Epidural????

I was nervous too! I had my son almost 2 years ago. It did sting a little when they first started it, but it did provide a great relief. I waited until the last minute to get it, but if I'd have known how much relief it would provide, I'd have gotten it sooner. Good Luck Hun!!!! And congratulations!!!

Just throwing in my 2 cents. I have 2 children, a 4 year old and 8 month old. I did not have an epi for either child. I didn't rule it out, though I knew I was more scared of it than labor it's self. In anycase, my first child was 10lbs 3oz at birth, and I did that with a half a does of iv meds. I always told myself it's just one day, and it will be worth it. I say keep an open mind, and do what you need to do at the time.

Hey there!

I can relate, I have a 14 yr old, 13 yr. old, and a 2 yr. old. And as a Doula I would tell you to try and stick it out without one. Almost everyone I know including myself has chronic back pain because of it. I had one with my first for a c-section and it was horrible. More recently I had a client that got the tube stuck in her back, it took them almost 4 hours to get it out. While in labor try something for pain that will get you to your next level...I do't know where you live but maybe a Doula is an option for you. She was my only client ever who ha an epidural and that was because she had a c-section. If this is an option you can write me back or go to www.doulanetwork.com ...Best of luck to you!

Get the epidural! My contractions were incredibly intense and getting an epidural was the answer to my prayers. If you are able to deliver your baby without pain medication, more power to you. That said, they aren't handing out medals at the door of the hospital and taking the epidural doesn't mean you're a failure. Contractions use up a lot of your energy and you'll need that energy when it's time to deliver. I rather enjoyed taking a little nap during my contractions and waking up to find it was time to push.

Hello E.,

I have 2 boys 6 and almost 4 and I had an epidural both times. I loved it they worked great for me other then I also got the shakes and threw up a lot. I was only scared of the needle but you could barely feel it to be honest. I would get it again when my husband and i have another child. I just wish my back was not so touchy on the spot that the needle was in. If my kids hit me in that spot where the needle was applied then i would be in tears even now 4 & 6 years later.

Well good luck to you and congrats on your baby

There is no question, Epidural's were God's gift to women post the Eve/apple quagmire. I have a 20-month old son and a baby due in 8 weeks. The minute I was rolled into triage I made it clear to everyone, "I want an epidural THE MINUTE I am THE MINIMUM dialation for it". No one told me that labor was going to feel like the baby was going to blast out of the posterior section of my body. My best girlfriend said that her labor felt like intense menstral cramps. SHE WAS WRONG. If you are not a fan of pain (I'm not), go for the drugs. Forget about breathing through the pain and working WITH the body. By the time you are at 4 cm and you realize there are additional thresholds of pain that you have yet to elevate to...you'll put the epi in yourself!

Hi E.,
It's E.. It's a toss-up. With #1 I only asked for Nubain (just an injection). The pain barely went away and I felt drunk for hours after. With #s 2 & 3, I dispensed with the supermom thoughts and asked for the epidural. God has a sense of humor, because within minutes of receiving these wonderful drugs it was time to push. I didn't even get the full benefits because it happened so quickly. Then my legs were numb and I could barely move them for a few hours. Now I don't recommend going it without some pharmaceutical aid, but just be aware of the "side effects" of both forms. Good luck. Keep in touch.

P.S. Screaming and clawing at your husband's neck and hurting him WILL NOT alleviate the pain, but it does make you feel a heck of a lot better afterwards. (HAHA)

I think there is a very strong "going natural" fad right now, and a lot of pressure is placed on pregnant moms to avoid an epidural if possible. From the many moms and babies I know who gave birth with the aid of epidurals, I truly believe that epidurals are not bad for the mom or for the baby in the long run. I feel resentful that the hype right now is so strongly stacked to make moms feel guilty about choosing an epidural if they feel it is the right choice for them.

I think whether to get an epidural or not is a decision to be made when one is actually in labor, faced with the actual reality of one's birthing experience and whatever stressors, complications, or lack thereof, come with it. Choosing in advance is just speculation. Not that it is bad to have a preference in advance, but labor and delivery require a level of flexibility -- you just don't know what's going to happen. Making too strong a choice in advance is likely setting oneself up for frustration or disappointment or worst of all guilt, none of which, I believe, should be part of the amazing experience of giving birth.

I gave birth to my daughter just over a year and a half ago, and I felt very stressed out by the decision as to whether to have an epidural or not throughout my pregnancy. Ultimately, my daughter was two weeks overdue, and I was not able to sleep well for two nights before she was induced (with cervicil, not pitocin). I decided when I was in labor that it would be best to conserve my strength and energy for pushing, so I chose the epidural to ease the drain of labor. I had a very smooth labor and delivery, about six hours total, with no complications -- I was very lucky in this way. My birthing experience was absolutely wonderful and amazing, diminished in no way by my choice to go with the epidural. On the contrary, I know that choosing the epidural allowed me to have such an amazing and wonderful birthing experience. My daughter is gorgeous, healthy, and smart as a whip. I would not change a thing about my birthing experience -- my only regret is getting so worked up about the epidural decision in advance.

The choice is yours, and whatever will make for the most positive birthing experience for you in the moment is, in my opinion, the best decision you can make.

E.,

I had an epidural w/both my girls with no regrets. I had pitocin with both and would not have survived (ok I would have) w/out the epidural. I waited longer w/my second one because I felt like I should be able to tough it out but one of the nurses reminded me I was being induced and there was nothing wrong w/asking for relief. If I ever have another baby I would absolutely have an epidural. No regrets.

Good Luck!!

S.

