Easter Bunny and Santa

Updated on April 15, 2009
K.M. asks from Easley, SC
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Hi! I am a mom with a 9 year old , 2 year ols and 4 month old.
Well my 9 year old has been asking questions about the easter bunny , santa and such,I was just wondering what is a good age to tell him about the bunny ,santa, tooth fairy or to even tell him at all.I dont want to ruin it for him but I also dont want other kids to make fun of him if he is the only one who beleives.

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L.D.

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You have a lot of great advice. When my daughter starts asking me I will ask her what she thinks. Depending on her answer will be what I tell her. We grew up with "If you believe, he will come". I remember asking if Santa was real and I think I knew but I was around 8/9 and my mom said "If you believe he will come." and I said "I believe! I Believe!" I don't remember how I learned about all of those things. It just sort of faded into being an adult. Being honest is important but there are ways of being honest without shattering the magic. :)

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S.S.

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I remember confronting my dad about Santa, and he lied to me and said Santa was real. I already knew he wasn't real, so it made me lose a little faith in my dad (who I loved and still love very much, so this was very hard for me). I think when a child confronts you about it, you should tell the truth. Your children need to know that you would never lie to them.
I also think that as soon as a child figures it out, that's like a rite of passage. At that point the child should BECOME Santa and the Easter Bunny, helping to make it fun for the younger kids who still do believe. In our house, we had a tradition that every person had to put one thing in every other person's stocking on Christmas Eve. This was enormously fun, sneaking around the house in the middle of the night, trying not to get caught by anyone else. Once we went through the rite of passage, we got to participate in this tradition which was equally fun.
Hope this helps.

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S.H.

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When my children were young, I,too, struggled with this same dilemma. Finally, I decided that my children believing that I tell them the truth always was more important than their believing in a fantasy and then later finding the truth and perhaps never trusting me again. I did wait to tell each one until they brought up the subject. But, all along from day one, they were taught the true meaning of the holidays and so when it came down to telling them about Santa, I told them the story of Saint Nicholaus and told them that people decided to keep the tradition of giving as a Christian act and after St. Nick died, Santa Claus became the symbol of the act of giving on Christmas and eventually came to look like he looks today. I told them that it is not Santa Claus himself who is "real", but rather the spirit of Christ and the gift of God to the world in the form of His Son that Santa Claus is copying by giving gifts to all the children. I also told them that only children in need were given things by St. Nick, but now all children are given things. I also told them that this tradition came to involve even nonbelievers. I continued to emphasize that the holiday itself is about the birth of Christ and God's gift to us. All my children accepted this because it is the truth, and they seemed to think it all made sense that way, and I'm happy to say that they always trusted me, still do, and they know to this day that if Mom says it, it's the gospel! How early to tell them depends on when they are asking and only you, their mom, can determine if they're old enough to be told. Used to be seven to eight, but everything is earlier nowadays. I would think that seven, though, is still when some begin to question. As for the Easter Bunny, my kids figured that one out by themselves. By the time they were a certain age, they were smart enough to understand that there was no such thing as a huge bunny delivering candy everywhere and they asked me, "Are you the Easter bunny?" and I said "yes" and when they asked why, I told them because somebody decided long ago that it was fun to pretend in a great big bunny, and all the parents liked hiding the eggs and the baskets of goodies, so we do that for fun. They always knew the real meaning of Easter and since there's no real connection with that to this bunny, as there is with St. Nick and Santa and Christmas, it wasn't a big deal to them. They thought it was funny actually that adults went around expecting children to believe such as that. They still loved Easter and to this day, they still like to get treats "from the Easter bunny", though they all are parents themselves today! The bunny and Santa, though -- I did explain the difference, that one was once real, but different, and the other (bunny) was just for fun. Actually, when they learned of the Santa story, they pretty much figured out the Easter bunny themselves. Same for the tooth fairy.

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D.P.

