Recently relocated to Japan with my family, and my 13 month old daughter is trying to bite me in direct response to discipline or frustration. Any discipline techniques that work?
Thanks,
J.
First, I want to thank everyone who responded because it always makes you feel better to know you're not the only one who is struggling with this sensitive issue.
Second, before I received any responses I began treating these infrequent biting attempts with "time outs", as much as a 1 year old could understand, and lots of verbal reinforcement of how it hurt mommy and was a No No. It was great to receive such affirmation from other moms that they used the similar techniques.
Lastly, I forgot to state that my daughter has not bitten other children, but it always was something directed at Mom or Dad in direct response to discipline. Not that we viewed it any less serious, but thankfully we could respond to it before it became directed at others. Praise the Lord, the biting over the last week has really subsided, and I am following one mother's advice to watch for those tell-tale signs of frustration that preface the biting. Also, I noticed if she is really hungry she will sometimes pretend she's going to bite me, even though she knows how to sign "eat". I guess I react more swiftly to the negative, so I am learning to tone-down my response when she pretends she's about to do it.
Thanks again ladies!
J.
this is curl yes but it is the only way is to bite her back it is the only way, my daughter did the same thing, Yes it is hard to due it is the only way to get her to stop.
Hi J.,
All kids are different when it comes to biting. If she is biting cause she is frustrated and doesn't know her words and doing it because of that then you may need to step back and take the extra minute to figure it out. Even if it's to ask 20 questions. I notice with my daughter when she started that phase it worked for me. Even if I had to pull everything out the counter. Sometimes that didn't work either and she would in turn through a temper tantrum.
It's hard when they know what they want but don't know how to express it in words to you. It will get easier!
Here is an article if it helps.. there are separate links to point to different things to try or behaviors.
http://pediatrics.about.com/od/biting/Stopping_Toddler_Bi...
Welcome to Japan, I am in Okinawa not sure if you are here or mainland. Be well hope it helps!
J.
J. K, I had the same thing happening to me with my now 16 month old. Every time he try to bit me I would say NO to him and put him in time out in his crib for a few minutes. He is getting much better at that but he is very willful. I hope this help you a little bit.
Best Wishes,
A.
First please understand biting at 13 months is age appropriate behavior but not acceptable behavior. Therefore, I am very much against disciplining physically for her behavior. I agree with the firm voice of displeasure and a time out if needed. Your daughter wants to please you and with your help can learn other ways to react to her frustration and anger. Another idea for you is to give your daughter a teething ring or something similar to bite upon when she has a desire to bite. Work with her, calmly, on how to communicate with you before she is extremely angry and frustrated. Watch her and find her "tell" signs to her loosing her temper and attempt to direct her through her personal crisis before the biting actually occurs. This is not a fast solution but one that with time and consistency she will learn some great building blocks to last a lifetime. Good luck!
Hi J.. Where in Japan are you? I'm a mother of 3 (almost 4) living in Misawa. As far as biting, at such a young age, removing them from the situation (i.e. the person they're biting) is the most effective. Kids at that age learn from "action", not so much verbal threats, etc.. Hope this helps!
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T.
well hello! I see you are in japan? Where at? I am in okinawa i live on camp shields! well i am glad that the biting has stopped that is awesome!