I would not get an epidural if you can help it. On the International Lamaze website, they have "Care Practice Papers" (http://www.lamaze.org/Default.aspx?tabid=90) which detail the medical interventions which often make delivery harder/longer/less effective. The Lamaze Institute is a very reliable source with medical documentation to back up their scientific findings on the birthing process (and yes, is associated with the Lamaze birthing classes).

I highly recommend reading them *all*, especially CarePractice Paper #4 (http://www.lamaze.org/ChildbirthEducators/ResourcesforEdu..., which specifically addresses "routine" medical interventions (such as epidural analgesia, artificial breaking of the waters, induction, the use of Pitocin to speed up labor, etc etc). It is very important to understand the risks that come with these interventions, and to weigh the risks and benefits before making a choice. It turns out that most, if not all, interventions can make labor more difficult from the getgo, and increase chances of a C-section, but at the same time, depending on the situation, the benefit of having an epidural may outweigh the risks on yourself, your baby, and your labor.

I can't begin to tell you how much I've learned from reading these and doing further research, and how much I wish ALL women knew of the effects of *unnecessary* medical intervention (not all is unnecessary). Oh, another good website for information: http://www.birthingnaturally.net/birthplan/intervention/e...

Congratulations, and good luck :)

I highly recommend a book titled, Hey, Who's Having This Baby Anyway?. I believe the author is Brett Hawk. She discusses many common medications and interventions, giving the pros and cons of each.

Statistically speaking (from the book mentioned above) an epidural given before you reach 5-6 cm increases your odds of requiring a c-section. Epidurals given after 5-6 cm do not change the number of c-sections needed vs natural labors.

My daughter was born at 34 weeks so I ended up asking for an epidural as we were trying to keep me as comfortable and still as possible to keep her in as long as we could. I don't regret my decision, but it would have been nice to get the nautral labor I spent 8 months dreaming of.

S.

Hi. I'm a mother of a 18 month old girl and I got it. I was VERY nervous about giving birth,. had no idea what to expect, didnt know how painful it would be, etc. Mine wore off towards the end. I was in labor for almost 30 hrs and when it DID work, it was great! If I have more children, I would DEFINITELY have it again. I recall the pain I experienced at 3-4 cm and I cant imagine going naturally. I really can't give you any cons about it other than mine not working as well as it should have. Good luck, whatever you decide!
K.

I've had a two positive birth experiences - 1rst one with an epidural, and 2nd natural. With each birth I went into it with the attitude that I'd decide whether or not to get an epidural once I felt the level of pain and how I was handling it. Both times I was hoping NOT to ask for the epidural, since I personally know someone who had a very bad experience with it. After realizing the intensity of pain of my first labor (I was vomiting between every contraction & exhausted), I chose to have the epidural. I did NOT feel like this was a "failure", but the right choice considering the circumstances of THAT birth. I felt immediate relief of the pain and stress I was feeling during labor. I also felt that the epidural allowed me to feel joyful and happy before and during delivery. My delivery with an epidural was completely pain-free, and I came out of the experience feeling like the "epidural spokesperson". With that said, I went into my 2nd child's delivery again hoping I wouldn't need an epidural, but also expecting to get one based on the pain of my previous delivery. I labored for a few hours at home, as it was not as intense, or perhaps my body knew what to expect and was not as "shocked" by the pain level. Anyway, we didn't get to the hospital until I was 9cm dilated, and I was told I could NOT have an epidural, and it was time to push. I was very scared about a natural birth for about 1 min., and then thought "well, I've just got to do this!" My delivery without an epidural was fast (30min), and I have to admit, relatively pain-free!?! I LOVED that I was not numb from the waist down this time, and I could actually feel what I needed to do as far as pushing. I also loved having NO side effects and being able to get up, walk around, and take a shower as soon as I was ready. With an epidural it seemed like I was numb for several HOURS post-delivery and could not walk on my own. My husband who was present at both births, noticed that with the epidural each "push" seemed less productive (since I could not feel anything), and often the baby would regress an inch or more back. Without the epidural, that did not happen and the delivery (for me) was quicker and easier. I trly loved the natural birth experience. I would recommend, like others posted, that you wait to see how you are feeling during labor, and decide then whether or not to get the epidural - only YOU can determine whether you need it or not. As I found out, each delivery is different. Whatever you decide, best wishes for a wonderful delivery and a healthy baby!!

Hi E.,
You didn't mention what type of delivery you had with your daughter 12 yrs ago. What is your current dr advising? Every single mother you get a message from is going to have advice and if every one of those mothers has more than one child, there's even more stories to tell! I have 4 children and every delivery was different. But I did have an epidural for each one. No bad side effects from any of them. None of the babies were adversally affected either. My oldest is in 9th grade and an honor student (and he was my preemie). I'm no big fan of pain. I live in a small, rural town and you would think that if there were mistakes to be made, they would be made by my small-town drs. Nope. Never saw the needle coming, just thankful for the pain relief. YOU and your own dr agree on what's best for you. I've heard horror stories from my own family members (isn't it funny how women are so quick to offer advice and share their own theories without any prompting as soon as they know you're expecting!) about epidurals gone wrong. There's just no way of knowing until you get it done. It would be much easier if someone could just guarantee the outcome! God bless.
S.

Hi E. –

The question of whether or not to get an Epidural can only be answered by you and your partner.

The fact that you state you are doing research about the Epidural shows that you care, that you want information, that you have concerns. If there is anything you get from this response I hope it’s this – NEVER make decisions for anything, especially your pregnancy and birth, based on fear and guilt.

When you are truly informed and you make a decision to use a particular procedure, test, drug, etc. – it’s called Informed Consent. And when you make a decision to AVOID drugs, tests, procedures and routine interventions – it’s called Informed Refusal.

