Did You Ever Get Depressed Really Easy in the 5-6 Month of Pregnancy?

When he hangs out with his friends, is he going to places that are smokey or may not be great for you? My husband did that during my last pg and when I asked him it was because he said he knew my sense of smell was going bonkers and he knew I wouldn't want to be hanging out with his coworkers in a smokey bar. I would just ask him. My hubby didn't realize he was being rude until he saw how upset it made me. Best of luck to you, Jen
BTW, I was severely depressed and had to be on meds almost my whole pg. You may want to ask your doctor. I know it's easy just to say "it's my hormones", but that doesn't dismiss the fact that you are hurt. So talking about it will help.

I went thru, and am going thru the same exact thing. And it seems to me that my fiance goes out more when I "can't" go. I say can't b/c he goes to play pool on a league two nights a week, and they often play in a bar full of smoke. Smoke has always bothered me, so now that I'm pregnant, it bothers me a lot more, plus I know it's just not good for me to be breathing in, especially while I'm pregnant. And I'm not that interested in pool myself, so I would be bored anyway. And if he goes out with friends I tend to feel left out, b/c I'm not "one of the guys" and they talk about work or people they know thru work, things that I really can't get inviolved in the conversation. Not to mention that I get tired very early...I could literally go to bed at 9:30 and fall asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow, and being out and doing stuff makes me tired very quickly - I'm at that point in the preganacy! But I do get upset when he chooses to go out rather than stay home with me. So what I've done is one night a week, I have dinner with my best friend. Then I'm not stuck at home dwelling on the fact that I'm sitting at home by myself yet again. And after this baby is born, my fiance is only playing pool one night a week. And we both need our "me time" so I'll probably make my dinner night on a night that he is home so he can stay with both babies and then he'll have his night and I'll stay with both babies. We almost always go out for lunch as a family on Sundays. Perhaps to help counteract the negative feelings you're having now, you could plan a night each week that the two of you go do something together, even if it's just going for a walk after dinner.

Hi P.! It is normal to feel more sensittive during and after pregnancy because of the increased hormone production. However, you should find a good time when you are calm and try to talk to your husband about what is bothering you. You can still go out and enjoy a drink just without the alcohol. Maybe your husband is spending more time with his friends now thinking that once the baby is here, he won't be able to do it very often (which is true). Don't try to guess his actions, just talk to him. Maybe it would also be good to set up an outing once a week just for the two of you. A baby brings many changes in your life and one of them is not beeing able to enjoy romantic dinners for a long time. So try to get out as much as possible now and have a good time. Good luck!
D. T.

I'd be willing to bet there is a tiny bit of truth and a lot of hormones in play here. I have 2 kids and both pregnancies I cried over everything. EVERYTHING! I actually had to quit my job over the first one because I couldn't handle it anymore. I used to work well under pressure, but I was having a hard time answering the phone and I thought everyone was yelling at me.

Hang im there...the wait is worth it all!

EVERYTHING made me cry when I was pregnant! Don't worry - this too shall pass. It will probably happen again after the baby is born, known as "The Baby Blues." I got it pretty bad but it should only last a few weeks at most. You could always ask your doctor for peace of mind though. It's better safe than sorry. Hope this helps, and I hope you feel better soon!

I was terribly sick the first 5 months. I'd say right around 5 months and up I became super duper emotional and had my crying spurts too. I felt the same way, my fiance was out with his friends or even working late at night (because he's military), I used to think the worst things were going on and it was pure jealousy but I know my hormones were raging and off the wall. The best thing to do is talk to him! tell him how you feel and that even if it is hormones, he needs to get used to being at home and having more family time anyways. Its a whole new world on the other side and he wont have his freedom as much as he does. Simply put, you need the emotional support around the clock- even if your ok for an hour, it comes in spurts and out of no where- you'll need him. Your husband needs to understand that this is the course your body (and hormones) are taking and this is part of a team effort.

Dear P.,
When I was pregnant, I went from being a level-headed, independent woman to an emotional, clingy, volatile person.(I did not realize this at the time.) I would think that my husband didn't want to show me off to his friends. I would cry at practically anything. I was also so fatigued and full of nausea that I was no fun anyway. I started to get worried my husband wasn't going to be around after the baby was born. All of this was of course nonsense. I was very emotional and clingy after my son was born also. This rollercoaster of emotion and hormones will level off eventually!! Good luck and congats. K.

