Dog Trauma

Updated on November 06, 2011
S.E. asks from Landenberg, PA
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This is kind of long sorry. How do I undo this trauma to me and the kids?

We live on a lot of land so we can run pretty wild. Our driveway is 1/4 of a mile long so I started driving the kids to the end of the driveway to catch the school bus, if it was really cold or we were running late. I would let our dog run along side to get her exercise and so we could play with her at the end of the driveway. Then our neighbors got a new dog. I tried to introduce the dogs one day when we all passed each other but their old dog ran away and the puppy took off with it. No problem.

But, a few months later the puppy hit adolescence and out of the blue came after my dog while she was chasing the car and just tackled her. It turned into a nasty dog fight. So, we spoke to the neighbors. Then it turned into a major issue. Every couple of days their dogs would get out and take after my dog. Always in our yard. My dog ended up ripping up the inside of my car from freaking out inside the car while their dogs jumped all over the outside. We would end up trapped in the car in our won driveway.
One day I got attacked in my car when the school bus pulled up. The bus driver saw how out of control the situation was and refused to let my kids off the bus. A decision I soundly applauded! SHe told me I needed to call the police. She refused to let the kids off unless there was an adult waiting in a car. It got completely ridiculous.

We tried many times to speak to the neighbor but they just could not seem to grasp what a serious problem this was for us. They had this big relationship issue that was causing them to seriously neglect these dogs. The police did what they could and the dogs would be gone for a while but they would always come back out of the blue. We would get back to normal I would start letting the kids play out in the yard again and suddenly they would be there. One spring day I was walking with both of my girls when the two dogs came after us. My wonderful dog battled them both off while I managed to get the kids home. Called police again. She got a ticket.

A few weeks later they attacked again when I was taking the trash can back to the house. I drove over to talk to her. I left my dog at home and my kids in the car. I got out of the car to call to her when the larger of the dogs just lunged at me and gave me a massive bite on my thigh. I ended up in the ER kids all freaked out. The bite was huge and showed clearly the size of the dog's bite radius. I was SO glad the dog had bitten me - not the kids!! So police and everyone else really responded this time. The police told me I should start carrying a weapon! Hubby was furious but actually ended up getting a hand gun. We could not count on these neighbors to keep their dog under control and we could not protect our kids.

Neighbors told everyone they were moving the dogs away. Months went by and we assumed that they were gone. Things settled down and we all began to get over the whole disaster. Hubby stopped wearing a gun when ever he and the kids were outside.

Then two days ago - out of nowhere the two dogs came out of the woods and attacked my dog and me. I was driving on my driveway and I tried to get my dog into the car when the bog dog turned on me again. I managed to get the card door between us and my dog jumped in. I slammed the door and we sat shaking waiting for some one to call off these dogs. I called hubby and he went to get his gun. the dogs left. I went home an hour went by. No sign of the dogs we figured it had to be over they knew the dogs had attacked us again. So I left to get my kids and sure enough - there were the d*** dogs again. This time hubby shot at the ground at their feet to scare them away. Called police. AGAIN.

When the call goes out as domestic disturbance shots fired you get police! LOL!! Luckily it is really a small town and we got the very same officer who had told hubby to get a gun in the first place. We followed dispatchers' directions the gun was unloaded and out in clear sight when the police arrived. They told us we had been more than patient with this situation and told hubby to reload and learn to be a better shot!

Its been two days now. I still can't walk my property. I am afraid to let the kids run outside without one of us standing guard. I was taking the trash down today and rustling in the trees gave me a heart attack.

How do we move on? How do we come down off of permanent alert? I reeeaaally don't like the whole gun thing. I also don't want this dog put down I want to beat the owner senseless.....

The police called animal control twice already, what was able to be done legally has been done, and so far it has not included removing the dogs....

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J.S.

answers from Jacksonville on

Ok, I agree with the cops. Next time, shoot the damn dog. I am a dog lover to the core, but people come before aggressive dogs.

