Embarrassed to Even ask.........Psychics

I don't believe in them. I think these people, for the most part, are just very observant people who listen carefully and then just elaborate on what they've heard/seen. Like the show Psych.

I do believe in premonitions because I have had one. I had a very vivid dream one time; woke up and really felt like it was a premonition but then thought how could that be. None of the circumstances are right. And lo and behold, circumstances changed and the dream came true! It wasn't a good one and I wasn't happy, but what happened was exactly what I dreamt.!

Oh, I'd be angry if this was my husband's idea of counseling. Of course the psychic is going to say these things. Any Joe off the street could say to a couple having trouble that one is numb (obviously, the newcomer to her and the one who doesn't believe in it). Anyone would say "you want to work on it" -- which you don't, but that would be the assumption). And any 3 year old could be predicted to "pick up" on things in the house when parents are unhappy. How much is this foolishness costing?

When I was 18, I looked at a picture of my boyfriend. He was about eight years old and just hanging out in the living room. I looked into his eyes (in the picture) and told him that I could see that he was molested right around the time that this picture was taken. He and his mother confirmed that there had been a few-days period where this went on, surrounding a family gathering event, and the picture was taken during that event.

Some years later, I was talking with an intern at work, and she showed me a picture of her boyfriend. It was a portrait done in studio, with that blue-sky-clouds background. Before I knew what was happening, I just blurted out, "Oh, he loves cows and baseball!" She confirmed that his two favorite activities were playing baseball (on his college team at that time) and working on his grandparents' farm.

My friend wanted so much to conceive. On the phone she was telling me that she thought she might be pregnant. I instantly knew that she had been pregnant and had already miscarried.

Early in my relationship with my husband, I had all kinds of psychic moments with his ex-wife. I could always predict when she would call with her brand of trouble.

I have a hard time walking through crowds and sometimes talking on the telephone because there's so much noise. I hear spoken and unspoken words equally.

This is my life. I see the words and pictures around people the same way that you see your name when you write it with a Sharpie. It's not about "fortune-telling", predicting the future, the winning lottery numbers, etc. And I am not "of Satan".

It is more likely that sensitive people will study Psychology than Psychology students will claim clairvoyance or any other psychic ability. That's because Sensitives are seeking to find legitimate work doing what they love and what is natural for them. Their whole well-being rests on being true to who they are and stepping out on faith every day.

Maybe this woman had something to offer to you and maybe she didn't. Everything that is sensed by a sensitive person will not be a profound message. I, too, believe that you are not as close to being done as you claim. I think that you have been so hurt and disappointed by your set of circumstances that you've hardened your heart and decided against vulnerability. That has nothing to do with psychic ability. That's human nature...more specifically, woman nature. It's the way that women tend to respond when we realize that we are not married to Superman, after all. We don't make a fuss; we just swallow it. And adjust. And next thing you know, we're done.

There will always be dishonesty in business; no profession is immune--auto mechanics, shoe salesmen, realtors, hair stylists.... Sometimes, though, you find that one who--you can't put your finger on it--is just...RIGHT. You just have to be true to who you are and attach yourself to something bigger than you without trying to minimize what could be someone else's truth. That's how you will find your appropriate path and connect with the appropriate people along that path.

Ok, I do believe that people can be "gifted". I think most people who advertise that they are and make it a living are not truly "gifted". I would never see one. In the bible it doesn't say that people cannot have these "gifts" it says you should not go to them. It doesn't say spirits don't linger around, it says that you should not attempt to interact with them ( paraphrasing here). So again I think people can posses these abilities. I've actually sat with my grandfather and we've discussed this and referred to the bible, to see what it says on the matter.

I feel will when you dabble in such things you are opening yourself up to good and evil. You never know which one.

If this goes against your beliefs and you are uncomfortable with it don't go. Whether you believe in it or not, she is not qualified to offer marriage counseling.

Well if she has been seeing your husband for a while all of what she said about you he has already told her. Just like I can read your complaints about him and know exactly what he has told her.

This is something I would love to believe in because it is cool but it is nothing more than some people are better at reading people and getting things out of them than others.

