Ex Husband with Multiple Gfs Around Kids

They already know. You don't have to point it out to them. Be sure to listen to them always about their concerns and feelings, with no judgment. Saying anything against their Dad will not help you or them. Just continue to be the kind of role model you want them to see.

Believe me, the kids understand.. This is exactly how my father was when we were these ages. They do not care about the girlfriends. they know their father loves them, but they feel sorry for him because he is so lonely he cannot be alone. This behavior will actually not make the kids needy or promiscuous later on, instead they are going to realize, they need to be happy with themselves, before they can be happy with others.

Never underestimate children..

Here is what you can tell your ex.. The kids do not care about the girlfriends. What they care about is being able to spend time with their father.. girlfriends are ok, every once in a while, but the kids need lots of alone time with dad.

All you can do is remind him, or if your kids feel like they can tell him themselves that is even better.

We never felt like we could tell our dad. But our mom mentioned it to him.. He of course assumed she was trying to interfere, but when he asked us, we told him yes, we did want to spend time alone with him.. Or for him to come alone to our school events.
Hope this helps..

Your kids, are the age, that you CAN explain to them... about HOW to think and 'discern' things.... teach them plainly about values and what is appropriate or not.
Let them talk too and ask questions.... and YOU explain to them, in a proper way. Since their Dad is an over-grown teenager and will not teach them anything.
So you have to teach your kids... about whatever values you need them to learn... so that they do not, when they are teens or older, act out.... behaviorally... in the same way as their Dad.

Teach them now...

Kids are not blind... and at this age, you NEED to explain to them.
Plainly.
Honestly.
They NEED YOU... to do this, for them. YOU are their role model.
Teach them these things.

My child support/custody agreement has a clause in it that basically states that neither my ex nor I can have persons of the opposite sex who we are not related to through blood, or married to, stay overnight in our homes when the minor child is present. Since my ex has a history of a revolving door policy when it comes to women this clause has served us well. The local judge here who handled our case adds this "morals clause" to all of his agreements.

Maybe look into modifying your child custody agreement to add something similar?

My son asked me once, before the agreement, when he was about 2, "Why do all the other Mommy's sleep in my Daddy's room". Wow, talk about angry!!! And then I had to quick figure out an answer that didn't sound like trash talking his Dad. So, I was more than thrilled with the judge's added clause - much to my attorney's bemusement.

Good Luck and God Bless

Lead by example. Teach them what you want them to know but don't do it by way of saying "the way your dad is living isn't right"....show them what is right. Surround them with positive role models and good values. They will see soon enough that what he is doing isn't really ok but you can't be the one to "tell" them.

You can tell him that he can live his life as he sees fit but you would like to keep your kids from growing up too fast by exposing them to so many of his fleeting relationships.

What he is doing may/may not be harmful for your kids...but it isn't your job to explain anything about it to your kids.

Raise them right, and they will figure it out. the worst thing you can do at such impressionable ages is start bad mouthing his life choices. Believe me as a child put in a similair situation; the worse you make him sound now...the more you will regret it later.

Your best bet is to keep mum and let them see for themselves. I truly appreciate my mom completely refusing to join in the "he said she said" battles that my dad always started.

You can impart much better wisdom by living the way you believe and providing examples without seeming to attack him...Don't make them choose who they want to believe in...it isn't fair...and they will defend him either internally or externally until they know better.

If it was me, I think I would explain it to them exactly how you've said it to us, but prepare yourself for fall-out when the kids tell him what you said.

Your kids are old enough to start really understanding what his behavior is all about and soon they will come to the realization they don't want to be around him. It's a hard lesson to learn for them but he is digging his own relationship grave.

So sorry they are going through this.