My 4 year old daughter was only 4 months old when my mother died very suddenly. I was the one that found her because I lived with my mom at the time (I left my daughters father when I was 7 mo pregnant) been a single parent ever since. My mom was my best friend and the bond & connection I have with my daughter totally remind me of that. Any way - when she was barely 2 she would talk to certain corners of the room and I would always hear her talk and play in her room like there was another person in there with her. My daughter is very well spoken, speaks like an adult sometimes, she is very artsy and animated. I finally asked her when she was 2, who are you talking to, then she kept saying "MeMa" and I couldnt figure that out until I asked her if she knew what MeMa looked like and could show me. She then grabbed the last picture of my mom holding her weeks before she died and said, That's Mema" --for a wihle though I asked her about MeMa and she didnt say much and then most recently she has started describing what my mom looked like when I found her dead in her bed. My daughter mind you was 4 months old still in the car seat carrier next to me when I pulled over the blanket and saw my mom. There are details that are crazy that she knows. I need to just know how to speak with her about all of this so I dont say the wrong thing because i've always been a beliver Help
Everyone on here has been amazing. First, I have never posted (I've read alot but I've never posted) Thank you everyone for the great, reassuring thoughts and words and for sharing your own experiences. I most certainly have seen her. She has come to me in 3 dreams since she passed away, the first time was the night before my daughters 1st birthday (it was bitter sweet for me as you can imagine) and when my brother committed suicide I used to walk into my bedroom and it smelled like someone just sprayed his favorite cologne all over but only my mom and I could smell it, no one else. So I have always been happy that she knows her grandma, it gives me a lot of peace. I neglected to mention 2 things that made me concerned with this 'conversation" aside from her telling me that grandma had blood on her face (which I was only concerned as all the visits before she never mentioned that) but the last few weeks she has been having nightmares and wetting the bed when she hasn’t wet the bed once since potty training was “official” but I was under the impression she was reacting to her weekly visits with her father (who has a terrible temper – hence why I left him when I was pregnant) as her “fits of crying and clinging to me at the police station exchanges has been getting worse) but now I’m not sure if she is having nightmares of anything else. But I will always encourage her to be proud of her gift and I am even more excited to have found this site – as I’ve stated my support system (family) is not that big anymore so I’m definitely going to be on here more and will offer kind words and support as well!
I wouldn't interfere. If she realizes she is doing something "weird" or "wrong" she might get scared or something. I would maybe see if she knows MeMa is in heaven. I would be scared to ruin that for her though. Seems special.
I moved into my granpas house after he died. My son was about 7 at the time. we would be sitting there watching tv or something and my son would come in and say "what" we would look at him and say "what do you mean what" he would say someone was calling his name. He did this for 2 yrs. and at the time no one was calling his name. he soon stopped but it was about 2 yrs later. explain that. somethings are not meant to be understood. there was a lot of times I really wondered if he was hearing my grandpa. I am divided whether or not pshycics can talk to dead people or not or are real or not. especially after this. how do you talk to dead people.
Believe her. There are things in this world that we do not understand. Just believer her and let her know you love her and tell her to tell your mom that you love and miss her too.
I love your post. My daughter had a conversation with my great uncle in the backseat of my car at age 2. He died 1 year before she was born. Described him to a T. Even what they talked about was totally what he would converse about. Gave me chills. She kept these conversations going until around age 3, then they stopped. He is the one who left a cross in his will to go to my dad's first grandchild. My daughter was that child. There is a bond there that I cannot begin to understand, but I love it. She sees his picture around my house and reminds me who he is. Unexplainable. But I look at his spirit as her guardian angel. Don't say a word to her about seeing her MeMa. I'd want any part of her back in my life or my child's if I were you. Ghost, spirit, angel - whatever. Some things are just not meant for us to understand.
I think its wonderful. My son was 5 when my mama died and he didn't go to the funeral. A week after she was buried he desscribed to a T what we buried her in and told me that she said she loved it and she looked pretty. My mom died suddenly of a stroke so it was a shock as well. I feel comfort in it. Im jealous, wish I could see my mama! What I wouldn't give for 10 minutes you know? Your baby is blessed. Rest assure its ok :)
Your daughter could absolutely be speaking with or playing with your deceased mother. Children are more open to these kinds of things as they haven't had people telling them this isn't possible their whole life.
