OMG, I think you are referring to my group of friends. Most of them are into debt up to their eyeballs and still find the "need" to go out to bar every week, or go spend $50 going out and doing things, when they are barely making ends meet. It disgusts me!!! I work over 50 hours/week, paying into social security, and unemployment, and all to have these same friends on food stamps, and getting money from the state for various reasons.
My friend (we'll call her Jane) spends alot of time going out, has a car with car payment, and will be done paying it off in springtime. She has decided that instead of banking that money, she is going to vegas for a long weekend with one of my other friends in the same debt trap! She says it's a "way to reward herself for all her hard work paying off her truck." I literally come close to beating her up! Instead, I walked away.
Especially when this same friend owes me over $800 for back rent from when she lived with me for a year (she lost her job for 3 months in there too). PLUS my dad helped put a $3200 engine in her truck when her transmission blew out a couple years ago. She owes them money too!
Her solution is not my solution, and all I can do is walk away from her when she talks about going out and spending money I know she gosh-darn-owes-people is being spent on going out to bar, and that "she's had a long week" from working 3 days... Makes me sick.
To me, I wish Government would thuroughly screen people better for benefits and things of that nature. Food stamps especially! Now adays, people can just walk down the street and get food stamps, there are so many people that go to my church's food pantry, rolling up in mercedz benz's, cadillac's, and other things and it makes me sick to my stomach. People's cars that I've loaded before, have on expensive clothes and talking on their cell phones and talking about going out for a "night on the town", makes me wanna tell them to leave. Cuz the car behind them that has a single mother with 6 children deserves the food more!
My husband has been out of work for over 3 months now, and will start working again next week after completing trucking school. We have NEVER once asked for help from anyone! We have had to cut the cord to all the unnecessary things in our life, and realized that we couldn't have the Hi-Def channels or cable if we couldn't keep a roof over our heads and pay the mortgage on time either.