Girl, most of that is probably hormones. Every woman, including myself, gets emotional during their pregnancy. It seems like everything gets to them. Just try to find ways to manager it and hang it in. Explain to your husband that you're just emotional and struggling w/ being pregnant and make sure he understands that you're not meaning to take it out on him. It will get better, I promise!

i know when i reached 5-6 mo with my first i felt this way part of it was i was super skinny before i got pregnant and when he would go to things and not invite me at that point i thought it was because i was fat after talking to him he said he reason was he knew i didnt like being in smoky places and most of his friends were child free and smoked in their homes i simply let him know at that point in time i needed to be invited or maybe he could invite his friends to our home instead

I don't think you are depressed because you are pregnant. You are depressed because you feel like you are alone. I am sorry but I think your husband is being very selfish during this time that should be a joyous time for both of you. My husband and I both are against going out without each other. Many people view this as being unhealthy. It is not. He goes camping with the men at our church. He goes to Men's conference's for Church! He has his alone time in prayer during the day and he goes to lunch with his friends at times. Business trips are mostly with me and once in awhile without me.It depends on the amount of time we will be separate. Men need sex every 72 hours, therefore if it is more than a three day travel I will go with him so that we can have our time of union together. No, we are not wierd, we do our best to protect our marriage. Your marriage is a sacred vow and the best way to protect it is to serve God and take care of each other. Why get married if you still want the single life. It is very important to have friends but we try to have friends that like the same things we do and have the same beliefs we have therefore all of our friends do most things with eachother. My husband and I hang out together, We bike ride together, go to church together, go to dinner together or with friends. We have many friends that do the same things we do together as a couple.
You need your husband during this time. This is the type of stuff that destroy a marriage. Even though there is no intent to do anything wrong it opens doors for temptation. Please understand that you and your husband will have your relationship as you want it to be (I am not trying to be negative, I am telling you that you need each other). I have seen many relationships break up because their is too much freedom for one or the other. The one staying home feels all the pain. It is not a fair thing for you to be home alone while he is out enjoying his life. I will pray for you and your husband. You two really do need each other right now for support. Having a baby is a wonderful gift from God and you both should be enjoying this time together.
Very sincerely,
L. Jacobs

I agree with most everyone that it's probably hormones and reality playing a part here and you should talk to him.

But, my main reason for responding was to emphasize that if you think you're overly depressed or may have actual depression please talk to your OB/midwife, regular MD, etc. I was severely depressed during most of my pregnancy for several reasons. I thought it would be better after my son got here, but apparently I had full blown post partum depression (it can start during pregnancy, apparently). I wasn't able to get treatment due to lack of insurance, so I suffered with it until my son was about 11 months old....that's way too long and I hate that I didn't truly get to enjoy his infancy like I should have.
The moral is: it never hurts to talk to someone if you think you may be depressed. Your health care provider would want to know what you're going through and it may give you peace of mind to know if it's normal or not.
Good luck and congratulations on the baby!!!!!

I'm 23 weeks and have been feeling the same way. I talked to my obgyn about it at my last appointment. She said that it is normal but if you start thinking about hurting yourself or if it gets worse to contact her.

It's hormones. They are racing through your body. With all the changes and growth, you probably feel a little out of control. This is a good time during pregnancy since you can eat again and you're not as big as you will be. Try to enjoy it and when he does do something with you have a great time. Don't let the little things get you down.

Hi P.,

Wow yeah I remember the hormones and yes they are intense however I think that even if you weren't pregnant that your husbands inconciderate acts would upset you as I went through something like that WAY before getting pregnant I can assure you I could've put out fires with tears. I would advise you to have a serious talk with your hubby and make it clear that you don't need this stress right now or ever be kind and firm try not to get to emotional and maybe suggest he has his friends over rather than him going out all the time ...time for him to grow up with a baby on the way. And as a suggestion to you sweetie get yourself to the movies; water parks,"Lazy rivers are ok" do what you can now as once you have that little one your not going to get out much TRUST ME!!!!!!!!!!!! Good luck to you...if you need someone to talk to my email is ____@____.com

It's pretty common to be emotional when you're pregnant. I remember crying because my husband wasn't home or because someone didn't call me back, etc. If it's really bothering you, I'd talk to your OB/GYN about it. I know depression in pregnancy is different than mood swings.