Endometriosis

I had a lap done to remove my Stage 3 endo and got pregnant 2 months later.
I hope she can get help soon!

Hi,

Ok i have endometreosis, polycystic ovaries, cervical cancer and i have a beautiful 5yr old girl. Endometriosis is very common in women and not as bad as most think. Pls tell her not to lose faith and pls seek a second or even third opinion if she's told she cant conceive. I have alot of experience w/this as it struck me at a very young age. My daughter is perfectly healthy and my pregnancy and birth were a breeze. I wish them both the best of luck and i hope that they will soon be blessed w/their own little bundle of joy.

I am not sure how much help I will be but a friend of mine has endometriosis (pretty bad) as well and had her first child 12/2004. She has been doing acupuncture and now her "cycle" is more consistent and overall she is seeing drastic improvements. I believe they are even going to try for #2.

I also wanted to recommend a book I read after my miscarriage...very encouraging for those who believe in God...

Supernatural Childbirth by Jackie Mize

Here is the publisher's notes:
Supernatural Childbirth

FROM THE PUBLISHER
Pregnancy and childbirth are often depicted as a time of sickness and mood swings for women followed by twelve to twenty hours of pain and hard labor. Many women have been told they can never conceive. Others have suffered the pain of conceiving and miscarrying. Have you had enough of this picture?
Supernatural Childbirth is a practical and realistic look at God's promises for conception, pregnancy and delivery. This is not "pie-in-the-sky"-This is a personal testimony of how one couple overcame defeat and triumphed in God's plan! Jackie Mize had been told she could never have children. However, by unlocking powerful truths and dynamic faith principles she and her husband, Tery found in the Bible, they now have four miracle children! This exciting book shares with you these truths and faith principles.

You will learn these things:

* How to put faith principles into action for your very own supernatural childbirth

* How you can be a living example of God's promises in action

* How to deal with fear during pregnancy and delivery

* How and when to use your faith for pregnancy and delivery

Also included in Supernatural Childbirth:

* Faith-inspiring testimonies from women who have followed these principles and experienced their own supernatural childbirth

* Confessions and prayers for a supernatural conception, pregnancy, childbirth, and all- circumstances surrounding each stage

* A powerful teaching section by Terry Mize ex- planning the curse on Eve in the Garden of Eden

HI A.,

I had terrible problems with fertility, though with Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome not endometriosis, but wanted to respond as so many people are saying you have to stay positive. While this is good it is important that your sister in law also knows it is perfectly normal to be sad/angry whatever she feels really. There is always hope and after 5 years and different surgeries and treatments I had a son who was followed 13 months later by a daughter. It can be a long road but having people like you by her side it will make a huge difference.

A.,
My sister was diagnosed with endometriosis after having her first son about 15 years ago. She had surgery and later had 4 more children without any problems. Hope this helps!

A.

Wow, what devastating news, but yes, there IS HOPE!!! A friend of mine in Connecticut had found out 6 years ago that she had endometriosis. She had a hard time with it and even fell into a deep depression. She just gave birth to her second child...a girl, in March. She's had four pregnancies since her procedures in 1999, she's had TWO successful ones. It's a long hard road and a tedious one at that. I pray for your brother and his wife. It's hard.

Hi. I can tell you that I know of many people that have had endometriosis and then were able to still have children. I think a lot of it is mental. If they worry and worry about it, they will have more trouble getting pregnant. It always seems that when you try that hard it actually seems to be a tougher process. If she will be a great mother, then I'm sure God will bless her with a child. A lot of praying helps too. I will pray for her.

M.

Hi A.:

I had endometriosis beginning in the 80's before laser surgery was around. I went through hormone treatments including male hormones for almost 9 months and it was terrible. They finally started practicing laser surgery in Houston and I went there about 1985. It helped but the endo came back. The following year Dallas offered the surgery and I had to have 3 more procedures; in 87, 89 and 1991. I was even told we may have to consider fertility drugs. My doctor was adamant that he was going to save my reproductive organs and was so certain that I would have children (this started at 24 and lasted for 10 years). In December of 1993, my husband and I had a beautiful baby girl, luckily without drugs, but we had not ruled them out. Abigail is now 12 and the love of our lives.