Wow! It's amazing to me how the most religious people are the most judgmental and condemning. If Religion would stop teaching hate, then I think our world would be a better place. Whatever happened to loving others as ourselves? Or being there for our neighbors? When did it become, "well, I will be there for my neighbor if they aren't gay, going to see a psychic, having an affair, etc." Judging people for doing all that they can to save their marriage is ridiculous. Preserving one's family in the interest of the child/ children and in keeping the family together is admirable and I think that M. went, despite it not being in her comfort zone, is a good sign that she is still trying to keep things together. I'm with Alexis. Give it a try. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

M.,
psychics and mediums have been around a long long time. As a Christian, I believe God speaks very directly on this issue and I would have nothing to do with it. I don't think its all hocus pocus, I think the power behind it is real. Its just that its not from God. I'm going to go a step further here and say that in agreeing to go, you have opened yourself up to evil angels. When we knowingly or unknowingly engage in certain behaviors; illicit sex, consulting with mediums, ouija boards, illicit drugs, ...... access is opened to fallen angles because we are in their territory and they want to claim us. The good news is that God is more powerful and all we need to do when we realize we have stepped into enemy camp is to pray. If I were you I would pray for his forgiveness and ask that he protect your family and your daughter.

http://www.gty.org/resources/questions/QA208

There is so much on this topic, and I'd love it if you wanted to PM me so we could talk further. The prophetic book of Revelation talks about a vision were John sees "three unclean spirits like frogs going out to deceive the nations". I believe that Spiritualism is one of the ways that Satan will deceive masses. This woman is suggesting you have a "gifted" child. She is one who believes in crystalline and indigo children, children with extra senses, children who remember past lives, or descend from other worlds......All this is deception. The New Age movement and the God consciousness movement, are all going in the same direction and all of it is deception and people are falling for it left and right. Amongst the things Satan hopes to accomplish is to deceive people into thinking they can communicate with the dead (especially with dead loved ones which demons can impersonate). Eventually the messages received will lead the world astray. They will convince people that the righteous and the unrighteous all end up in the same great place- a clear deviation from the true gospel of Christ. The bible says people will abandon the clear word of God and follow after fables. We are also told through bible prophesy that this deceptive work would be accompanied with signs and wonders.

Update: I had a chance to look at the web site. I don't think there is any doubt in my mind that this woman is an occultist. Whatever "senses" or "impressions" are coming to her about you should not be listened to, headed, or entertained.

I am going to present an opposing viewpoint since I don't figure you came on here entirely for validation of your perspective. In my opinion if I am really committed to having my marriage/committed relationship fixed, then I am willing to do whatever it takes even though I am a very black and white/scientific type. Visit a voodoo priestess? Great. What do I wear? Weekend tent revival retreat with chicken sacrifices? Terrific. Do I need to bring my own knife? Marriage counseling? You bet. Psychic? Why not? Is it hokey? Sure but what have I got to lose? Everything. Hmmm…okay… What have I got to gain? Everything. In the balance those everythings are what is at stake and why I would be willing to do anything to fix my marriage. Fine the psychic thing is pretty far out there. Maybe this woman is a charlatan. Maybe this woman is only profoundly good at reading people. She’s surely not a qualified marriage counselor. In this life, though, I’ve gotten life changing advice from people who had no degrees and perhaps no business telling me their version of the facts. If you go to the psychic, then you have to go in there with your whole being present. Anything less and you’re wasting everyone’s time. If it’s not something that appealed to you in the first place and you knew there was no way on earth you could be completely on board with whatever occurred, then you shouldn’t have gone. I’ve found it takes full commitment and sometimes a dash of faith to fix what is wrong, especially with relationships.

Finally quite frankly as an aside purely based on this single post from you, you don’t sound like you are committed to fixing your marriage anyway (describing your entire relationship as a living as roommates is revealing). With one foot out the door, no marriage will ever see the light of day. I know because I checked out on my first marriage and it ended. Each person has to be committed in order to work through the rough patches. No half measures.

I think that because of movies and such they make psychics out to be able to do or see more. Most only have heightened senses and/or can easily read people (body gestures, answers etc.), which could be considered a gift. I do believe that there are some that have visions although they are not crystal clear like a picture or movie so they can never really give an exact answer but sometimes they can help in certain situations.

It is absolutely against my belief system...the Bible. Sit down with your pastor or religious leader (if you are Christian) and ask him to show you the Bible verses condemning this sort of activity, if you need confirmation...but I know you don't. Your gut instinct is right.

It's a load of rubbish, and if people are truly deep into it (the "clairvoyants") then it's of Satan.

You need to protect your daughter from this woman as well.

Thank you for this question ... Fascinating answers!

I would go once, to give it a try. But after the mediocre first experience you had, I probably wouldn't go again.