Consider taking a quiet introspective moment and ask yourself several questions. What exactly are you nervous about? What are your fears? Is your anxiety and fear rational? Ask your baby how he/she feels about this as well.

My experience has been that many, many, many mothers make choices in childbirth based on fear of the unknown, fear of pain, fear of behaving in a particular manner, fear of what others will think or say, etc. etc. The list could go on. Don’t allow this to happen to you.

You said you are doing research. Please remember, your decision to get an Epidural should not be about what you or others believe or not believe, or how you feel about the Epidural. What does the research, the studies, and the evidence show?

The truth is Epidurals are not a safe choice. Epidurals (or any drug and medical intervention) are not your only option. Epidurals can and do have devastating consequences. These statements are not intended to make anyone feel guilty or bad for their decisions. If a woman was never given complete and proper information, if the risks were never fully disclosed, she was never truly Informed. That is not her fault.

E., there are pages of information on the risks of all drugs used in pregnancy and birth. I am going to include a small list here at the end of this post. However, if you would like more information, please contact me off list so we can communicate further on this topic.

Making the decision to avoid drugs during childbirth is not about being a martyr. It’s not a decision made by “crunchy” women alone. Women like yourself who want to know the truth, research and discover truth. They also look into their options.

Having a Birth Doula has been proven to be very beneficial to mothers during childbirth. The research shows that mothers who have a Doula vs those who choose the Epidural rate their “pain” level the same. With a Doula, there are no negative side-effects, nor are there other medical risks.

If you would like to continue this discussion, or would like further information, please contact me off list.

L. Leavy, CD, HCHI, CHt.
ALACE Birth Doula / Hypnobabies Childbirth Hypnosis Instructor
Founder Mothering & More Birth Network
State Coordinator Operation Special Delivery, PA, NJ, DE
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Reported Side Effects of Epidural Anesthesia

Mother: Additional interventions

• Restricted mobility, IV, and EFM (all epidural patients)
• Increased likelihood of bladder catheterization, oxytocin administration, internal monitoring
• Increased likelihood of operative (i.e. forceps, episiotomy, cesarean) delivery
• Automatic blood pressure cuff throughout labor

Mother: Short term

• Dural puncture
• Hypotension (29%)
• Nausea, vomiting, shivering (frequent)
• Prolonged labor
• Uneven, incomplete or nonexistent relief
• Feelings of emotional detachment
• Respiratory insufficiency or paralysis
• Convulsions
• Toxic drug reactions
• Slight to severe headache
• Septic meningitis
• Allergic shock
• Cardiac arrest
• Maternal death

Mother: Long term

• Neurological complications
• Backache (weeks to years)
• Postpartum feelings of regret, loss of autonomy
• Fecal and urinary incontinence or bladder dysfunction (inability to urinate)

• Paresthesia ("pins and needles")
• Loss of perineal sensation and sexual function

Baby

• Direct drug toxicity
• Fetal distress, abnormal FHR (can lead to emergency cesarean)
• Drowsiness at birth, poor sucking reflex
• Maternal fever (impeded thermoregulation from numb skin) leads to fetal hyperthermia and neonatal NICU workup (spinal tap, etc.)
• Poor muscle strength and tone in the first hours
• Neonatal jaundice
• Decreased maternal-infant bonding
• Behavioral problems
• Hyperactivity up to seven years (suspected)

I have a three and a half year old and am pregnant with my second child. I had an epidural with my first and was glad I chose to have it. For me, teh epidural relieved me of the painful contractions and actual labor pains. I only had pressure but not too much pain. I was relieved because i had an episiotomy and some additional tearing which the epidural helped so that i did not feel the pain. I did not have any side effects from the epidural but a friend of mine did. My friend had an epidural with both pregnancies and afterward she had such severe migraines that she had difficulty managing her babies when they came home.

I did have an epidural with my son, and I did not plan to have one. It took the pain away, but I had the shakes very badly as a side effect. I could not tolerate the pain, and I just got to the point where I wanted to relax. But when I started shaking that became painful too. I wound up having a C-section, which was also unexpected because my son was huge. I can still feel where the needle was placed in my back every now and then, and that was three years ago. I am not trying to scare you, but you asked for pros and cons. I would definately have another epidural, so that should tell you how painful labor can be. GOOD LUCK

E.,
I had epidurals with both my daughters, and I had a wonderful experience both times. The first time was an induction, so it did slow down my labor. I also had a button to self-medicate. I don't recommend this! The second time, I was 8 cm dialated before the guy arrived to put it in, and boy, was I ready for it!!!!!!! He used just the right amount where I was able to feel pressure and contractions and actually feel my daughter coming out (sorry if that's too much info!). I was not numb like the first time, but not in pain either. If I could sit still when my labor was that heavy, anyone can do it! Good luck.
M.

I've given birth both naturally and with an epidural. The only reason I had my son without the aid of an epidural was because I went into labor on my own (first and only time that happened) and I had progressed too far by the time we got to the hospital to even have an epi. I've had 3 other children with the epi and would choose it every time. Because labor takes time, I was able to nap during labor and save all my energy for pushing and welcoming my children to the world. Another pro for me with the epi was that I can remember everything about the labor and delivery and the time shortly after birth when the baby is most aware and awake. When having my son naturally, I was in so much pain and so exhausted that I don't remember much more than pain and feeling so tired afterward that I just wanted to sleep (granted I had the flu at the time too). If I ever had another child (which I'm hoping and praying for) I'd choose the epidural without a second thought.

I hope this has helped. Best of luck to you and your growing family.