I endured a lot of pain and trauma but Dr. John David Bertrand out of Presby-Dallas made it happen. He is a fertility expert and has been listed numerous times in "D" magazine as the doctor other doctors recommend. He is elite in his field and if anyone can help - he can.

Tell your sister-in-law I wish her the best and should she have any questions, please ask. By the way, after I had my daughter I never has the endo again. I was very lucky!

T.

When I was 32 I found out the same thing - but I did the laporoscopy surgery.... then -- one year later took clomid (a pill you take for five days - one in twenty have multiples with this drug) one time and got pregnant with boy/girl twins. The cramps stop for alittle while -- but I can tell now that it is back. They say that the most prime time to get pregnant is right after the surgery. Good luck and my twins are now 2 1/2 and one must be careful for what they wish for :) Twins are alot of work. -- Kind Regards

A.,
I have endometriosis. My husband also had fertility issues, so we ended up going straight to adoption. If your sister in-law would be comfortable going to a church, Stonebriar Community Church in Frisco has an infertility support group. This is a great way to meet other women, share experiences, find out good recommendations for doctors, and just receive support. It is not easy to go-- everyone has a sad story to share--but it is exciting to see these waiting women become Mommies either biologically or through adoption. It is a great place to find hope. Here is the website for the church:
www.stonebriar.org
or for the group:
http://www.stonebriar.org/fellowship/womens-ministries/ca...

My heart goes out to her, but let her know there is hope!
A.

Hello my name is S. we are from LV NV and I to have endometriosis and I am pregnant with my second baby. It is hard to hear and read about all the problems concieving after having endometriosis but I to had that Laborscopy or what ever that surgery was called done, by the best dr. in LV and he never made me feel that it wasn't possible to have babys. I was always in tears but It was already such a bad case of it I was in so much pain, and I was not tring to get pregnant at the time. But I did get pregnant pretty quick without even trying. So please keep your head up and you will be fine. I am sure after surgery you will get pregnant in no time. Feel free to contact me if you would like to talk. Good luck and Don't worry you'll be fine.
S.

http://www.endometriosisassn.org is a non profit support group for women with endometriosis.

I'm not sure where your sister-in-law lives, but there is an awesome dr here in Dallas, Dr. James Douglas. My best friend had stage 3 endo. She had to have major surgery to have it all removed. She also has an issue where her tubes don't align with her ovaries. She had IVF performed 2 weeks ago and found out yesterday that she is probably pregnant with twins.

There is hope. I myself have miscarried 6 times. We are currently seeing Dr. Douglas for my fertility issues also.

Good luck dear!

Hi, A.,

I have always had bad pain during periods and finally was diagnosed with Endometriosis at the age of 30. I had a laposcopy and was put on birth control pills ever since. Three years later when I got married, I stopped taking the pill and went to see an accupuncture with the intention of stopping the pain without taking birth-control pills. Three months later, I got preganant, totally unexpectedly, during the process of heavy DIY remodeling of our new house. Six month of my son was born, my period resumed and the pain came back on my third periods. Since I was still nusing, I didn't want to take any birth-control pills to control the pain. So I went for accupuncture treatment again. I went for 3 weeks and found myself pregenant again!

I guess the key is not to sweat too much about it. I didn't plan either preganancies. Things just happen. Anxiaty itself works against pregancy. Also, she might try accupucture treatment just to control the pain and regulate the periods. Somehow, it works for me. And I dare not see that accupunctist again. Two is quite a handful for me already. :)

My son is living proof that there is hope! I had horrible endo, 10 days after surgery we conceived - after 1.25 yrs of treatments and 4 artificals insem's - I also combined mine with acupuncture. If she has ANY questions, please feel free to have her contact me by email: ____@____.com or phone: ###-###-####. Think positive!

My sister had endometroisis and had to have two different surgeries where she had to have stuff removed with lasers... it was pretty intense... after that she's had three beautiful girls... so don't sweat it! :) Just keep the faith

Please tell your friend that I know of two women in my circle of friends who have been through the same surgery your friend is about to undergo and both of them were able to conceive afterwards. One of them, almost immediately afterwards.