In the mean time, since you are not comfortable with a gun, get yourself a can of mace. Or if you have a strong oven cleaner that will work too. Just remember if the wind is blowing you gotta be careful. Carry your cell phone too, if the dogs trap you in the car again, call the cops.

I have to say I am astounded that the dogs have not be destroyed already. I would seriously be researching the laws in your state on this and see if the police department is just not wanting to be bothered by it.

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E.D.

answers from Seattle on

No more warning shots. These dogs won't stop attacking you and your dog. If they get to your children they'll attack your children too.

They've been *trained* to be fighting dogs / attack dogs. See, by NOT training a dog, we still train behaviors into them. By allowing aggression, we're training them to be aggressive. These dogs never had a job or found their proper rank in their "pack". I've met a lot of poorly trained or semi aggressive dogs who HAVE been retrained into fantastic and safe animals. But I've never met an attack dog or prof. fighting dogs to recover. They'll go for blood. Every time. It's wired into them.

How do you move on? The dogs die. I hate it too and it's not fair because it's not the dogs fault. But the dogs are not going to just one day up and change. Not even with the most strict training program. It's a done deal. Your neighbors screwed up those dogs to the point where your life, and your children's, is at risk. That's serious. You're afraid because you should be afraid, yah know?

I really, really hope the owners don't re-home these dogs. Because they are dangerous now. Permanently. To hand them off would be potentially devastating because their next owners won't be ready when suddenly the dogs are going after their kids. They won't be prepared.

Do what you need to and make sure those dogs are put out of their misery (a dog without a job is an unhappy job - a dog desires to know it's place and duty). Your not doing anyone a favor by keeping them alive. Someone is going to get very, very badly hurt by them if they are not put down.

Good luck and big hugs.

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G.T.

answers from Redding on

Wow. That is just crazy! I would be SO pissed off!
I'd hound the cops and animal control until someone assures you that something has been done to permanently stop this problem.
I'd send a registered letter to your neighbor if you can't talk to them civilly about this letting them know that you are going to sue them for your angst. Are there no leash laws in your area? I would document everything and get some sort of webcam that you can vid these episodes with, and sue for "suffering". I think you would win if the judge saw a good vid of them running freely on your property. The dogs sound a bit vicious, I would not have a problem shooting them due to that, but I know that you will have repercussions from the neighbors to deal with as well and that is the scary part. Killing a dog because it has crappy owners pretty much sucks too.
Let us know how this results.
You have to make a stand one way or another. I would refuse to be a prisoner in my own home or car. You also have the bus driver as a witness.

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M.H.

answers from Atlanta on

S., I think you've been more than patient. I understand you wanting to strangle the owners but they are NOT going to do anything. I agree with the police. You or your husband need to take the dogs down. If a man was on your property messing with your kids you would absolutely take care of the issue. I LOVE dogs. I hate that this is happening but as soon as one of your children is lying on the ground bleeding, or worse, you'll be beating yourself.

My husband was attacked in town (we have leash laws) by a pit bull a few months ago. The dog was in the home and actually flew through the locked glass storm door and attacked my husband that was in the street. I wish my husband had had a gun. Fortunately he is big enough that he was able to wrestle the dog down. My husband came out bloody but no broken bones. If it had attacked me or one of the kids, we would have been dead.

The are not just pets, these are viscious dogs. Your family comes first.

My two cents...
M.

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B.H.

answers from Dallas on

Couldn't you get an attorney and sue them in civil court? If the sherriff can't do anything, maybe the threat of a lawsuit might.

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J.C.

answers from Anchorage on

The dog bit you, legally you can have it put down, and at this point that really may be your best option.

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M.M.

answers from Washington DC on

Keep calling the police. Be the squeaky wheel but remember to always keep your pup under control, that way they cant' retaliate with police if your dog goes after theirs, not that it would.
And let hubby shoot it. This dog is dangerous to you and your kids.