B.

Hi E., congrats on the new baby!! As far as epidurals go, I have never had good luck with them. They gave me one when I was in labor with my first and it never took all the way across and I ended up having a spinal...with a c-section because my labor never progressed. (Which had nothing to do with the epidural.) I just had spinals with my other two c-sections after that. You need to really talk to your doctor about your concerns and fears. He/She can't help you if you are not honest and open with him/her. Take the time to write down all your questions and take the list with you to your next appointment...and don't let the doctor leave the room until all your questions are answered and you understand the answers. If he doesn't have the time to talk then schedule an appointment just to consult with him. Good luck & best wishes!

I said i was not getting an epidural for fear of the needle. 11 hours into labor I decided I needed the epidural becuase I was exausted. All I wanted was a little rest. Well, needless to say the epidural did not work I went from 4 cm to 10 cm in a half hour and fifteen minutes later my daughter was born. I am not one to preach about you should or shouldn't but honestly, if you need one you will know when it gets to that point. I say go without becuase in theory I did it (and trust me I am a baby when it comes to pain). There are alot of side effects on the baby and I would tell anyone to look into all the side effects and see if you want to risk it. They have been doing epidurals for a long time with no problems but I was so worried about the side effects that it took alot for me to say I needed the epidural.
All in all, it is your decision and do not let anyone tell you otherwise. I had alot of people tell me I was crazy becuase I did not want one. Now that I look back, I really did not need it and am glad it did not work becuase I truly think I am a stronger person now.

I did not have either one of my girls vaginally I had a C-section with both but with my 3 yr old I had an epidural for the procedure and it was way easier than I expected. With my 5 month old I had a spinal and would not recommend this to anyone. The epidural gave great pain relief and was so easy going in. I was expecting a lot of discomfort but much to my surprise it was a breeze. Good luck!

Congrats on your pregnancy!
A good thing to keep in mind is everyone's experiences are different. What one person says they cannot handle, another person does fine. Another thing to keep in mind is there are risks and benefits to everything, epidurals included (see: http://www.healing-arts.org/mehl-madrona/mmepidural.htm). It's up to you to weigh the risks vs benefits and determine what is right for you. What is right for you, may not be right for someone else!
(I had two unmedicated births, even when everyone called me crazy, it takes determination and it's hard work but for ME, it was totally worth it!)
Good luck in the coming months ahead!

Good golly girl~ GET THE EPIDURAL!!!!!!!!!!!! You dont get an award for being a tough ;) But that shot sure does the trick he!he! Seriously!! I couldn't imagine not having it. Best of luck!

As a Labor and Delivery nurse I can tell you that the majority of women opt to get an epidural. It is a safe procedure and can provide good pain relief. I just had my 2nd child 3 months ago and recieved an epidural for the 2nd time. Like all medical procedures it does have complications so be sure to talk to your doctor or midwife before you are in labor about her thoughts. It is not for everyone so arm yourself with good reliable information...don't listen to horror stories or information form less than reputable sources! AND you can't believe everyting you read on the internet. Good luck and trust you own instincts.

Well I for one am a huge fan of the epidural. I had one with my daughter last year and it worked wonderfully. I really haven't heard of any bad experiences, but I agree that it can be nerve racking. I contempled going natural, but I had back surgery in 1999 and did want to risk having excruciating pain. I would do it again. The only downfall is you are stuck in bed and it takes awhile to wear off. But I'm glad I did it because I ended up with a third degree tear and didn't feel a thing!

Good luck. The decision must be yours and be one that you are completely confortable with.

These days I think most people don't even question it. I attempted to go without an epidural for my first, because I did a lot of reading and felt strongly about it. But after some pitocin and several hours I ended up going with one. With my second daughter I was successful at going without one and it was great- a way better experience. I'd encourage you to read up on it and maybe talk to a doula. If you decide to go without an epidural, it's just a matter of mentally and physically preparing. It can be done! The women who do it aren't stronger or built differently, they've just prepared to do it. Don't know where you live, but I'm in Downingtown and going to the Birth Center in Bryn Mawr for my third (I'm due in May). Good luck! -S.

Hi E.. Well, I gave birth 2 times in 2 years and I don't think I would have gotten through it if I didn't have that epidural. But than I have friends that didn't have anything and there experience was fine. I think once you go into labor you will probly decide than what you think you should do. Giving birth is a beautiful thing epidural or not! Good Luck!
A. P
www.greensthewaytobe.com

I would highly recommend getting an epidural. I am not a big fan of medication for everything but am a big fan of the epidural. I had gone into early labor with my daughter (now 15 months old) and was having strong and frequent enough contractions to keep me from sleeping for a couple of days other than a few minutes of shut eye here and there. When I finally went into real labor and went to the hospital, I was exhausted. I was 5.5 cm dilated and told I would not be fully dialeted until early the next morning so I took advantage and got the epidural. It allowed me to sleep and get the strength I needed to deliver my daughter.

I had an epidural with Austyn. It made the whole process much easier to handle. I was able to concentrate on what I had to do to deliver my son. I know there are a lot of side effects but I didnt have any and the pros out weighed the cons. I would do it again in a heart beat. I would recommend it.