If your daughter doesn't seem disturbed by it, then I wouldn't worry about it. Spirits come in many forms, but mostly we can't "see" them but we can sense where they are and they absolutely can communicate with you if you are open.
Also, children can also remember things from when they are very young--they can even recall things that were said around them when in utero. So just because she was young doesn't mean she doesn't remember what MeMa looked like if she was there.
If I were you, I would not tell her that "no, that's not MeMa you're talking to." I would just accept it and keep an eye on it. If she remains happy, then I wouldn't worry.
I am a psychic/medium, so are all 4 of my kids and all 4 of my grandchildren. I remember when my oldest was 4 and standing at the bottom of the stairs and said 'a little girl fell down these steps and died right there' (pointing to the floor). About a year later we found out it was true. This same child also would call her dad and me to come upstairs and ask the kids in her room to please go home because she was tired and wanted to sleep. We never saw any kids but I could feel that a whole family from many years ago was always coming back to visit this house
The best thing you can do is just accept what your daughter is telling you. Your Mom may be coming back in spirit to watch over you and your daughter. Have you ever noticed any signs of Mom being there. Sometimes you will smell her perfume or a scent that reminds you of your Mom. When my brother died we used to smell popcorn in the middle of the night or the smell of toast. Both have very distintive smells. Usually it was only my daughter and I up watching TV and we'd look at each other and say 'do you smell popcorn?' We figured it was my brother letting us know he was there, he loved a bowl of popcorn with his late night TV. We have since moved and for months after we moved into our current home we would smell roses and there would be no roses in bloom. I figured out that it was my grandma letting us know she was near-by if we needed her.
Feel comfort that your Mom in the only way she can is still with you and taking care of you and your daughter.
YAY another believer! I'm so excited. (selfish sorry, I don't meet many believers).
My Grandma died when my daughter was 2...six months later she was in the backseat talking...I asked who she said "that lady"..."what lady?"..."mom the one in the picture"...and then she said "Oh, it's my grandma that died".
Just keep it natural...we don't make a big deal out of it...but I've seen/talked to my grandpa as well so I trust in her ability to know the difference and wait for her to ask questions.
You need to read "The Children of Now" by Meg Blackburn Losey. It is about kiddos like this and it's really interesting. I haven't read the whole thing yet b/c I haven't had time, but it's good.
I believe that kids do have a certain amount of ESP or something. Very cool story... thanks for sharing with us :-)
How wonderful that your mom loves you and your child so much that she visits! I only have 2 little pieces of advice and a comment - 1. As your daughter gets older, she'll believe that everyone is like her and might get teased (or worse) if she tells her school friends about her experience. Unfortunately, not everyone (and especially not small children) are enlightened enough to not make fun of her gift. If it was my child, I'd say something along the lines of "I'd like it if we could keep MeMa's visits as a special secret just between the 2 of us. You know, like bestest friends keep something special just between them and don't tell anyone else, ok?"
2 - Absolutely trust your instincts regarding EVERYTHING to do with your child. If you think that the visits with her father are upsetting her, they probably are! I'm quite sure your mom would not allow anyone to upset your daughter, so (personally) I don't think you need to search for another explanation. See if you can change the visits to her father to supervised ones. I would speak to a cousellor or social worker and ask for help. My comment is -wow, it's awesome to know there are more of us out there! Welcome to Mamapedia! :) Best wishes!
So cool to have an angel looking over her. I cannot tell you the number of times I felt that there must be an angel for my child not to have gotten hurt badly at one point or another. It is super special that your daughter "knows" her angel. I would just let her be and support her. Who knows how long she will be able to communicate with MeMa?
You should definitely look into supervised or no visit for your daughter and ex. If it is so upsetting for her, there is probably something wrong.
Thank you so much for sharing. You sound like a very special family. I am hoping for only the best for you and your children. What a wonderful gift you have! I hope your ex will realize the effect he is having on the ones he loves.
So interesting to read everyone's stories. When my daughter was about two, she announced "telephone" and immediately after the phone rang. I would just listen, but not make a big deal about it.
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I believe your daughter is talking to her grandmother. My biggest concern is her bed wetting, and crying when you drop her off with her father. Those are warning signs especially if you are not bad mouthing the father in front of her. I would consult a lawyer about your rights in pursuing supervised visitation.
