Hello Mamas, I have a question, maybe some advice. In the beginning of Decemeber, my husband gave a coworker a ride home after work & had a few beers w/him before he headed home. My husband got on the freeway going the wrong direction (he has no sense of direction, u can't even have a conversation w/him while he is driving or else he will miss the turn, lol) so when he was driving on the off ramp, not fast, he was slowing, hard to explain the story of exactily what happen but basically he ended loosing control of the car & flip. Thank god he was by himself & no one was hurt. There was no other car involved in the accident. The police came & he admitted to drinking a few beers. They did the breath test & it was above the 0.08 but below the 0.15 (that one is consider extreme dui from what i have read). Where this happened at was consider Pinal County.
We have never been in this kind of situation. I know there are tons of people who drink/drive & feel ok to drive but get caught up in this kind of situation. I know if he feels like he had too much alcohol in him he won't drive. We are just those kinds of people that will drink casually, have some beers w/our friends & be fine to drive. Unfortunately, he did get caught up & this was a wake up call for us!
I am just wondering if anyone has gone thru this same situation (getting a DUI)? He has court next week. We are just wondering what to expect. What can we do to help us out?
And please, only respond to us if you have been in this situation or you know of someone that has gone thru the same thing. We already have enough stress w/this so right now we don't need any thing to put us down.
Thanks to all the mamas. I loved to read things on this website daily!
My ex was in the same situation. He hired an attorney and the case was dismissed. We are in New Mexico and the laws are quite different than Arizona, but definitely get an attorney. Good luck.
Hi Desi,
Some will argue that any amount of alcohol consumed- should not "get behind the wheel". It takes so little to make the # go up. IMHO
I have had a few friends have this happen. Your hub will do a little time..30days usually..sometimes work release which is less time and easier. He will pay a hefty fine to make him not want another. Pinal County might be less harsh.
HTHIA =)
Hello D..
My ex who worked in the legal system (lawyer) taught me one thing about any case...
You can (if you do NOT have a lawyer yet & do NOT have enough time to get one before your court date) request a (ONE TIME) 30 Day Continuance to hire a lawyer.
Hopefully that will buy you enough time to get one.
The Best to you & your situation.
~D.
My husband is a Police officer. Don't waste your money on a lawyer. Your husband had a BAC taken and that will be that.
I'm sorry but you sound a little bit like your in denial. No amount of "my husband gets confused easily" justifies getting on the freeway the wrong way, much less having a flip the car accident. He was drunk. Focus some of your attention on those issues too.
Meant well.
best advice......pay the fine, do the 24 hours. Thats the advice that my husband when he got a DUI a few years ago. He had ask around and was told by others that getting a lawyer will end up costing you more.
Mammasource is not the forum to be asking complex legal questions. Even if people have been in this situation, what can they possibly tell you that could help you. Get a lawyer. And tell your husband not to admit to anything else until you get one.
We had a son killed by a not so drunk driver. We chose to drink occasionally at home, and never drive with even one drop of alcohol. Please be carefull in the future.
I think it is great you can ask this kind of question on Mama source,legal or not and get so many outputs when you are so frustrated. I really think this is a lesson in disguise and part of a plan your husband needs to go through for some reason but believe me there is a reason. Things for one are not that bad really? your husband is alive and uninjured (I hope) Just think if he was disabled and had to do years of physical therapy or what if he had killed another? So really you guys are lucky and not the only ones in the world going through this problem. But really drinking and driving is like holding a gun to someone's head and maybe you'll pull the trigger. Too many innocent people have died from this problem so that is why DUI laws are stricter. They will make you watch a film about others who died or became crippled because of DUI. Cry all you have to and even in front of the judge how bad you feel. If you let the judge know how truly sorry you are and yes give a speech. NO ACTING though!!!! Rarely do the accuse show their remorse to the judge.(too busy being angry or blaming others like the court system) If you have a honest speech then do it. It will let them know you are TRULY remorsful and most likey WILL NEVER get another DUI. Most DUI's are repeat offenders. Remind them that you are one that promises to never get another. We all make mistakes and are all in a hurry in this world especially to get home. But now we know it is better never to hurry and it would have taken you all less time to have called Safe Ride services.
If I were truly in your shoes I would pray for a miracle. You would be surprised what God can do for a truly remorseful heart. First and this is me if I was truly in your shoes I would pray so hard to not get the breathalizer in the car. That is so depressing and the only thing that would be bothering me. I would be begging the judge for every punishment but that one? Explain how you feel to the judge really? You may be surprised if you have prayed and are truly remorseful and have LEARNED THE LESSON to NEVER EVER do that again!!! I am going to pray hard for you all since it is the first DUI!!! Oh how I wish you the best of luck!!! Remember you are still good people with just a lesson to be learned!!! Count your blessings and pray to get more!!!!
Hi D., Sorry to add to the bad news, but being that I'm an insurance agent, expect a serious increase in your auto rates. It would pay to shop around your insurance, let me know if I can help. Good luck! F. www.AgentLady.com