Hi there. I too tried for a loooong time to get pg and nothing. I then started to have pain on my right side and saw that there was a "cyst" there...had surgery only to find out that the "cyst" was in fact not one but TWO endometriomas, and some other endo. spots in other ares (uterus etc) they "cleaned me up" and we tried to conceive again. Nothing. We then found out that my husband also had Infertility issues (gaah) in the end, we had to do IVF with ICSI and we became pregnant the first time! We now have two beautiful twin girls that are 19 months old! It can and will happen for her!! I will be praying! ~E.

OH MY GOSH DO I HAVE WONDERFUL NEWS FOR YOU!!!!!

I am 37 years old. I have been trying to get pregnant since I was 20 and found out when I was 34 that I had this crazy thing called endometriosis. Of course they thought I had cancer before they found out it was endometriosis! I had a surgery to remove a "tumor" which actually ended up being my tubes that were infected and the size of coke cans. I was told that day, after the surgery, that the only way that I could have children was through in vetro since they had to remove my tubes. I was devistated. In vetro was my last chance...I was afraid and knew that there was not much hope in it working. At the age of 36 I decided to try it ONCE and one time only...if it didn't work then I would be able to live knowing that I did everything that I could and could accept the hand that I had been dealt. FIRST TIME TRY...only 4 eggs were harvested and only 2 of the 4 were able to be transplanted. I didn't have much hope and I was really prepared for the worst. Last September I was blessed with wonderful, incredible news...I WAS PREGNANT. That is not the end of the story. I ended up last February nearly losing my son and was kept prisoner in a hospital bed for 2 months and then home 1 month on bed rest. I consider all children to be a blessing from God, but my little Christian is a special little miracle blessing. He was born May 25, 2006, by C-section 2 weeks early. I do consider that day to be the most precious, sacred day of my life and even now writing about it I get teary eyed.

For your brother and sister-in-law. It isn't easy and is a very hard road to go down. I have heard so many devistating stories, and mine just happens to be a miracle. First time try, first time pregnant doesn't happen alot. I will say that was the hardest thing I have ever done...mostly emotionally. If they do decide to do this, RESEARCH to find a good doctor, but more importantly find one that works with a state of the art ARTS facility. I live in Arlington, TX and worked with Dr. Kaufmann ###-###-#### (love this doctor) who works with one of the top labs in the country in Dallas, TX. I can't say enough about this place, they are miracle workers. As for the surgery with the endometriosis...try to have it done laproscopically. I was completely opened up from my belly button to my privates "because they thought I had cancer" by a doctor who will remain nameless. However, Dr. Johns in the HEB area does wonderful work with laproscopic surgery and is who I will go back to, to have everything else removed when that time comes.

It's a blessing and a miracle when all is said and done and with the help of God and the wonderful work of the doctors, having a child is the one most wonderful experiences that anyone can have. Plus, when you have to really work at, it makes it that much more special. I can say that my son was wanted so badly that I did everything in my power to get him here and I will cherish him forever and a day because of it. I am sure it is the same with any mom, but for some reason I feel a special bond...different than I would have expected it to be.

Not sure this all helps, but hopefully gives you and your family a little insight. If your or your brother or his wife have ANY questions, please feel free to email me and from there maybe we can get on the phone and chat as well. My email is ____@____.com prayers are with your sister-in-law...I completely know where she is coming from, but please tell her to not lose hope.

Best wishes,

W. Russell
Arlington, TX

Hi A.,

Hopefully along with the other mothers I will be able to give your family hope. I do see that you have gotten alot of responses on this subject, but mines might be a little different. First of all, I will be 28 this year. I was married for 5 years ( and, now divorced ) and during that time, we tried to have a baby, but after a while it didnt happen and we could not figure out why. We were both young. Prior to meeting him I had horrible painful periods, since I was a teenager. We had gotten good medical insurance, so I went to a great doctor in Houston, who in turn took several test to see why I hadnt gotten pregnant yet. we found out that I had endometriosis and a damaged tube. We fixed the tube with alot of prayer ( no surgery nor medicine). I never had the surgery that they spoke to me about for the endometriosis. I just prayed really hard. After a while they told me that it would be a miracle for me to have kids. The fertilized egg would have to come down my left tube to stick to my left ovary, and that there was a 1% chance for that to happen , and a 99% chance that it would not. Well after hearing that, of course I got discouraged, but our families prayed for us as did me and him. We fortunately didnt work out in the long run, ( which is great for me, he was crazy-literally) but then I got with the man of my dreams that I have been with for 4 years ( this year ) and by the grace of God, we have a Beautiful, Brilliant 1 year old daughter and I am currently pregnant with my son ( I am due in 3 weeks ). I have had 2 children back to back and they are both healthy and well put together. I did not have any surgery or medications, just alot of faith and patience and also the guidance of my savior. I apologize if you are not a religious person, but I can only speak from my expereince. I prayed often and took very good care of my body. After my daughter , I no longer had the painful periods, and now I am praying that it stays that way after my son as well. My point is, a dr ( 2nd opinion ) told me that dr's are not God, they cannot predict if and when you can have children, only he knows. When its time, it will be the perfect time, all you have to do is have faith and patience. In the mean time do what you need to do to prepare yourselves for that day,and love eachother unconditionally, and it will happen. Please let your sister in law and brother read this one, and I hope I can give you great hope. He blessed me, he is really good. I will pray that he bless you, motherhood is beautiful, its the labor that sucks. Good Luck and God Bless You all!!!

