T.F.
He's at the age where seperation anxiety sets in... but his continued crying is a learned behavior- my guess is you feel a bit of guilt and sadness that you are working part time, so you give in to his crying a bit faster than the sitters do (also, the sitters can hold him without having to try to get chores done, right?) As long as he can see you, he needs to learn that you will not hold him all the time. My son would LOVE for me to hold him while I make dinner, but I just can't chop and prepare dinner with one hand, plus it's not safe while I have a knife or something hot. So I sit him in his high chair at a safe distance from the stove and I sing to him and hand him things to play with. Every single thing ends up on the floor, so then I hand him something else (a wooden clothes pin kept his attention for quite some time this evening... but I also alternately handed him tupperware lids, plastic cups, and other safe items I keep in a basket close by). When I'm trying to pay bills or do other chores in the living room, I put him in his excersaucer thingy and put music and/or Baby Einstein video on. I'm right there and I make eye contact often, but I HAVE to get things done and refuse to give in and hold him all day long. If he gets hyterical, I pick him up and walk outside and listen to the birds and the calmness for a few minutes, then go back inside and plop him down and go about my business again.(Actually, 9 out of 10 times when he is crying hysterically it's because he's over tired, so I try to catch him when he's just starting to get crabby and I put him down for a nap). As for night time, he does NOT need to be fed in the middle of the night. To break my son of the habit of wanting to be fed when I knew he didn't need it, I picked him up and held him and just let him scream his head off. I knew he was MAD, not starving. He screamed in my ear for a full hour straight, then fell asleep out of exhaustion. I figured if he woke again within an hour or so and screamed again then he must have really been hungry, but he didn't. The next night, he woke again and I was ready to be strong and survive that whole hour again, but he only cried for like 10 minutes while I held him. Then he woke he 3rd night with just a peep and fell right back to sleep. He has been sleeping great ever since. Good luck- I know it's rough, but you have to keep reminding yourself that for both the wanting to be held during the day and for the wanting to eat at night that he is MAD-- and giving in to him will teach him bad habits that will be harder to break as he gets older-- you are not doing him any favors by giving in-- as a matter of fact, in a way you are letting him down.