J.
Hi A.,
I feel for you having a child with an allergy. I have two allergy free children (knock on wood, that could change as they get older). But I have two dear neighbor friends who's children have allergies. One has a milk/gluten allergy the other nuts. Now when they come to my house they send snacks for them. At birthday parties they send food and a treat.
My son just had his 6th birthday and both children where at his party, one is 3 years old the other is 5. Both mothers stayed at the party, period. I had way to much going on to monitor their child and what they are eating. You can not put the responsibility on another parent who is throwing a party and has a ton of other obligations. I feel for you big time, don't get me wrong. But seriously, I would not have noticed at the party this past Saturday if either of these kids had put something in their mouth that they were not suppose to have. I asked both parents to stay for this purpose, as if something would have gone wrong, I'd feel horrible. So I take it off of my shoulders and put it back on theirs where it belongs.
Next time bring the pizza to the party, heat it up in their oven. So you won't be leaving the party. When you child is old enough to really know what she can and can't have, then you can start doing the drop off parties, until then, you need to stick with your kid for safety reasons.
All I would say to the neighbor is thank you so much for inviting _______ (your child's name) and leave it at that. Next time you know that you need to stay for the party. JMHOP.
Good Luck!
J. in Macomb