I.

I had endometriosis about 5 years ago, I had surgery to have it removed. I had no problems getting pregnant. I have 2 girls and I am an egg donor and soon to be a surrogate, the surgery will do wonders. Just do not let them overmedicate you, I had that before I had surgery and all it did was make me sick and bleed for about 11 months straight. Also, do not stress about it, I was told it makes it worse. I will pray for your brother and his wife.

Hi! I was diagnosed with endometriosis in 1995, had my first laparoscpy where they lasered some areas. Had a beatiful girl in 1998. Was told that should take care of things! Wrong! Had a repeat laparoscpy in 2000 where the Dr said that the "type" I had was one that would "regrow", also had areas on other organs that could not be removed for safety's sake. Was put on BC full-time to stop the growth/spread and ease symptoms. Fast forward to 2005 -> had ANOTHER beautiful baby girl! Point is that if she does have the surgery, there is always still hope! :-)

I have been through all of that when I was younger. I was told that I had a mild case of endometriosis in 1997 and that it would be difficutlt to conceive. I did not have surgery at the time to remove any of it and a year later I was giving birth to my second son. Then in 2001, I was told that I would not be able to have any more kids because of the endometriosis, but I was able to tract my ovulation days and when my husband and I were trying for our third child, and I know this probably sounds gross, but it worked for me, after a "session" of trying I would stay in bed with my legs up in the air (resting on the head board) for about 10-20 mins. Sure enough a few weeks later I was pregnant. My doc was shocked that I was able to conceive, but I did and our thrid son was born. This is just what I did when I went through it, I can not say for sure that it works for everyone. Thankfully I was able to have 3 kids, in May 2005, the endometriosis became severe and I had to have a hysterectomy and I am only 32. I do however wish you brother and sister-in-law the best, I know how frustrating and upsetting it can be.

Hi,
Unfortunately I see that you got quite a few responses (good!) but bad, that there are so many people w/ this affliction. I was found to have endo because I was fortunate enough to have a Dr. who wanted to do exploratory surgery, as I wasn't getting p/g either. I am asymptomatic, so I would probably be still childless w/o this Dr.. I have 2 beautiful girls. I had to have the laparoscopy both times. In each instance, it only took 1-3 cycles max for me to conceive and go on to have successful pregnancies. I wanted to share a book and a website for your SIL, Taking Charge of Your Fertility. The website, ovusoft.com, has a message board, and there are all kinds of categories for people who are trying to concieve, it is a good place for your SIL to chat w/ others in the same boat. She needs to find a good doctor who is proactive about treating the endo. So yes, there is definitely hope, I'm sure she will have a beautiful family one day. She is lucky to have such a caring SIL such as yourself. My best of luck to you all!

I had a friend my Junior year of college who suffered from Ednometriosis, and she was told she would never have kids. After they cleaned up her fallopian tubes and acupuncture therapy, she became pregnant asap. It is something treatable, if caught soon enough...notice how everything turned out in the end with most of these stories? You see there is hope. Praying really does help. W/o prayer, my husband and I prolly wouldn't be pregnant w/ our baby girl.

