Does Your Husband Go to Church with You?

My husband does not go, he does not believe and it breaks my heart. What a fool I was to think I could change him.

Yes. I could not have married someone, who does not share the same beliefs as me. It's too important to my life.

Yes and if he didn't, we probably wouldn't still be together! I can't tell you how many times I've been just done with him, the realtionship, the whole thing. It seemes doomed, pointless, lets call the whole thing off! and then we go to church on Sunday morning and it all melts away. At some point during service we will sing a touching song and his arm slips around me and then it seems like pastor will end up speaking on just what we needed to hear. I always start my prayers with gratitude, thanking God for my family, so praying and being grateful for the big lug will generally soften my heart toward him. We are living proof of the family that prays togeher stays together.

It's also good that our kids see us all going to church as a family. They have the structure and background that it's a family affair, so, I am hoping they will give thier kids the same thing. So, maybe I'm doing this for my future grandkids too. They are all free to choose of course, but if you're going to rebel, you have to have something to rebel against!

I wish I could find a group like that. None exist around here b/c it is a much smaller town. I was actually raised atheist but I have had an off and on interest in church my whole life. Including going to Catholic church with friends for years at a time when I was in high school and college. I eventually realized Catholicism was not for me and it has been years since I went to any church.

In the meantime I met and married my husband, who was forced to go to church as a child/teenager and hated every minute of it. He knows I used to go to Mass but when we married it was with the understanding that neither one of us was religious.

Well now I have started to fell that pull to start exploring different churches again. I think Episcopal or Unitarian might be a great fit for me. But I will either be going alone, or not at all. I love my husband and I give him credit - he has said that he will go "if that's what i REALLY want" and "if it really means THAT much to me" but he literally looks nauseated when he says it so I'd rather not drag him along.

My mom has expressed an interest in doing "church on the beach" together but she lives 30-45 minutes away so that's quite a production just to go to a church service, and I work FT so i don't really want to take all that time away from my son on a Sunday morning. So a ladies church group like the one you describe would really fit my bill.

I wish my husband just had some spiritual curiosity....that is all that's going on with me, I'm not a big time believer or anything, I just find it nice to go a to a service every now and again....but my husband has this (kind of childish IMHO) opinion that "it's all BS" and just has no interest. Sigh.

Yes, we go to church together as a family. I believe in: Families that pray and play together stay together.

Yes, I take my boys to church by myself 90% of the time. My husband attends on major holidays, baptisms (of our children, relatives, close friends), programs, special services. He does not typically go on a "regular" Sunday.

I had to LOL at the DDD acronym! My husband is Jewish so he doesn't come to church with the kids and me (he is welcome to but chooses not to). I always wonder if people who don't know us think I'm a single mother or something but figure that the wedding ring answers that question. I do admire families who worship together and sometimes pine for that, but that's not what I chose when I got married so oh well!

I mainly attend by myself but my husband will come maybe once a month. It was like that growing up though too. my Mom was the only one who came unless it was a special occassion like us reading at church. Even Christmas and Easter didn't warrant my Dad coming. Anyway, these days my husband uses the excuse of watching our daughter because he wants me to make sure I get my time with God (he knows the importance of it to me). I don't mind but sometimes there is a message that I think he could've used and since our church is so small, they don't post the sermon on line or anything like that.

For a while I went alone and even joined the appropriate couples Sunday school class. My husband came twice and both times something happened that turned him off from the class.

So finally, I told him I would give up going to Sunday school if he came with me and went to service.

He agreed and so we take the children to Sunday school...we then go sit at a table in a cafe area and work on a Bible study. Then we go to service as a family.

It took a lot of compromise (on my part...I love the social aspect of Sunday school)...but instead I have joined MOPS and a ladies Bible study to meet those needs of mine. My husband is content to just go to service.

For about 10 years, he did not. He worked on Sundays and was unable. When we became Lutheran, he arranged with the Pastor to meet him privately midweek and receive Holy Communion.
Now the he is off on Sundays (FINALLY!! after many many years) we all go together. There are a few ladies in our small church that attend without their spouses. One's spouse doesn't pursue religion, but does not object to his wife and daughter being very actively involved, and he does things around the church and supports the church's activities (she hosts potlucks at her house regularly and he runs the grill for us, lol). We have two other ladies who are widows (one for many years, one for only about 4 years). And we have one lady whose husband comes sometimes, but often is working on Sundays. Before his current job, he came all the time.