Dear E.,

It's really a personal choice and if you are leaning toward having one, let your doctor's know, I believe it can only be giving by an anasesologist (don't know how to spell that), and if your doctor can give one, make sure your insurance will cover that first. I had one with my third child and it worked out great, it was easy getting the needle in and it worked right away, it's really a relief when you have been in labor for a while. You can and will feel dizzy if you sit up, but that beats the pain, and you will be numb for a while, even after they stop the medication. It's weird not feel your legs, but again that was better than pain! They turn it off as you are about to push and you can feel that, but it was not as bad as without the epidural. The only two drawbacks I had after the birth were, they wanted me to stand to get into the wheelchair to go to my room and I still couldn't feel my one leg, so my husband helped me or I would have been on the floor! Also, if you can not urinate right away, they need to put a cathater (not right spelling) in until you can go on your own again. If I were to have another child I would have an epidural again. Some doctors will allow you to have one when you are only 4 centimenters dilated, which is great, but you need to go by what your doctor practices. Best wishes and good luck, E. G.

Hi E.,

There is no right or wrong answer to this question. In many cases Epidurals lead to a higher risk for c-sections, but in other cases, epidurals are the thing that allows your body to relax during a long labor and have a natural birth. I would say - go to the hospital with the plan that you will get one if you need it - and will hold off as long as possible. And tell the hospital staff of your intentions. Then see how it goes. Since this is your second baby, your labor is likely to be much quicker than with your first and you may not need it. Take a good lamaze class and learn the breathing techniques. What will help you most of all during labor is the ability to move around. If you get an epidural, you can't move - so try to put it off as long as possible. Also, join your local LLL now - they will give you great advice for preparing for your little ones arrival. Congrats on your pregnancy!

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How well it works, the affects, etc really all depend on how good the anesthesiologist (sp?) is. I've had 5 kids, all induced, never went into labor on my own and yes 5 epidurals. I was at different hospitals and all in 9 years and learned that.

The 1st one said I had to wait till I was 4 cm, I was 2 weeks late and signs of fetal distress and i had the flu, gosh 11 hours was torture, slow increase in pitocin and was at 2 cm when started and then when i was at 4 cm, I had to wait another hour cause they were busy with c sections and others. 14 hours total, delivered 30 min after getting it.

The next one and a diff hospital, said when you needed it and they up the pitocin as quickly as possible and 6 hours total.

The 3rd went back to the 1st hospital, I now had diff obgyn and could get it when i wanted it.

The 4th, 3rd hospital and yes when i wanted it, but got it slightly off and hurting me more, the ob saw that and said give her something else and 1 hour later out was baby.

The 5th, I could have had the epidural even before the pitocin. I laighed, and said I would wait, get the pitocin up to the legal limit and then epidural and got the most numbed, the ob said its her 5th and she gonna enjoy it.

So what I'm saying, find out hospital procedures, the ob's and don't be a martar. Can also get soemthing to just take the edge off and can in many times make it a faster delivery.

Hi E.. My first pregnancy, I had an epidural; the second, I was induced and couldn't have one because they thought it might affect my son's heartrate; third time, another epi. For me, both epi's became ineffective and they had to put something else in my IV. But, that is because I have a high resistance to meds. I would suggest talking to your OB, see if you can meet with the anestesiologist (sp?) and are comfortable with them, and finding out what other options are available if for whatever reason you can't have an epi. You might like one of those options better. Personally, I'd still get an epi even though I know they wear off for me. The biggest things are knowing your options and being comfortable. Good luck!

Hello E.:
Sounds like you received some good advice, and, ultimately, after doing the research you should go with whatever decision you feel most comfortable with - and not feel guilty about it.
I have two children and with each I had an epidural. With the first - I waited to see how the contractions went and how painful they were for me and then got the epidural. With the second, I knew what to expect going in. Both worked out great. I must have had a very good anesthesiologist both times b/c the pain was lessened but I could still feel the contractions and still push and it still hurt (just nowhere near as bad).
If you do decide to have and epidural, I just wanted to bring up a possible hospital policy issue. What I didn't think to consider before going to the hospital was the hospital's policy on whether or not the husband can stay in the room when the epidural is given. For me, I REALLY wanted my husband in the room when the epidural was given because he kept me calm and helped me to remain still (It's important to be very still when they put the needle in your back) even through having contractions. Both times the hospital staff asked my husband to leave the room as a matter of standard procedure. He refused and he was allowed to stay with some cajoling. In hindsight, though, it would have been a good idea to know the hospital's standard procedure ahead of time and maybe discuss it with your doctor.
I don't know if this is even an issue for you or your hospital but it's food for thought.
Best of luck and congrats!
D.

E.,
You will get so many responses on this one! You will hear how not to put anything not natural in your body and that you should deliver naturally....and so on..... It can make a huge difference in your delivery emotionally and physically. The adverse reactions are less than more than likely to happen. I have had many friends and relatives who wanted to 'brave it' and not put anything not natural in their bodies and let me tell you, when "push came to shove" they begged for it and to this day have no regrets about it! I delieved c-section but long before my due date went for the consult and signed the papers saying I wanted it. Do some research online and good luck!
Christina

Being a mom of 4 kids and having 2 with epidurals and 2 without ( not by choice with the last 2) with my first 2 I had the epidural what a blessing that was. First one was easy to get second one gave them some trouble they couldn't get it into the right space took the edge off but nothing like the first baby. With baby number 2 I wanted the epidural had a shot of nubain at 4 cm and was waiting on what I call the happy dr. within the next hour I was 10 and delivered. The nubain was great I could relax between contractions and was able to push and not push when needed. Baby 4 I asked for epidural but the dr had a hard time placeing the cath so I had the baby the fun way either way I couldn't tell how bad it really was after I had the baby in my arms. The nice thing about going without the epidural was I was up moving not long after deliver. Everyone is different look into alternate pain management and tell them the epidural is still an option you may not even need it but it's nice to have on standby.good luck and congrats on the new addition

Dear E., I am a physician and a mom. The best advice I can give you is as follows. Do you know which hospital you are going for your delivery? Most places these days can arrange for a predelivery meeting with an anesthesiologist.
( the physicians who do the epidurals.) If you go out to find information the best way to do it in my opinion is to go to the experts. I personally will not do it without an epidural
Goodluck with everything. Enjoy your pregnancy and then the baby

I had an epidural with my first child but it didn't work the whole way through so I opted to go natural the second time. I LOVED going natural...it is a lot more work but I know that it was worth it. It all depends on your pain tolerance and how focused you can be. If you need any more advice let me know. I wish all women would go the natural route but I understand it is personal choice! It just worked for me!!!