How often does one go to a "clairvoyant" anyway? It's not like therapy. Doesn't seem like the route that will fix your marriage.

Sounds like you need to decide whether you really want to try to make it work, or whether you should cut your losses and leave. Not that easy with a 3 yr old. Time to balance the pros and cons. Good luck to you!

Ha! Hahaha! What a scam. Yeah, duh you're numb - you have been in a failed marriage for a long time, who wouldn't? And I can see why she ventured the guess that you wanted to work on things, or else why would you be there sitting across from her? The part about your daughter is just flattery and drama. Ignore this so called psychic. I agree with PP that they're generally just people good at reading other's expressions and body language and take good guesses.

You sound like you have exhausted all remedies in trying to salvage your marriage. Having been divorced myself, I learned that life is short--make the best of it. If you are truly done with your marriage in your mind and heart, then take the next step.

Your husband sounds like he is trying to find a way save the relationship even if it means seeing a psychic. As a courtesy to him, I would go to see this psychic, but I would take anything sees says with a grain of salt. Really, if you are truly done with this relationship, what have you got to lose?

I kinda think they are real, but would never talk to one.
Also, after seeing your husband for awhile, it probably doesnt take rocket science to be able to read you guys either.
Heck, I could do that!

Ask her what you ate for breakfast? lol Kidding.

On a more serious note, I hope you guys can work it out. Prayer can be an amazing thing!

Good luck!

**Also agree with Jane. Be careful

I think psychics are good at reading peoples emotions/expressions/body language and have a smattering of psychology knowledge and have a talent for telling people what they want to hear.
I don't put much stock in them.
Why do you have to make an appointment to see one?
Shouldn't they already know you're coming?
How would any parent NOT like to hear their child is gifted?
Now that she's met you, hopefully she can tell Hubby it's over and she can 'see' you leaving in the near future.
It doesn't take a psychic to read THAT writing on the wall.

It's baloney. She's reading your (or your husband's) facial expressions, body language etc. and giving the kind of vague informations she thinks you most want to hear. She is even helped along in "reading" you based on what your husband has already said. This is called a "hot reading" as opposed to a "cold reading" when she has no information on the client.

Don't give it a second thought. Really, it's nothing you or I couldn't learn how to do with some practice. The only real "gift" this woman has is that she is especially skilled in separating people from their cash.

I feel their are people who are gifted and they can read some of this, but how much, I don't know.

I don't see them. I have had a random man in a restaurant walk up to me as if he was pulled toward me and told me I had a strong Era (?? - spelling). Anyway, he asked to hold my hand and told me I had happiness and money in my future and I would travel to another place. Ummm...tell me everything I want to hear, right. Well, I met my husband sometime after that, we abruptly moved from Vegas to Arizona, came back, and I am in a better financial situation than I was in when the strange man held my hand. Was it that or I was working in a job I hated, I was broke, and unhappy, got fired and then "traveled" down the road to a different dealership, made more money, met my husband, and found myself more happy. I don't know because he wasn't very specific.

As for the gifted child, my daughter has described my dad to the T and never met him and never seen a photo of him. I look like my mother, so there couldn't be anything she sees in me to resemble my dad. Gifted? I don't know. I have someone who tells me all the time that kid is gifted. I often have dreams, some times I remember them and they happen and some times they are just dreams. The same lady tells me I am gifted and I have to pay attention to it. She says to write it down, but I don't. However, most of my dreams are by way of visits with those loved ones who have passed. I don't know that this is a gift...doesn't everyone have dreams?

So back to your numbness. Do you really have to be gifted to see this? She states you want to work this out and you say you don't. Is it that, deep inside you want to work it out, but you are exhausted? Or...if she confirmed you are done, then so is her financial connection to you? You decide.

I too am really fascinated by this question and all the answers so far.

I do believe people have different perceptual gifts that cannot be explained. But I also think most of them don't try to make money off of their talents. So I am skeptical of those who are charging you to sense or predict things about their lives.
I'm also religious and believe that a faithful Christian trusts in God and His plan and doesn't go seeking "previews"
I knew a girl in college who had a strong connection to "beyond"... mostly receiving messages and constantly sensing a presence of those who had passed. It was actually rather tiresome for her to manage at times. Anyway she was such an earnest person I could never picture her exploiting her ability for money.
I totally respect the position you were in though. Even though it sounds like you've given up on your marriage it does sound like you respect your husband and your vows if you were willing to try this for him.