I feel sad for the women who come alone. I don't pity them, but I know it is hard for them. I sometimes feel a bit self-conscious when my husband puts his arm around me during the sermon.
I think it is great that your church has a system of ladies helping each other out when their spouses don't participate or they are widowed. That is part of what the church family is all about. :) I think it might be a tad odd if they kept to themselves (their group) and didn't associate with other members of the congregation, though. But it sounds like you have quite a large congregation, so it may not be a big deal.

Yes, we all go together! Unless of course my husband is out of town =) I've never really heard of a group like that but our church is on the smaller side. I think it's great though that they have a support group but find it a little odd that they all sit together!

Yes, I go alone to church with my daughter. While my husband is a Christian and was Baptized when our daughter was baptized, he really sees no reason to go to a church. God can be worshipped anywhere, not just in a building. He also doesn't like how churches hit you up for money and all of the time donating/volunteering they want you to do. I'm basically attending church at the moment because my daughter is in pre-Confirmation. Once she's confirmed, I doubt we'll attend church much. She and I would much rather attend a spiritual church we've discovered; we get a lot more out of it.

My ex never went to church. He was in one twice since I knew him. Once for our daughters christening and once for my daugher communion. Though he grew up in south america where he said he saw alot injusted done by the church. We have a decent amount of men in our church but woman are still the majority. Not to many younger men though.

My husband and I were both raised Catholics. We were married in the Catholic church, but I was the regular church-goer up until we were married, then we BOTH attended church weekly and were pretty involved in church activities. We both became saved Christians together and then later left the Catholic church (about 5 years ago). We now belong to a non-denominational Christian church and yes, we are there EVERY week without fail, along with our 12 year old daughter. He is a Deacon and I'm involved in other ministries.

I realize I am very blessed to have a husband who puts God first and, therefore, takes his job as head of our household very seriously. We'll be married 20 years next year and we both consider ourselves happily married. I do not think it's an accident. We're raising our daughter to find a husband who is similar to my husband. We're praying that God is preparing a husband who loves the Lord like her father does. I don't know how people get through tough times when the husband and wife aren't on the same page spiritually. I'm so sad for those marriages.

My husband and I attend church together every Sunday for worship and Tuesday night for Bible Study.

Yes. We are very involved at our church. When we were dating this was at the top of our lists for what to look for in a future companion. We know our faith strengthens ourselves, our marriage and our family. It is a very unifying factor.

My heart aches for the women(and men) who go alone and want desperately to have their special someone by their side. My mom and sister are among that throng. I personally try to reach out to "single" ladies at church and try NOT to make conversations all about family or spouses. It can sting deeply so we need to be aware and understanding.

We have many activities and functions geared toward single persons so they have a support group and fun events to attend together.

The "single" group is growing and the "singles" pews are filling up because so many are divorcing passing away or spouses are choosing entertainment and work over Sabbath day worship.

Good luck and best wishes!

I responded to a post today http://www.mamapedia.com/questions/2146759873768128513

and while responding I was wondering the same question.

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Added: I don't think it was it is a real situation going on.

we started going a year ago. i stayed away from church for a decade. he wasn't a big churchgoer and as catholics we don't agree with a lot of things catholic church preaches. but we are not willing to change religions. we believe you are what you were born into. a year ago we started going because our kids go to a catholic school and started asking questions. i like going to church now, i get to sit next to my husband, hold hands. we are at peace with ourselves. we still don't agree with everything and never will but we want to be in that building at least once a week to take the time to reflect. pray.

Yes, he does now but he didn't always and I wanted to share my story. My husband was baptized as a baby Catholic but as a teenager had a lot of questions and instead of getting answers he was told basically that he was being smart-mouthed. When he got too big for his mother to force him to go- she would call male friends over to phycially drag him to church. He wasn't going for the love of the Lord, he was just going becaust he had to. So as as an adult he was not fond of the idea of going- understandably so. I converted to Catholic as an adult when we were not together and we were married in the Catholic church mainly because he knew that his mom and I both wanted it that way. As a young married couple we went to church spuraticly but never really found our grove and when it came time to baptize our daughter we were not really going at all and my husband was having a really hard time swallowing the scandal going on in the Catholic church with the clergy and little boys. I knew he wasn't going to go back but I still wanted to so for a while I didn't go but sulked about it because I wanted us to go as a family- then I realized that sulking wasn't helping and I needed to go for me and my kids and to set an example. So I found an Episcopal church that I liked and started going- never once naging my husband to come becuase I wanted him to come for the right reasons. Every Sunday I sat in that pew and asked God to send the Holy Spirit on to my husband. Six months after I started going he followed and that was a year ago and we are both involved now.