Hi A., I was diagnosed in 2000 with Endometriosis after severe pain when my period started. I got on the depo shot right after our first child was born in 98 and had been on the shot for about 2 years (without a period) and then we wanted to try to have another baby, so I stopped the shot. My period took about 6 moths to return, so when it did and it was so painful (I was hunched over in pain and could barley walk) I assumed it was just a side effect of not having a period in so long. Well long story short...it continues for two more cycles, I finally went to the doctor and he did the laparoscopy (the procedure was very easy...no complications at all, so no worries), and found Endometriosis AND Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. My doctor, Geffrey Klein in Webster and Houston (fabulous doctor!!!!) gave me a hormone (I can't remember the name) for about 4 months. After no success, he referred me to a specialist and she was pretty certain that within a few months she could help me get pregnant. It involved going to see her almost daily and giving myself shots. Unfortunately, I had just started a new job and we decided it just would not be possible for me to do the regimen required. Other life circumstances seemed to be saying we should not have other children. However after about a year, our circumstances changed and I did long to have another baby, but still could not go through what was required. After some time, we had just decided it was not in God's plan for us to have another child. In fact I had told several people I was not having any more children. When, one day I noticed my breasts hurt, and then I realized I had not had a period in awhile. After a few days, I was feeling a bit strange and just decided on my lunch hour to go to Wal-Mart and get a preg test. I just knew I wasn't pregnant, so after I bought it, I went and took the test in the Wal-Mart bathroom�thought I would just get it over with so I would stop thinking about it...and low and behold...pregnant. Our son will be 3 in November, and it was a totally natural (no hormones) pregnancy.

With my story there was a great deal of disapointment originally, but after a year of not trying to have a baby at all, it just happened for us. So it is absolutely possible to get pregnant even with the odds against you. I wish you the best and most wonderful future pregnancy.

M. L.

Hi A.,

There IS Hope! Endometriosis is a disease that is NOT too hard for God to heal. My friend had endometriosis and was scheduled for surgery, when suddenly the surgeon was called away for an "emergency" and she was rescheduled. In the meantime, she came to visit me and at my church she heard that Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever. He healed in Bible days, and He still heals today! She believed what God said in I Peter 2:24 that 'by His stripes we were healed', and that even though she 'felt' the pain, by faith, she was receiving her healing. She called herself 'healed' even though she still had pain. Was she 'lying' or 'denying' that she had this disease? No! Faith is the substance of things hoped for; the evidence of things not seen. Jesus told people "YOUR faith has made you whole"! My friend pictured herself healthy, and having a healthy pregnancy, and a delivering a healthy baby! She went home and went back to her doctor for the scheduled surgery, not because she thought she needed the surgery, but because she wanted her doctor to confirm the miracle that she already believed had taken place inside her womb. What he discovered that day was just what she had believed - she had no evidence of ever having endometriosis! In fact, he told her something she was not yet aware of . . . she was expecting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
That was one shocked doc !!!! Especially when she told him what she had done between the last scheduled surgery, and this one! :o) Praise the Lord!
God is no respector of persons. What He did for my friend, He can do for your friend!
BTW, I also read and practiced the teachings of "Supernatural Childbirth by Jackie Mize" for the last 3 of my 5 pregnancies.
My first pregnancy went how I had expected it to go from the movies and other women's horror stories. I had every bad symptom, and a long, difficult labor and delivery.
My second pregnancy was a miscarriage - something I feared had come to pass. But then a friend told me about this book!
It changed my life !! God's BEST to you and your friend.

A.-
I am a poster girl of hope for this situation! I am 35 and had my first surgery for endo at 16. I had another surgery for it in about 1998, and have been on birth control pills since I was 15 to help regulate things. I was told the chances of my ever having children were slim to none. I got married when I was 32, and after a year of marriage we decided to start trying in case we were going to need to explore other options. Before I could get off the pill we found out I was pregnant (I had taken migraine medicine 1 time, knowing it could affect the pill but not really worried about it, given all the circumstances). Not only was I pregnant, I was pregnant with spontaneous twins (non-IVF). I am now the proud, tired and believer-in-miracles mommy of 16 mo. old b/g twins. Given my medical history and age, and the fact that I was on the pill, we never thought this outcome was possible, but I am living proof things like this can happen. I am also a firm believer in the idea that my state of mind played an important role. I had really come to grips with the fact that IVF or adoption were probably our only realistic shots at having kids, and was really at peace with that - not putting any pressure on ourselves to conceive, and it happened. Please give them my best wishes and tell them to hang in there. It is such a scary and somewhat helpless feeling place to be, but there is hope!

