course, please see a counselor to help you to "get your head back on straight."

Kudos to you for finding this! And kudos to you for remembering that you have potential and promise. Don't forget, though, that to your kids you are NOT a wounded sparrow -- you are Mom! -- you are the entire universe to them! In your eyes, you aren't enough (and that does matter! You need to be fulfilled.) But to them, you ARE enough. Remember in that movie The Crow? -- the line, something like "Mother is the name for god on the lips and hearts of all children." I like that. Not that I want to deify myself or my mom -- but I think it expresses how very important a mother is to her children. So, if you're ever feeling down about yourself, remember how deeply special you are to your family, 'kay?

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D.W.

answers from Atlanta on

Big Hugs!!

I just want you to fight to think and talk positive about yourself. My heart hurts for you not being able to find a job right now. But maybe God is directing you to where you need to be. That maybe why the desire of interpretor has come into your life. Be excited about what you have and where you can go. Pray that God will lead you in his time. Be patient, but never give up on your dream. Continue to embrasce who you are, but be positive about it. Fight it. The devil wants to steal all your joy and make you miserable. What can you accomplish in that?

I know that may all sound like candy and roses, but it helps.

Take care!!

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S.S.

answers from Atlanta on

Hugs. Sorry it has been so tough - don't be so hard on yourself on top of it! You finally figured out what you want to do and are working toward it. It sounds like a wonderful career and I hope it makes you happy. As for the job you didn't get, well maybe it was because they could tell you really didn't want it. No matter what, you didn't want it anyway. Good luck to you in your new pursuits.

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D.F.

answers from Atlanta on

(hugs)

I know you said you are going back to school in January, but if you are close to Noonday Church in Marietta, they typically have fall/winter ASL classes. I paid for my book and the class was free. I lost my job when I got pregnant and took the classes as a way to get out of the house and learn something new. I was trying to communicate with a deaf friend better. Good luck!

http://www.noondaychurch.org/americansignlanguage.aspx

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K.W.

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Don't feel down about not getting that last job. Perhaps the hiring manager saw that it was way below your skill level and did not want to risk you getting bored. I have been in that position before as a hiring manager. Unfortunately HR rules do not allow us to tell you the reason we did not select you.

Keep you chin up, the right job will come along for you if you just keep your options open. Have you thought about going to a temp agency? They too can be very flexible and no one will worry about you being over qualified - because it is temp.

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R.L.

answers from Atlanta on

E.,
Congrats on your plan to follow your heart and go after something you will enjoy. I think that's often a difficult thing for us, as mothers, to do.
This is a message that I've recently begun sharing with others- so much so that I've put the following in my signature line with my email address:
It's never too late to identify your passion and follow your dreams!
Good luck with school. I believe in you and know that without a doubt you'll do great as you have already identified something you feel good about.
R.

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C.L.

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Visit momcorps.com They can help you find a job that fits your needs AND takes advantage of your skills!

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