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I'm thinking that around 9 kids start to talk among themselves about the veracity of their parents when it comes to Santa, the Easter Bunny, etc. Why don't you sit him down and ask him, "What do YOU think?" Depending on his answer, either let him down easy or keep the dream alive a little longer. I think I'd tend to lean more on the "He's real in our hearts" thing. You could go to the library for books about why we say there's an Easter Bunny, who Saint Nicholas was, etc.

I remember when I was about six, my friends were doing the Is-Santa-Real-Or-Not thing. I was always on the "He's real" side. One day, my mother, out of the blue, said to me, "You know there's no Santa, right?" I burst into tears and said, "NO!" Don't do it that way.

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S.J.

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Maybe if you have let him believe all this stuff all this time, just let him learn it from his friends.

We never told our daughter any of this mythical stuff because we want her to know about Jesus when it comes to Christmas and Easter, but that is because we believe in Jesus.

If you don't have any particular religious beliefs that would contradict these myths then you can continue to let him believe in stuff that isn't real. I would say in the next couple of years his friends would tell him the truth.

Oh and just so you know we let our daughter know that other people tell their kids this stuff is real and that she shouldn't spoil it for the rest of the kids who believe all that stuff. She is 5 and is old enough to understand. She hasn't said anything to anyone and I am sure we would have heard about it if she had since she is in school now.

My mom never told us, we learned from our friends or just plain common sense catching mom in the act of hiding gifts, etc.

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B.F.

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It's up to you....after that they will always have the real world to deal with...personal opinion why deal so much with the real world I like me kids having a chance to be kids while they are kids. I believe Santa and the Easter Bunny are all within us so really they are real...when my kids discover they don't come down the chimney and deliver a basket I will tell them the truth...we all can be Santa or the Eaater Bunny if it's in our hearts.

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S.K.

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Don't worry!!! He is not the only one who still believes. My 9 year old son and 8 year old daughter still believe and I don't tell them any differently. When they ask questions I just simply tell them it is magic.

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T.B.

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My daughter is 10 and still believes--we think. Each of the last couple years, I've wondered if this would be the last! Sometimes we think she is suspicious. She has younger siblings and younger friends and we don't want her to spoil it. I'm not sure how well she would be at keeping a secret! I would probably tell her before she goes into middle school, but we'll have the conversation if she asks sooner.

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C.M.

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Every child is different as well as every parent - I always say go with your gut. My step-son was 12 years old when he was beginning to show signs that he didn't believe in Santa - so we sat down and talked about what he thought and when I realized he was trying to pretend he believed not only for my sake but for his younger siblings sake I then told him it was okay that he knew and that I was hoping he knew because I could really use a "helper" after the kids went to sleep - he LOVED the idea and after helping me and his Dad set up Christmas he said "Wow, I didn't realize how much work you guys do while we are sleeping" - he was really happy to help though and even more excited to play along with us watching his younger sister and brother being sooo excited the next morning - hope this helps alittle!

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M.B.

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Hi, we have a saying if you don't believe Santa doesn't come to see you... even when they were doubting they still didn't let on that they didn't believe until very later in the teens. It has been rough on the youngest now 16, because within the last two years she made the statement that she didn't believe in Santa any longer, so now all presents are wrapped under the tree from mom and dad. She struggles with the getting the things not laid out, and says it is no longer as much fun. We told her that when you don't believe in Santa, the fun dwindles as you grow up.

Stretch it out, as long as you can for the fun of it.

You have a lot of good advice. I worried a little about the building trust issue, but they realize it is all fun and games, especially now that there is the neice to consider. They enjoy playing Santa! The other thing I worried more over is the fact of the belief in Santa being compared to our belief in God. I struggled a little with that until I realize God reveals himself to us through everyday happenstance and individually. Some people argue this, however, again it is up to us individually to do what we feel is best for our own children. May the Lord Bless You and yours and show you the way in this situation.

M. B.

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L.F.

