Engagement Ring Gift---Thoughts?

Very sweet that she gave the ring to someone who (hopefully) appreciates the original giver, instead of just selling it for the gold, which she could have done.

That's very nice. I would keep it as a reminder of my mom and my parents...one day you may want to pass it down to a daughter. My mom passed down her mother's wedding band to me...it's a simple white gold thin band. I have this as a happy memory of my grandma.

What exactly is your question? Do you want to know if it's appropriate to wear it as an everyday ring? Do you want to replace the semi precious stone with another diamond? Do you not like it and simply don't want to tell your mom because it might hurt her feelings?
If she gave it as a gift it's yours to wear or not, and if you don't like it you can still be gracious by keeping that thought to yourself.

I think it was a very thoughtful thing for her to do.

What is your question?

Last May, my mom gave her diamond ring which she had redesigned with the diamond from her engagement ring from my dad ( divorced over 25 years) to my daughter. It's not exactly my daughter's taste but she wears it from time to time and appreciates the history of the ring.

I don't understand your concern. It was a very thoughtful gift from your mom. Appreciate it. Use it or store it for your children.

How nice of your mom.

I'm guessing you found this to be weird? I think it's sweet. I would be very, very touched if my mom gave me something like that. It's a part of her, a part of her history (and your history) and she wanted you to have it.

Not sure if you are pleased, upset or confused.

My mother-in-law gave me a ring of hers (not engagement), but had taken the diamond out for another use, and left me with a useless setting. It seemed like a non-gift to me. But your mother put another stone in, making the ring wearable, but not exactly her engagement ring. Maybe, since the divorce was so long ago, she thought it might be nice for you to have a "version" of her ring that was, we presume, given/received in love between your mother and father, but different enough now to represent more of a connection between you and her. And if you have a diamond in your current marriage, maybe she wanted to make this different from the ring you have.

My grandmother willed me her engagement ring. Even though I knew she and my grandfather had a pretty dysfunctional relationship, she didn't know that I knew. She and I were close, and I treasured that ring because it reminded me of her.

Prince William gave Kate Middleton his mother's engagement ring (that big sapphire ringed in diamonds) because it represented Diana, as well as his parents and the hopes that, we presume, they once had. Even with all the drama and betrayal in that family, the ring has significance.

I think you can enjoy and treasure it, unless there's more to the story or something in the way she presented it that make it unpleasant for you. That would change my opinion.

Say "Thanks, Mom!" and wear it if you feel like it.
What's the issue?

I think it was a lovely thing to do.

What a nice gift! It's thoughtful that she decided to pass it to you with a stone in it.
I can understand why the diamond was special to her and why she would want to repurpose it. My husband was previously married and used the white gold from that ring to make into his (our) wedding ring. I had no problem with it. It was important to him.

If you are asking how to respond to her generosity, I'd say "graciously".

What are your thoughts????

thoughts?
um- say thank you?
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khairete
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Sounds like a thoughtful gift, she kept a little something to remember that part of her life by and had the ring that once linked your parents made into something appropriate for regular wear. Sounds like your mom really cares about you to put that kind of thought into a gift.

I guess it depends on your relationship with your father and whether you are an only child. Your father gave that ring to your mother. Now, "a new version" of that ring is yours. If you are "the other special girl" in your father's life - an only child / only daughter - and if you have a good relationship with your father, wear it proudly!

But if the ring brings back bad memories of a bad father, or if your siblings will be angry that you have that ring, you should discuss the situation with your mother.

Thoughts about what? If you should like it or not? If you should do something with it or not? If she should have done that or not?

If you like it, keep it and wear it. If you don't, melt it down and have something else made or sell it and buy something you like. Good luck.

i think i would cherish it and keep it forever.. even if its not something i could wear, i would still cherish it.

what is the problem with this? I'm sorry. I don't get your question. Do you not like the setting?

Your parents are divorced. Okay. Your mom kept the ring and made it into something else and gave it to you. I think it's AWESOME!!! I have my mom's 25th anniversary ring. My mom is dead. My dad gave it to me the day she died because my mom wanted me to have it and I helped him pick it out all those years before.

Cherish it. I know I would.

My thoughts are that I wish I knew more here. Are you asking if you should wear it? Are you asking if you should make it a ring again, or wear it as a necklace? Are you engaged? Already married? What do YOU have in mind?

Do what you want with it.

Do you like it? If so then it's just a piece of pretty jewelry. If you have fond memories of your dad and mom then you could just keep it as a keepsake.

If you hate the whole marriage thing and don't really want it for any reason then why not ask her if you can have it redone? You can melt gold or silver and have it made into just about anything. Melting it might be cathartic. Burning photos and momentoes from broken relationships, that sort of thing.

But you'd have a piece of precious metal left that is purified by fire. Make it like the phoenix, something from the ashes...

Are you disappointed? And not sure if that's a typical response?

I think making it into a necklace is pretty common. Maybe she'll leave the necklace to you for sentimental reasons.

For now, she's enjoying her engagement ring in a way that is appropriate for her.

I've not heard of rings being re-purposed, but the jeweler must have asked her what to do with it - and I think she thought of you. I think it's a sweet gesture.

Most people I know pass on the ring intact to their daughter - but I think it makes sense if your mom still enjoys wearing the diamond, to wear it for now. My mom made my dad's wedding band into a necklace. He passed away. But she never asked any of us if we'd like it. It was her decision to make.

I'm confused. What is your question?

That was nice of her. Say thanks.

Personally, I woulda liked it a lot more if she'd left me it whole, with the diamond in tact. Otherwise it's like a thoughtless gift that looks thoughtful.

I'd look upon it as a time when both of your parents were really happy. Wear it, enjoy it. Or put it away and gift it to your daughter if you have one. But don't hurt your mom's feelings by telling her that it was an odd gift. My feeling is that it meant a lot to her, divorced or not, and she wants to pass is down to you so she could see you enjoy it. If not, she wouldn't have gone through the trouble of having a stone put it.