Do I Let Her Go with Daddy?

Just want to say that first off, you are one of the lucky few who has a husband willing to make that offer. LOL I know how hard it is to let go though especially at this age when they are so dependent on you still. My husband recently made me a similar offer to watch our son by himself for a couple of days while I took a weekend trip to new york but I was way to scarred to go. Although he is a wonderful father I was just so nervous because I felt like he didnt and doesnt know our son like I do. And Im sure that is the case with most families. Especially if your a stay at home mom, you know every inch and mood of your child so of course no-one could care for them as good as you. I look back now though and wish I would have gone on that trip. I worry that my son may one day become too dependent on me and not be able to go with anyone else, even for a few hours. Plus I think it would have been a great bonding experience for my husband and son. If your husband is going to have help with the baby then it could work out well for the both of you. Even though they may not do things how you would do them, im sure between the three of them they can handle the job. :)

Of course you should have him follow through on his offer!!! (I'm purposely not saying to "let him" take her... it shouldn't be a question of permission, she's his daughter, too!)
I'm always amazed and proud at my DH's relationship with our daughter. (She's 22 months) Early on, I realized how important it was to have the different parenting styles and how important it is to keep my mouth shut when he wants to do things differently. At this age, your DD knows that you do things differently and will accept the changes in routine, etc... between you, dad, and grandparents!
Once they are gone, enjoy your time with your mom! Call once or twice-- as you arrange, but it is important, too that you get "time off" and rejuvenate yourself and your relationship with your Mom!!!
Good luck to DH! (A 4.5 hour car trip could be challenging, but the only way for him to find that out is to do it!)
T.

Hello,

I think being away from your daughter is what might be bothering you and not the fact of whether or not your husband can handle it.
i understand....I would not want to be away from my daughter for that LONG either.

If that the case let your husband know that you would miss her too much and if thats not the case then you should let you husband take her....he will handle it better htan you think he can.

You can always communicate by phone and its still in the state of Florida so they wont be that far away.

Good luck....i hope it all works out well,
S.

I know where you are coming from and would probably be asking myself the same question. It's hard to let go, but you have to have a bit of faith in daddy that he will look out for what is best for her and discipline her the way she needs to be, as well as making sure that his parents don't undermine. I know it's hard to give up control to the daddy (TRUST ME I KNOW) because I am constantly looking over my fiance's shoulder (as I have been since our daughter was born) because I was the one who read all the books, I was the one who knew the "right" way to do things, but as I learned to let go (a little!) I realized he does just as good a job as I do, even if he doesn't do things the way I do.

Let them go. It is good for dads and their children to have time alone. You say his parents don't know her likes/dislikes & routines - but that is obviously only because they live 4 1/2 hours away. They would probably see more of her if they lived closer. It will work out. When your husband and daughter are alone, they probably have a whole different relationship than when you are with them. And always remember, just because he does things differently than you doesn't make his way wrong (sometimes that's a hard thing to remember).

It's hard to let her go, especially if it's the first time and it's so far away, but I think you'll find it good for you, your husband, and your daughter. The first time my husband took my daughter alone, he had to drive back home from Wisconsin to North Carolina because I has to fly home for a job. This was a 16-18 hour drive, and let me tell you that I sweated it out.
It all turned out fine though, and to this day my daughter and her father love to travel together. If you are truly worried about the trip, create an activity pack for him to take for her to play with......toys and books that she can see in the car, and tapes of tv shows and music that she likes to listen to. If you don't have a DVD player or tape player for the car, you might consider calling around to see if you can borrow or rent one for the trip. You can send favorite movies and shows, and also make a tape of you talking to her to put in the system.
Call your in-laws ahead of time and explain some of the little things that you do to help create harmony in your home when there's a problem.....make sure that they understand that you know they're good parents/ grandparents but that since they saw her last she has changed behaviors and you've changed how you deal with it, as a heads up to them.
Finally, relax. Even if she's not happy for a little while, she needs that time with her dad and her grandparents. She'll be fine and so will you. If you're really stressed at any time, call just to check on everything....but make sure that you don't call all the time. You'll stress everyone out!