Favoring Daddy

It's normal.........just let it go..........she will continue to do this until she leaves the house!!!!! My step daughter did it in her teen years to upset me......once she saw that it didn't, she stopped.............
As long as Daddy doesn't have any problems with it, I would say enjoy some alone time when you can!!!
Good luck.

I actually love it when my 4 1/2 year old daughter favors her daddy. I love to see how much she loves him. Sometimes I get jealous when she cries for him when she is hurt but in a sweet way. I just want the kisses and love. The way I look at it is she is with me all the time and doesn't see daddy as much as she sees me. A daddy and his daughter can be such a special bond but there will never be a replacement for the mommy. :o)

It's ok. This will happen, especially if she spend more time with you than her husband. My husband has the kids most of the time and when I come home from work, our kids run to me, like I've been gone a week, "Mommmmmmmeeeeeeeee!" I love it. My husband just laughs and then excuses himself for some quiet time alone. I get the kids and we all chat about the day, give kisses and hugs.

Don't let your ego get bruised. she loves you too, but I promise that if you were were gone all day, she'd say the same thing to you....AND girls have a different relationship with their dads than boys do.

Are you a stay at home mom or a working mom? That may have a lot to do with how she's expressing her preferences. If she's around you all day, it may be a treat to see Daddy and share with him what you do all day. If you're a working mom, it could just be another phase. Both of my kids would rather be with me than Daddy who does a lot of the heavy lifting (driving back and forth to day care, etc). He's probably more gruff with them, and it breaks my heart that they don't take to him as well when I'm around.

If possible, I'd take a look at how your family is structured, your personality vs. your husband's and see if there are any correlations.

As she gets older, she'll need her mother more and more to explain physical and social changes (especially with friends and boys) that her Dad simply won't be able to do.

Good luck!

Hi J.,
I don't know if it's normal or not because my kids are younger than yours. But just wanted to say you are not alone!! My son who is 3 does that to me (in phases). It is hard not to get your feelings hurt. I always call my sister who has older kids and talk to her about it and she reassures me that it is just a phase and that it takes some maturity for kids to appreciate all that you do for them. I know it is hard, but hang in there! I am sure it will change soon!
Cyndi

http://www.education.com/question/3-year-marry/

Read this post I think it might help you a bit

take care dear

One thing that I didn't see mentioned was have daddy talk out loud about cool things mommy does or some way to verbally recognize fun things you've done with her. This shows how much respect that daddy has for mommy and also that mom IS a really neat person that gives and gives and gives.

Along those same lines, dad could perhaps coach daughter on giving you thanks, affection and showing you things as well. I suppose you could coach her on this, but I think the other parent is first choice for this.

p.s. you can look up "love languages" and find out what actions say "I love you" for the other person. They are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.

My husband said to me, be happy she likes me too. It's no fun for Dad to always be the odd man out! If you are a SAHM, she may be looking forward to seeing a new face at the end of the day.
Try doing some new & fun things with her. If she isn't a regular helper in the kitchen, put an apron on her & "you" (Safety pin a dish towel at the top of your shoulder seams.) You will both look "very cool" in your aprons.
Short of time? Use ready to bake cookie dough. Roll out 1/2 of dough & let her help. Use cookie cutters, put on a baking pan. She can add sprinkles etc... then bake.
With the remaining dough let her pat, fold, pound, make shapes and just play with the dough. These cookies will be a little tough after they are baked. The cookies can be frosted & decorated the same day or the next..
A big hit at our house is letting the little ones tear up (pre-cut) salad greens and fill the salad spinner. Put the spinner in the empty kitchen sink, let her crank handle or push the spinner button. (That way if it's knocked over, no mess on the floor.