M.S.
I was in your same boat just a few years ago. I had an active 3 year old girl and a brand new baby girl. My toddler was very demanding and believe it or not, rarely played with toys. I was going out of my mind to say the least. My two salvations were MOMS Club and a co-op preschool that I participated in. MOMS Club was great because I had extra eyes to watch my toddler if I needed to nurse the baby. It made park outings more manageable. Also, I made a special time for my toddler where I spent one-on-one time with her. Usually this consisted of a special outing or dinner at a restaurant. This helped give her the attention she so desperately needed and gave her (and me) some time away from baby. I have a great book with all kinds of low-cost activities and games that you can do around the house. I will hunt around for it and if you would like, you can have it. Best of luck to you. I don't remember much of my youngest's first year because it was a blur. I am glad that I kept a daily journal detailing the mundane things like teething, rolling over etc. . . I wasn't able to muster up the energy for a scrapbook like I did for the first child. Now my girls are 3 and 6 and play together nicely (most of the time). Be sure to take some time for yourself too - pedicure, massage, outing to coffee shop where you just sit and read a book. It will revive you!! Good luck.