P.S. By the way I was in labor for 20 hours so it isn't like it was a quick labor either!!

Hi there! I wanted a natural birth, but couldn't tolerate the pain. I could not even feel the epidural go in - and from my belly down was warm, and for the most part numb - but you could still feel things, but no pain. I had no problems with it at all. I know it sounds so scary - but take a deep breath, and realize that you can do anything for one day...including giving birth :] You'll do fine. XOXO

Hi E.,

I personally have not had one, but I've heard pros and cons to it. Some woman would not go into it without one. Some woman have problems with it (small percentage). There was one lady on here that had an epidural and it affected her one leg for a long while. I'd say that if you can do it without one, definitely don't have it. Why take any unecessary chances. I also had my children 12 years apart and was very nervous, but all went well.

L.

I am 39 years old. I had my son this past summer when i was 38. my doctor recommended and epidural and told me that it would progress the labor a little faster since i had to be induced. i think that it was the best thing i have ever done. i had minor tearing about three stiches and i ate a whole tray of food after i delivered and i felt great. i think that it made my delivery so much easier. i pushed out my son in about 18 minutes and all i felt was a little pressure. why suffer when there are things there to make your delivery easier?

just had this conversation yesterday!my 1st daughter who is now almost thirteen i swore id have no drugs or epidural..after 24hrs of pain i gave in and had it all..after my daughter i had 3 more who as soon as i got to the hospital the 1st words out of my mouth were when can i get my epidural..dont be a hero save the pain and enjoy the birth..was worth it because after delivery i felt great..T.

http://www.amazon.com/Easy-Labor-Womans-Choosing-Childbir...
This is a wonderful book. If the link doesnt work its called "Easy Labor". I wanted to try and do my fourth naturally without anything but seeing as the labor wasnt progressing and I'd practically been in labor for 2 weeks I just wanted it over with, natural didnt happen.
It was a great book though becuase some of the people who have the attitude "your weak if you don't do it natural" had actually given me false information about pain medications etc. This is balanced and fair and doesnt push natural or medicated labors so you can make your choice easily!

Hello E.,

My daughters are 11 years apart so when I found myslef pregnant again, I chose the epidural. it was inserted by the head of radiology during the peak of a contraction. It stopped hurting instantaneously! I only felt the tightening across my belly when I had a contraction. No pain at all. Took a little while for my feeling to come back so I had to keep the catheter in a little longer until I could urinate on my own. Other than that, nothing was negative! AND, I was 37 at the time! Hope that helps a bit, and good luck!
D.

Dear E., I am a midwife who loves and hates epidurals! Labour is just that: hard work! If you have all of the other wonderful supports for your labour and birth you don't need an epidural but if you are confined to bed--ice chips only--strapped to a monitor--being told birth is a dangerous process--then sit back, read a book and numb yourself with an epidural while everyone takes charge of your life! However! if you are your own best advocate and in control of your body and birth, go with the flow of the pain and have a wonderul epidural-free experience. As with everything, there is a place for epidural but not in the uncomplicated natural process of birth.I wish you the best in your research. I know you are nervous but don't forget this--millions of babies are born everyday into the loving arms of moms who are not frozen from the waist down and have been up and about walking, squatting, or doing what makes them feel comfortable.

All the best!
J.

I think an epidural is a magical gift from the angels. Maybe even from The Man himself. I believe it makes giving birth a much more enjoyable experience, and would always opt for one. However it does pose certain risks that some women are unwilling to take. I don't remember what the risks are, all I remember is agony before epidural, relief after epidural.

I had an emergency c-section with my daughter. I had really bad back labor and they couldn't detect it with the monitors that detect your contractions. Eventually they had given me an internal monitor and actually saw how bad my contractions were. I made the decision to get an epidural and it was the best decision I could have made. People told me that it hurts but trust me in comparison with the contractions the epidural was nothing! It was a goos decision on my part I think and I would do it again if I had to choose.It only takes like 5-10 minutes to have it inserted and the medicine started. It works so fast in your blood stream and it's done before it even begins.So, my advice is to get it done and see for yourself. Like you I heard horror stories but it was honestly nothing.
Good Luck!

Hello,

I have a 9 month old boy. I did not get an epidural although it was not totally my decision. I was unsure if I wanted one in the first place. I told the nurses I would let them know if the pain was intolerable and I wanted the epidural. Well, I decided when I was around 3 cm dialated (not exactly sure how far I was?) to ask for some pain medicine. I was then told my blood work was too low for an epidural. Long story short, I was given stadol for the pain. It helped somewhat I suppose, but the best part was that after giving birth to my beautiful son I was alert, pain free, and had no risk of getting the awful headache that can happen from an epidural. 2 hours later I was in the shower and enjoying my son:) If I have another one, I will do the same thing and I do NOT have a high tolerance for pain. It's just worth it.