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I have a simple rule of thumb....
1. when they ASK I deny being the Easter Bunny, Santa, etc. at the way.
2. when they TELL me that I am all of the above, I come clean.

I have a 10 yo and a 8 yo. My 10 yo told me about 6 months ago that he knew I was the tooth fairy. I swallowed hard and admitted that I was. The Easter Bunny came shortly after. Ironically he still believes in Santa...HUM??? I guess if you believe he WILL come.

My 8 yo is totally clueless and we still like it that way.

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K.G.

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Boy, this was something I thought I'd ahve problems with too! Didn't happen.
My boys are 17 & 10. I have never spoken the words to either of them and not sure what they believe in-they don't ask and I haven't told.
They are both very much aware of the REAL Christmas & Easter and the 'gift/basket' side of it is not the whole reason for the holidays.
They both also know that Santa brings presents AND the bill for Mom and Dad to pay. They have never asked for outrageous gifts, which has been nice for us! The Easter goodies aren't kept hidden, so they know one day it's here and the next it's in a basket but I don't take them shopping with me!
My 17 yo knows not to spoil things for the 10 yo just by listening to us. Both know that Christmas morning service happens FIRST then presents, just as Christmas Eve services will not be missed because they'd rather do ????. Easter sunrise service at our Church is a must for all of us.
However, if your child asks, explain it and be truthful...less is more.

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D.H.

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I NEVER told my kids that these things were real. We try to focus on the true meaning of each holiday like Easter and Christmas. They still got money under their pillow for teeth or sometimes we'll just do an exchange...lol...my 10yo last night got a tooth out, I'll just hand him a dollar (he loves money), they still get an Easter basket when they wake up, still get presents on Christmas morning. Are they just as excited? Oh yea....it's hard to get them to go to sleep knowing that it will be there in the morning. They have a lot of fun without any disappointment.

When you do tell him, just make sure he knows that some kids still believe and so he doesn't need to spoil it for them. That is something that I told my kids right from the beginning and remind them again around the holidays, so they don't say a word to those kids that still believe and ruin it for them. I tell them that it's up to the parents to break the news to them.

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H.H.

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K.- your 9 yo is going to find out from peers anyway. The statement we use in our house is "If you believe, you receive." I have a 9 yo, 7 yo and 2 yo. My 9 yo is on the edge and has heard from school that things are not real and my 7 yo is still in total belief. So my oldest will become a helper. It is a natural progression and no need not to have fun and imagination in our lives.

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A.B.

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What my parents did for us is what we will do for our children. My parents never admitted to us that they were the easter bunny, santa clause, etc. When we questioned it mom would always say "As long as you believe there will be presents under the tree from santa." Even when we were old enough to know the "truth" and knew mom and dad did these things they never came out and said it. I am 26 years old and to this day if I tell mom that I know she is santa clause she says "As long as you believe there will be presents under the tree from Santa." Good luck with this!

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N.K.

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WOW! He's 9 and just now asking- I'd say you've done a good job- my oldest was 5 when he started asking- I just told him the truth and told him not to spoil the fun for his younger brothers- it's such a personal thing- some people dont believe in letting thier children "beleive" in such things at all- for me- it's all subjective- it depends on your family- on the maturity of your children..how you perceive "make believe" and of course your faith....I am a preachers kid and my parents let us beleive in "Santa" until we questioned it- but of course taught us the true meaning of Christmas and Easter- I'd say if he's asking- tell him the truth and tell him it's about the fun of believing in something and the excitement it brings....but like I said before it's such a personal thing- I would just go with your gut feeling..
good luck to you!
nk
mom of 3 boys

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T.L.

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That is ultimately up to you. I have an 11 year old who we still say Santa comes. Or the Easter bunny. I tell her that the reason other kids parents put the presents under the tree is because they stopped believing. I told her that kids make fun of each other about lots of things and that she should just keep her beliefs about Santa to herself and not discuss it in school. When she asked me if I still believe I tell her yes I do.

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