Hi, I had a c-section with my daughter and was taking walks with her at two weeks and felt back to normal in a month or so. For my son (found out we were pregnant with him when my daughter was 7 months old), I had a 2nd C-section. He was breach, I have type 1 diabetes (juvenile) and so that's why I had a second c-section. For this one, when they started to take the staples out in the hospital, the insision ripped back open. Unfortunately, I wasn't numb in that area so I felt a lot of pain. It took a good two months for the incision to completely close up, however, after that, a felt normal within a couple of months after it closed. I have heard that it takes a while with some women - that some feel numb or tender for 6 months to a year. It doesn't sound like it's normal to have your symptoms for as long as you had. It's sad, but it seems like after you have the baby, they want to just brush you off - I would get another opinion from a different doctor. Tell them up front that you want some answers.
Good luck. Hope you find a good doctor who takes the time to listen!!!