I will come at this from my perspective as the wife to a very brilliant physician, who also happens to have tremendous people and management skills--a great trifecta. My husband loves having his ego stroked, but I am not one to do that unless he is feeling blue. I try to be his counterbalance to all the flattery he receives at work, not because I don't think the WORLD of him and his talents, but because I understand the virtue of humility.
I oftentimes remind him that he'd have NOTHING if it weren't for God blessing him with his talents, for giving him the parents who helped nurture his skillset, for his uncle who guided his parents when they immigrated to the US from a war-torn nation, for the amazing school he went to when he came to the US, for the tutor his church sent to his house every day to teach his sister and him English, etc. You can acknowledge your talents if you can remember to give credit where credit is due. My husband would be NOTHING if it weren't for the gifts God gave him. He is well compensated for what he does, and we make sure that he gives back as much as we can of the blessings bestowed upon us.
As for me, I feel average. I did go to a great school and graduated Magna Cum Laude, and was lucky enough to get a student teaching position at one of the top high schools in the country. I'm not using my education in an employed capacity right now. I am at home with my 3 boys, with another on the way. Believe me, there is VERY little validation and acknowledgement when you're home all day, hubby's working 95% of the week, and the kids are always asking for MORE--more time playing with them; a different meal than the one you've just spent an hour making; more toys, etc...It is something I just have to suck up and deal with. Whether I am a professional or just doing my best to be the best SAHM I can be, I try not to worry about the validation. Sure, it'd feel great to hear the appreciation more often, but that's not what motivates me.
My sister has 2 children and has taken the reins of her in-laws' family business, which happens to be the childcare industry. She had a degree in finance and marketing, was making TONS of money at a hedge fund, but didn't feel fulfilled by it, at all. She has since gone on to get her Master's in Early Childhood Administration, has vastly improved the curriculum, employee standards, facilities and procedures at the daycare centers. She has received awards for her efforts, obtained multiple grants for improvements, etc.... You know what? If it weren't for the fact that her family's livelihood and that of all their employees was riding on her back, she'd give it all up for a chance to spend more time with her kids. Awards and accolades really don't amount to much in the grand scheme of things.