In our community if a stray animal comes onto our property we are allowed to shoot. THey are considered nuisances, stray dogs, coyotes, foxes, rabbits, coons, and skunks.

I;m a dog lover and rescue strays but would never put my family in danger for a dog.

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L._.

answers from San Diego on

I'm sorry. This dog DOES need to be put down. I don't believe any dog needs to live after biting someone like he bit you. There's a difference between a BITE and a nip.

I think you should sue your neighbors for emotional damages!

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E.M.

answers from Phoenix on

The dogs are dangerous. It breaks my heart, but they need to be put down. Have you called animal control, ASPCA, Humane Society? Tell them that the dogs are being neglected and have become a danger to you, your children, and your dog, and that it would be much more humane to put them down than to shoot them. Don't get me wrong- if you are protecting your family and need to shoot them, so be it. That tragic consequence would be on the owners, not you.

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3.B.

answers from Cleveland on

I can't believe this! You should NOT be afraid on your own property. I am an animal lover, but I tell you what, these dogs came after me or my kids, I guess shooting them would be an option. Although I'd have a hard time doing it myself. KEEP calling the police, call the APL. Something's gotta be done. GOOD LUCK

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K..

answers from Phoenix on

I think you need to call animal control. I'm surprised you've put up with it for this long. I'm sorry, but if a dog is that threatening, my bleeding heart goes out the window.

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M.B.

answers from Washington DC on

In an area where I grew up, those dogs would be put down. AND any owner that cared for ANYone would volunteer to have the dogs put down (because, obviously, training them is something they won't do). I'm a BIG animal lover and DON'T just suggest a dog be put down in any situation, of course. I hope their owners paid your hospital bill... and anything else that has been effecting you all. What a TERRIBLE situation. Those dogs need to GO, and those owners are AWFUL.

Mama Lucky... did you NOT get an idea about how large their property is? A fence is entirely OUT of the question! And she should not fork out any money on a problem she didn't create!!!

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C.B.

answers from Kansas City on

shoot the dog. then call your local media. then sue the city for allowing the dogs to live let alone stay at those peoples' house. then sue the neighbors for medical bills.

FRIGGIN RIDICULOUS. dogs would be LONG DEAD if it was me.

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D.B.

answers from Charlotte on

Can you sue these people? Their dog bit you and you ended up in the ER. Why can't you sue for the dogs to be put down? Maybe I don't know the laws, but I don't know why you can't take them to court.

Please ask a lawyer what to do here. You need to know your options and your rights.

Dawn

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L.A.

answers from Denver on

I would guess you need to take it further than the police. Maybe go to the chief. If it is a small town, take in to the mayor. Take video of what you are going through. Ask them if they would want to go through that. How horrible!!!!
You know if you shoot that dog it will totally be your fault and the owners will go balistic. Definitely get video!!!! Dont you just want to strangle the owners? It is too bad you cant put the dogs in your car and oooooopsie drop them off at a shelter far far away. I am so sorry you are going through this!

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E.M.

answers from Honolulu on

I suggest you write a few good obituaries for you kids and you as it is quite obvious that you will choose the dogs life over that of anyone else.

Seriously, you want this dog to live? You want to live under the constant threat of this? You are risking your kids getting a traumatic stress disorder that will cripple them for life over a "poor" dog that seems like it would only fit in on a dog fighting circut? (you should google dog fighting if you want to see how they treat the dogs in those!)

I am just flabbergasted that you think this dog is worth it.

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❤.M.

answers from Los Angeles on

I am so sorry. I feel for you!
Hmmm Can you build a fence around a certain area so you can safely
let you kids play outside?
I know it's an expense but......I think your safety is worth it.
I can't believe the police officer said that but obviously that dog is a
danger
Don't let your kids out of your sight.
I say: fence, pepper spray, call animal control, gun, taser gun etc!

I'm sorry I don't have more to offer. Good luck & be safe!!!

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