I hate to bring this up, but thought you should be made aware of some possible side effects. I was given an epidural when my Dr decided I needed an emergency c-section with my first son 10 yrs ago. After they gave it to me they lifted me onto the operating table and when I laid back I suddenly could not breathe. The epidural had gone high and numbed my vocal chords and diaphram. I could not talk either. I had to rip the oxygen mask off twice and mouth to the nurse with panic all over my face that I could not breathe. They had to put me under general and knock me out becasue it was now a major emergency and I could not see my son being born. This was probably better off because he was born "blue and floppy" as the Dr later put it. He had the cord around his neck twice which was the original reason for the c-section but when neither one of us could breathe he was in serious danger (as was I , I guess.) To this day I have nightmares about that epidural and am extremely grateful for mine and my son's healthy lives. I have since had another son via c-section 3 1/2 yrs ago. I had a spinal for this and cried out of complete fear as they administered it. I just wanted to let you know that having an epidural does not always go as planned.

E., I have had two children and had epidurals for both. I had no problems with them and I think it helps you as you are going through the whole thing. My look on it is why torture yourself when it can be a very pleasant experience. Good luck on your decision. R. C.

I had an epidural with both of my girls. The first time it was great. It was in quickly and I didn't even notice when he did it. It worked wonderfully. The second time, the doctor that did it was awful in comparison. It took him a lot longer and I could feel some of what he was doing. It only took to one side, too. However, I'd definitely do it again.

I has an epidural w/#3. It was my first time having one. It was THE BEST. The labor (even w/being induced) was the best/easiest I've had. I don't know why I didn't have one with the other two.
As soon as I had #3, I told hubby I was ready for #4! LOL I've always been afraid of having one, but not anymore! I say go for it. It will make your labor and delivery so much better!

I had an epidural with my son (1yo - my first), and I would TOTALLY do it again. Why suffer if you dont have to? The only downside I can think of is that it can slow down your labor, and at one point I had slowed down so much that they started talking about c-section, but luckily things picked back up again. But, personally, I would do it again.

Hi E.,

I have a 20 month old son and planned from the beginning of my pregnancy to deliver at the Birth Center in Bryn Mawr. I didn't really have a strong aversion to the epi or drugs but more the tethered and cold feeling of a hospital. I wanted to wear my own clothes and walk about (if I could) if I needed. So there I was 1st time out of the gate and people were trying to dissuade me from doing this "crazy" natural birth. "What if something happens?" "You're crazy, how will you handle the pain?" So I ignored the nay sayers and watched every birth story on tv and video that I could and found support in the many before me that have done it this way and consulted with a doula and the wonderful midwives at TBC. I also visualized often the most excruciating pain imaginable and how I would deal with that. The one thing that stayed in my mind the whole time I was in labor (thankfully only about 5.5 hours) was that each contraction was one less I had to endure and one closer to that little baby in my arms. Every birth is different and had I been in labor much longer, like many women, I don't know if I would have done as well. But I also truly believe that it went faster because I did most of my laboring at home in my comfortable space and just worked through it with the help of my husband and best girl friend. They were great but it was really a mental experience - me and the baby working together. I decided that this was how it was going to be and found the strength inside to take it all. And it was really, really cool I must say. The pain was an instantly forgotten and we all went home that evening with no side effects. Best of luck to you and the other contributors are right when they say whatever course you choose, in the end you'll have that little one in your arms. Take care and you'll be just fine. J. - Parkside, PA

Hello,I had my first daughter in 2006 and had an epidural...I would not have done it any other way!!! I was so scared but to be honest you are in so much pain anyway you don't feel anything but little pressure.

Good luck

Hi E.,

I had epidural both time, and I loved it. I was ready to see both of my kids when they arrived to this world. I have talked to 3 moms who decided not to take an epidural the first time around and they all regreted because they were to exhausted to push and then to hold their baby by the time their little one arrived.

In my opinion, women push much better on epidural. I pushed my daughter out in 15 minutes the first time around with 2 contractions.

But in the end, this is still your decision.

Good luck.

Monika

I had an epidural with both good and bad experiences . I think I was given too much medication, I had no feeling or control of my left leg and it took about 12 hours for feeling to come back and I only got one dose. I also had a spinal headache which is caused by a nick in the spine causing fluid to drain out, this cause a horrible headache and back pain during my recovery. With that being said I would without a doubt get an epi again. I had no pain during my delivery and it did not slow down my progression. The spinal headache was easily fixed with a simple procedure that was done in my room in about 5 minutes. I believe that every experience will be different and I'm looking forward to my next delivery to be as painfree as my first.

Hi.
When I was first pregnant, and my ex backed out I thought I wasn't going to try to be anyone's hero. Bring the drugs. Then I met someone who taught the Bradley method. It appealed to me. I meditate, and I have used it in the past to manage pain somewhat. Merely getting my toe in, but it showed me the possibilities. Then I was sick in my pregnancy and didn't get to go to any classes or anything. I should also mention that I was filled with fear of delivery. All my life. Deep, deep, fear.
They ended up inducing me, which I really didn't want. The drugs had the contractions coming two minutes apart right away, which made the epidural harder to accomplish. It took quite a few tries and I was starting to think I couldn't make it with it.
The happy ending is that my delivery was very calm and spiritual. I had feared not having my partner there, but now I think all women should have a girlfriend like my best friend. She was an amazing guide. The nurses were wonderful. The room stayed quiet and dimly lit. You do still feel pain with the epidural. I had back labor and there was a big patch where I felt everything. But that was a good thing because it kept me connected to the process, and counteracted some of the supposed downsides to the drugs. Like the fact that you push less effectively because you can't feel it. I wish everyone could have an experience like mine.
I will also say that this friend who teaches the Bradley (and give birth in her own tub with her husband asleep on the floor) is also a doula. And she feels that what is most important is that each woman has the birth experience that she needs to have. She also thinks that a lot of women approach childbirth like a battle, and later brag about their war stories. She advocates trying a more empowering way. Just don't feel pressured either way, and do what makes you most comfortable.
Peace to you!