I had Endometriosis and somehow managed to get pregnant after many miscarriages. I was on birth control for a couple years before I got pregnant the first time to regulate my periods. From what I know, it's usually a slim to none chance of getting pregnant and then just getting past the first trimester is another obstacle all together. That's all the information I have...I did get pregnant...but it took many years.

Your sis-in-law's story sounds a lot like mine. My husband and I tried for months and was unsuccessful. I had a feeling there was a problem with me so I switched doctors and had a LAP done w/in the month. I ended up w/ endo, my right tube blocked and cysts on both ovaries. After surgery my doc told me to give it 4 months and if we weren't pregnant we would start on clomid. Well, the month we were about to start on clomid we got pregnant and now I have a beautiful 10 month baby girl.

Tell her not to give up. It is so hard to go through; one of the toughest things I went through in my life. I hope it works out for her!

This is a very common medical problem and can be removed with surgery.

In fact, this also happened to me about 4 years ago. They removed it and within 6 months, I was pregnant...natuarally without any fertility drugs. Now I have a beautiful 2 1/2 year old daughter. Tell her not to worry, everything will be ok.

My sister in-law also had endometriosis twice and each time she had it removed, she became pregnant.. She also has 2 beautiful daughters. It's just a blockage that makes it impossibble for the egg to fertilize. Once the blockage is removed, everything usually turns out ok.
L.

Hi! I have also suffered for many years with endometriosis and infertility. I have had four laparoscopies at this point-- 3/99, 11/01, 12/04, and 2/06. After 3/99, I was just put on Lupron therapy, which I do not reccommend. After 11/01, it was discovered that I had severe endometriosis (the worst my doc had ever seen) and it was all lasered. We discovered that my husband also had infertility issues, and did an IVF procedure in May of 2002. As a result, we have a beautiful 3 1/2 year old girl, it worked on the very 1st try. We tried to get pregnant on our own again 2 years ago with no luck, I started severe abdominal pain and then had my next lapo in 12/04, which did nothing to relieve the pain. After a series of things working against us, we had the last lapo in Feb of this year, and have thus far been unsuccessful in getting pregnant again. We have tried one IUI (which I don't reccommend if you have female and male issues!, but we thought we'd give it a try). We have tried now for 4 months to get through a whole IVF cycle with no luck, either I have cysts, my bloodwork is wrong, or I haven't responded to the meds. We will try just one more time, then on to adoption for us. That might be more info than you need, but do know that even with severe endometriosis, once it was lasered, I was able to successfully get pregnant. Good luck to your brother and sister-in-law!
:)C.

Dear A.,

I'd highly recommend trying acupuncture & herbs. I don't know if your brother and his wife live in Houston, but we are blessed here with an acupuncture college clinic. The treatments are top-notch, under professor supervision - and it's only $35 per visit (plus every 4th or 5th treatment is free). Acupuncture is effective for SO many things - and it really is not painful. I hope she finds the help she needs!

ACAOM - ###-###-####) - 9100 Park West Dr., Houston, TX 77063
http://www.acaom.edu

Sincerely,
R.

Hello

I also have endometriosis. We tried for 2 years to get pregnant. I underwent lots of test and went to a fertility specialist. They diagnosed me with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) and determined that my overies were covered in endo. They recomended laproscopic surgery and then if that did not work fertility treatments. I did 3 months on clomid to help me ovulate. Other than that I did not feel comfortable with fertily treatments. We decided to adopt. We went through the whole year long and expensive process, We were just waiting on a child to become avalible. And out of the blue I had a weird feeling. After years of negative pregnancy test I thought what the heck let me do it just to be sure. And to my udder shock and disbelief I WAS PREGNANT!!!! This was after almost 3 years of being of birth control and 1 year after we had stoped really tring. We now have a perfectly healthy and beautiful baby girl! We are so blest!! I hope this is encouraging. Tell her don't give up hope!

I was diagnosed with endometriosis over seven years ago, among other fertility issues. Fertility issues are tough, and they're expensive. After lots of attempts, we now have a beautiful three-year-old daughter. She was worth every penny and every single procedure. Make sure your sister-in-law is in some sort of counseling. It really helps to deal with the "why me" issues.