child is actually my grandson. very concerned due to i had a girls so i dont know ti much about little boys development . his mother is very neglectful so i dont know what she has done or isnt doing. any help or ideas would be greatly appreciated. the area in which i live doesnt like to take children from their parents but this has been an on going deal since my oldest grandson (same parent) was the same age as his little brother. laws here need to be changed. ad i said any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. tia. p.s. not located in new york. we are located in auburn Nebraska. just wont let me change our location
Take him to a doctor.
He might have a twisted testicle or hernia trouble or any number of other issues.
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Your grandson needs to be seen by a doctor. How old is he?
If you feel your grandchildren are in danger? You need to contact the child welfare office.
ask the childs pedi. and if the child is in danger then call cps.
Go to the pediatrician. Now.
If you are not able to do that, then call the pediatrician and express your concerns including what you mean by "neglectful". The pediatrician cannot give you information without permission from the parents, but absolutely can listen to anything you say. A 6 month old will be seen regularly for appointments, and the doctor can check on issues of concern without divulging that you or anyone else made a phone call.
Taking children from parents is an absolute last resort. No state likes to do that. The best bet is to give parenting classes - and those are things that grandparents can take to learn more about first aid, child development and so on.
I am assuming you've tried taking to the mother? You mention she is very neglectful. Does that also mean you don't communicate? I would start by having a talk with the mother about your concerns. How do you know his scrotum is hard? do you care for the child? If so, start by telling the mom that you think there's a problem - offer to take him to pediatrician if she isn't willing.
If that doesn't go well - then you can try contacting the child's pediatrician's office and asking about it. Some people send a note to the doctor with their concerns about a loved one. I know someone who does that with an elderly mother who does not disclose new health concerns she is having due to dementia. So that's another route.
If you don't get results and feel the baby is in danger, yes you can call child services and just ask for advice or to report what's going on if it's a situation you feel merits it.
Good luck :) I hope it's nothing serious. It isn't normal - no.
i can't tell what sort of help or advice you're seeking.
the hard scrotum doesn't sound right, but there's no way that strangers on the internet can tell what's going on. it needs to be checked by a doctor.
strangers on the internet can't make your daughter (in law?) do that either. are you asking for help in your relationship with her?
or in getting the law changed?
you either defy the parents and take him to the doctor, and risk them cutting off all contact with you, or persuade them to do so, or call CPS. those are the options i see.
khairete
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What are you looking for exactly? You have a lot going on in this post.
Your grandson needs to be seen by his pediatrician. If you are caring for him during the day? You take him to the doctor and ask for him to be examined.
If you feel your daughter is neglectful? You need to show proof of neglect or abandonment and go to court and fight for them.
You can change your location. Go to your "my account", select "edit profile" and go to the "MY location" section and fix it.
Take him to the doctor. His scrotum is not supposed to be hard. Just take him.