I had an epidural with my son 15 months old. I recommend it to any woman who is having a baby. BEST INVENTION

When I was around 3 months pregnant with my daughter I decided there was no way I was going to have an epidural. I prepared myself mentally to do it naturally and ended up getting some demorral through the IV. For me the pain wasn't as bad as I thought it would be, everything else was horrible though - all I could do was lay in the bed because they couldn't monitor my baby's heartbeat so they had to do it internally. Every pregnancy is different, I chose not to have one with my son and even taking demerrol in the IV didn't help any - the pain went straight into my pelvic bone, so an epidural would've just prolonged that.

Remember that an epidural could increase the length of your labor. There are certain side effects but that doesn't mean that you will suffer from them. A friend of mine took the epidural, her son is 5 and ever since she had it done she's had back problems. Of course, just because that's what happened to her doesn't mean it will happen to you.

Talk to your gyn and see what he/she thinks about. See if you can talk to the person who would administer the epidural if you do decide to have one. Make sure all your paperwork is filled out if you decide to have one, even if you are debating it and aren't sure. There are several forms and releases in ordering the epidural so if you wait too long when in labor before deciding if you want it you might not be able to get it.

Also, if you decide against it be prepared for the nurses to ask you over and over and over if you want it - both pregnancies I was ready to punch the nurse in the face because they asked me about 5 or 6 times if I was sure that I didn't want the epidural.

I was only in labor for 6 hours with my daughter (after they broke my water and induced me) and about 5 hours with my son (after being induced).

In the end, it's up to you to decide whether you want to epidural or not, no one can tell you that you shouldn't or should. Look at all the pros and cons, find out about after effects. Most importantly, try to make the decision befor you go into labor, you can always change your mind.

I had my first son 7 1/2 months ago and had an epidural. It was unbelievable! I am terrified of needles but it was very worth it. It was almost instant relief from contractions. I was able to rest for a few hours before I had to start pushing. I have nothing to compare child birth to without it, but I would never go any other way. The bottom half of my body was numb for awhile afterwards so I could not get out of bed, but once I was able to stand on my own I was able to shower. I would definately suggest getting one.

Hi E.,

I would strongly recommend getting an epidural! Having a baby makes you hero enough. Epidurals are very safe and make the birthing process more pleasant. I have 3 children and had an epidural for 2 and natural for 1. The natural childbirth experience was miserable. I'm very laid back and have a high pain tolerance but this was very unpleasant. Epidurals make the whole process easier. Good Luck and in the end, do what is best for you and don't worry about others. People are very opinionated on this matter either way... When you are actually in labor, you will make up your mind either way. Feel confident in your decision and don't look back.

Hi E.,
I just had my first baby 3 months ago and didn't have a "birth plan" or anything. I just had in my mind that i wanted to go as natural as i could, for as long as i could... haha, i think i knew eventually i'd end up with some kind of intervention, but i wanted to give everything i learned in the birthing classes a try first.

my water "broke" -more like a slow leak- but my contractions never started, so 12 hours later, they induced me... i labored naturally for about 5-6 hours, but it really started to hurt [after changing position 1/2 a dozen times, trying the ball, hot bath, walking, etc.] so i asked for just a pain killer- not the full blown epi... it worked like a charm for about 4 hours and i got to rest up. when it wore off, the contractions were outta this world, so after another 1-2 hours, i got the epi. i was able to rest again and keep up my strength and mental stamina for the delivery, which i personally think was instrumental in my positive delivery experience. everyone is different, of course, but i wouldn't change a thing about my experience.

Women will tell you all kinds of horror stories about their epis, but think about it this way, there's no award for moms who go thru a natural birth! you'll still be a good mom!!
i say BE "COMFORTABLE" as best you can, and save your energy and your mind for the tougher part- pushing!!
although its been awhile for you, your body will remember what you went thru 12 years ago, and the whole process will probably progress quicker this time around as well. it sorta depends on that and how long you decide to labor at home.

anyway, good luck to you and congratulations on your new addition!!
L.

I had all three of my children naturally it was very painful but there was a great sense of accomplishment afterwards. I never thought I had it in me, I found out I was alot stronger then I thought. I now feel like I can do anything no matter how hard it seems. I think everyone should try it once it will teach you alot about yourself. I don't understand why people are willing to withstand pain for things like tatoos and plastic surgery but it is not worth it for childbirth. I think there is a reason for the pain and you will not be sorry afterwards. There are less talked about side effects of the epidural such as death because your respirtory system can become paralyzed, c- section because you are not able to push or having to use forcepts which can injure the baby. It can also effect the baby's nervous system and because the drug is metabloized through the babies immature liver it can increase the risk and severity of jaundice and there are many mor symtoms to many to list so I encourage you to do a google search you will find alot more of them there.
I hope this helps I respect you for wanting to make an informed decision.
Tina

Absolutely! I believe the miracle of birth can be more appreciated without the endless hours of pain. You will have gone through enough by the time you reach 4 cm--not to mention your recovery. Epidurals are an amazing advancement in technology that our mothers and grandmothers would have killed for! Go for it!

I am a midwife apprentice and I certainly feel that epidurals will numb your true power during birth.

Find your strength in the moment you most need to allow and become strong.

You are safe and capable as long as you keep listening to your self. Ask for help when you need it, but remember that You are giving birth and it is intended for Many reasons to be the way that it is.

Love,
C.